My MIL
is throwing me my shower; she is such a wonderful woman. We were going to have
it at our home because she is currently having all of her floors pulled up and
redone through the whole house (Spanish tile instead of carpet). I thought it would be tacky to have it at my
house but didn?t want to say anything to her because I didn?t want to be rude
or hurt her feelings. She called me earlier today told me she read in an etiquette
book that it would be tacky to have it at my house. So we decided to have it at
a restaurant so here is my question, when you have it at a restaurant do you
just order a ton of appetizers (what my mother in law would like to do) or do
we buy everyone lunch (which is what I thought we should do). I know some ladies here have had showers at
restaurants or been to one so your suggestions of what would be correct would be
great.
Thanks J
Re: Shower at a restaurant question.
Its going to be about 2pm so in between meals for sure. We are having a very nice bakery making a cake for the shower as well.
I'll address the other aspect - it's not tacky to have the shower at your home. If anything, it makes sense. You don't have to lug all these gifts back to your house. As long as it's clear you aren't hosting it, having it at your house is perfectly fine.
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I haven't had much of a hand in my shower other than picking what food I would like. The place my MIL is having it has a buffet that they can do. I think my shower is around lunch time. If I were a guest and it were around a meal time I would enjoy being able to have my brunch/lunch/dinner then.
See what the venue offers and take into account the time the shower is going to be at.
~Benjamin Franklin
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The bottom line is, the guest shouldn't leave having to pay a bill.
Set up a special menu, order for them or foot the bill for their choices, it's all the same and up to the hostess--as long as she pays at the end.
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I agree with this quote. Also, regarding food...a bunch of appetizers and drinks for everyone would be fine for a 2 pm shower.
AMEN!!! Especially for a baby shower it's not an etiquette faux pas because this way the new Mom doesn't need to be hauling gifts especially if there's any chance by then that you'd be on bedrest.
If she's set on having it at the restaurant though, I'd base the decision on what the pricing is. By the time you buy all the apps for people it oftentimes is cheaper to just order a meal then give drink tokens (one per person up to a certain amount)... It's all in what her budget is...
I've thrown several showers for friends in their own homes. While it puts more stress on them to clean, not having to lug stuff home was awesome. In each case MTB was on light bedrest, but still, it was really nice, and they got to show off the nurseries.