WWPAIFD Re: Nanny? (sorry, kinda long)
TJ1979
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So MH and I found a nanny that we were very happy with. The price was reasonable, her experience was great, her interview went perfectly. We left the interview telling her to send her references, and if they all checked out we would be interested in making her an offer. We also agreed she would come by last Friday (the 22nd) to see the house and meet the dogs and make sure that was all going to be okay. (The interview took place last Saturday - the 16th.) Well, we didn't hear from her until Sunday (the 23rd) and she did not respond to a phone call, text message, or email. When she emailed us on Sunday, she apologized for not responding sooner, but said she had to suddenly leave town because her grandfather was ill.
Do we give up on what we thought was the perfect nanny because she might be unreliable? How hard would it have been to send a quick text saying that she had a family emergency and would contact us soon? During the interview she told us that flakey people were one of her pet peeves, and she thought the most important tool for a parent/nanny relationship was communication. And yet, she did not communicate whatsoever.
Or do we believe that she had a family emergency, did not have time to contact us, and give her a second chance? This is my daughter, I need to feel comfortable with whoever is taking care of her. But we haven't found any nannies even close to as great as she seemed. What would you do?
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
Re: WWPAIFD Re: Nanny? (sorry, kinda long)
Hmm, that's a tough one. It's a bit concerning that she didn't have time to send a quick txt to you while she had to go away suddenly, but if you really like her, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt - maybe she completely forgot to get back to you due to her grandfather's illness.
Have you received her references yet? If it were me, I'd contact the people on the references and ask them specifically about this - whether she has ever not responded in time to them. If the references all check out good, then I'd have a plain discussion with the nanny telling her how you were concerned about her lack of response that one time, and said you will not accept similar behavior in the future. GL!
Failed multiple cycles of Clomid+TI and Clomid+IUI
3/2011 inj+IUI #1 BFP. 4/2011 missed m/c.
Fall 2011 inj+IUI #2&3 BFN
Jan/Feb 2012 IVF#1 BFP 2/23 EDD 10/31/2012 ~~~ Halloween ~~~
Our IVF miracle, Baby Boy M, arrived on 11/8/2012!
Honestly, it would be a red flag for me. But, we were interviewing nannies and found one we liked and were even discussing contract with her and she flaked on us (acted interested, but apparently really wasn't).
But, I do like pp's suggestion of discussing this situation with her references and bringing up your concerns with her. Depending on the responses you receive and your gut sense (I think this is very important!), you can then decide how to proceed.
***Twin fraternal girls born at 35w6d in 12/2008***
this would be my suggestion! good luck
TTC since 2005
missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
3 failed femara iui cycles-
moving on to IVF oct 2011
ER nov. 7th
tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
lots of +hpt!!
beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
another miscarriage 12/23
moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
ET 4/28 3 transfered
Beta #1- 356
Beta #2- 870
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!