Baby drama already lol

posvane · June 2012

So, DH and I haven't told anyone yet. We actually plan on doing it tonight - parents. This Sunday MIl and SIL got home from a cruise and SIL announced that she and her BF were going to get married next year (this time) in Bermuda.

The plan is to cruise there with small group of family, marry, and come home after a week's vaca.

SIL then said, "The thing is babies under 6 months can't be on the boat. And pregnant woman over 24 weeks can't. You're not pregnant, are you?!"

DH and I suspected I was pregnant during this conversation (actually got my BFP yesterday) and the look on our faces was probably hysterical.

So, I can only imagine what's going to happen now. It's not like anything is going to change. Hopefully, *** doesn't hit the fan when we tell everyone we are pregnant.

Does anyone else have any baby drama already? I hope not...

kelly321 · June 2012

Well it's hardly like it's your fault. If you still want to go, then you and the baby (and the rest of your family) can fly down and meet them there for the wedding and then fly back. If your sister freaks out about it, then tell her you were already pregnant when she told you, so it's not like you can change anything now.

posvane · June 2012

Oopsies... "__ hit the fan" rolled off my fingers and I got "bleeped." Blush...

CupcakeKaper · June 2012

You can't be made to feel bad about being pregnant. Things happen. If they choose to do a wedding that you can't attend, they need to be understanding of that (but at the same time, they shouldn't change their plans because of you). Sometimes those things just don't work out - I had to miss my sister's high school graduation because DS was due the same weekend. I hated missing it, but she understood.

And ya, we have baby drama too. My BIL is older than DH and has wanted kids forever. DS and I have 3 and I think BIL has a hard time with that. He has never come met DD (she's 16 months old) - and he's her godfather! He didn't even come to her baptism. FTR he lives 4 hours away. DH's sister, who lives across the country, has come out twice to see DD. Anyway, now BIL's wife is pregnant and he is expecting the world to stop moving for him because he's going to be a daddy. He wants us to come up and see his new baby as soon as it's born...DH told him that we are not travelling up there with 3 kids when he couldn't bother to come see us with no kids. Not to mention I'll be 7 months pregnant (not that I couldn't travel like that, I've done it before, but we are totally playing that card). Oh...and DH is so hurt that his brother hasn't come to see his daughter that we haven't even told him we are pregnant again. He's the last one in our family to know and he won't know until the general public finds out on FB. Ya, we are totally spiteful like that.

posvane · June 2012

CupcakeKaper:
You can't be made to feel bad about being pregnant. Things happen. If they choose to do a wedding that you can't attend, they need to be understanding of that (but at the same time, they shouldn't change their plans because of you). Sometimes those things just don't work out - I had to miss my sister's high school graduation because DS was due the same weekend. I hated missing it, but she understood.
And ya, we have baby drama too. My BIL is older than DH and has wanted kids forever. DS and I have 3 and I think BIL has a hard time with that. He has never come met DD (she's 16 months old) - and he's her godfather! He didn't even come to her baptism. FTR he lives 4 hours away. DH's sister, who lives across the country, has come out twice to see DD. Anyway, now BIL's wife is pregnant and he is expecting the world to stop moving for him because he's going to be a daddy. He wants us to come up and see his new baby as soon as it's born...DH told him that we are not travelling up there with 3 kids when he couldn't bother to come see us with no kids. Not to mention I'll be 7 months pregnant (not that I couldn't travel like that, I've done it before, but we are totally playing that card). Oh...and DH is so hurt that his brother hasn't come to see his daughter that we haven't even told him we are pregnant again. He's the last one in our family to know and he won't know until the general public finds out on FB. Ya, we are totally spiteful like that.

#4?!?! I thought I was brave/nuts hehehe. Some people go pregnant crazy. They gotta give to get!

CupcakeKaper · June 2012

posvane:
CupcakeKaper:
You can't be made to feel bad about being pregnant. Things happen. If they choose to do a wedding that you can't attend, they need to be understanding of that (but at the same time, they shouldn't change their plans because of you). Sometimes those things just don't work out - I had to miss my sister's high school graduation because DS was due the same weekend. I hated missing it, but she understood.
And ya, we have baby drama too. My BIL is older than DH and has wanted kids forever. DS and I have 3 and I think BIL has a hard time with that. He has never come met DD (she's 16 months old) - and he's her godfather! He didn't even come to her baptism. FTR he lives 4 hours away. DH's sister, who lives across the country, has come out twice to see DD. Anyway, now BIL's wife is pregnant and he is expecting the world to stop moving for him because he's going to be a daddy. He wants us to come up and see his new baby as soon as it's born...DH told him that we are not travelling up there with 3 kids when he couldn't bother to come see us with no kids. Not to mention I'll be 7 months pregnant (not that I couldn't travel like that, I've done it before, but we are totally playing that card). Oh...and DH is so hurt that his brother hasn't come to see his daughter that we haven't even told him we are pregnant again. He's the last one in our family to know and he won't know until the general public finds out on FB. Ya, we are totally spiteful like that.
#4?!?! I thought I was brave/nuts hehehe. Some people go pregnant crazy. They gotta give to get!

I know, right? I grew up with 3 siblings so 4 always seemed to be the perfect number. This is the last one though!!!

Sammypride90 · June 2012

That's EXACTLY how I did my wedding!! Sorry I just thought the coincidence was crazy if she needs a wedding planner Bermuda Bride did a wonderful job with mine! By the way Congrats on your BFP hopefully you can still enjoy the wedding Paradise

LaurelBee · June 2012

I'm sure she won't be angry with you. If she is, then hopefully her bridezilla moment is fleeting!! As long as you understand she might choose this as her wedding plans still, so you can't be upset if it excludes you, kwim??

My H's oldest sister isn't talking to us. I assume it's bc she found out about our pregnancy through Mil... I'm just sitting back and waiting for her to realize that our pregnancy has absolutely nothing to do with her. It's almost laughable at how ridiculous she's being!!

eta- good luck announcing to family!!

MoreThanABride · June 2012

I have some drama, but since we haven't told anyone yet, it is all in my head. My sister is TTC and I'm afraid she'll be mad if she is still not pregnant when we tell her. Also my SIL is pregnant too and there is a big drama about DHs family needing a boy. If one of us has a boy and the other has a girl it could be drama, and if we both have boys it could be drama about hers being first. Luckily we have no control over the sex.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · June 2012

It's certainly not your fault, you had no idea they were going to get married, or choose a cruise that doesn't allow pregnant women/babies in order to do so. So, they will either have to change their plans or you won't be able to go, nothing anyone can do about that. You obv. can't expect them to change their plans, either, it's just unfortunate circumstances in regard to your ability to attend the wedding.

MSUMamaof2 · June 2012

I haven't had any drama, but I just wanted to weigh in on one of my biggest pet peeves these days......destination weddings where everyone in the family is EXPECTED to show up (and foot their own bill). If you want to elope, elope. Have a great time, take your parents. If you want a big wedding with your family, opt for something a little less inconvenient for everyone but you.

Sorry. Vent over. This has just happened to me way too many times lately.

CutieBean79 · June 2012

Oh well! Too bad your SIL can't plan everyone else's lives around her wedding. Sheesh!

BabyShipp · June 2012

I never understand why people get so mad about this kind of stuff. So they're getting married. Surely they don't expect everyone involved to block out an entire year of living so their marriage can go off without a hitch a year from now? Even if you weren't already pregnant before she announced this its not your fault shes planning this elaborate wedding so far away.

I agree with a PP about if you still can, maybe fly down for the wedding. Surely she can't expect anymore.

Don't stress over things that can't be controlled and best of luck!

dande2129 · June 2012

BabyShipp:
I never understand why people get so mad about this kind of stuff. So they're getting married. Surely they don't expect everyone involved to block out an entire year of living so their marriage can go off without a hitch a year from now? Even if you weren't already pregnant before she announced this its not your fault shes planning this elaborate wedding so far away.

Yep.

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