a must read article about ending mommy wars

Re: a must read article about ending mommy wars

• jf198400 member

  June 2012

  I know I have seen this article posted on here before and if I remember correctly, many of us were not impressed with the blogger.  I think most of us working moms own our decision to work and do not spend every waking moment plagued by mommy guilt.  Even those of us who would rather stay home (myself included) do not constantly dwell on it.  Sure I'd rather be a SAHM but I know I have to work, so I make the best of it.  I know I'm a good mom, and I don't feel guilty about working.  I would feel guilty if I didn't work b/c I wouldn't be able to provide adequetly for my children.  And honestly I don't know where the concept of mommy wars came from.  I know both WMs and SAHMs and I have never experienced them criticizing each other's choices.

  
  
  
  
  

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• NicoleWI member

  June 2012

  I saw that before and liked it a lot. 

  

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• Spenjamins

  June 2012

  I hate this article.  She pulls out every stereotype and comes off as obnoxious and whining.   I love how she spends the first 1/3 judging herself, the 2/3 stereotyping everyone and the last 1/3 judging moms who do not feel guilty or torn saying they must be liars.

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• groovygrl member

  June 2012

  I actually like this article & take all these articles w/ a grain of salt b/c they will never please everyone, there will always be someone who takes some issue w/ an author's approach (or even the fact that they approached the topic AT ALL, as evidenced by the reaction on here when the bump attempted to gather some thoughts about life as a 'working mom'...). I like this author's 'voice' and I also like her blog, momastery, which I recently discovered, she has an interesting background & takes on tough topics in some ways. Her family is a little sickeningly attractive though. haha.
  

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• groovygrl member

  June 2012

  CTGirl30:

  The thing is, I'm not "torn up about my choice". I own it. And I don't pass judgment on what the next mom (or dad) is doing. Let parents parent how they need / want to without comparing to what you are doing or making assumptions about how someone must feel about their situation.  I think THAT is the first step in ending the mommy wars.

  I'm very comfortable in my choice to work & very forward about it if it comes up. I see this article as an editorial, about her own experiences & thoughts on the subject not 'this is how ALL women should and do think/feel'. I don't really see it as projecting her thoughts on other people but saying this is how I felt in these situations, if you feel this way sometimes too don't worry, we are all doing the best thing for ourselves & our kids & shouldn't beat ourselves up about any of it.  Eh, I just don't take this stuff too much to heart, like I said, no one will ever write an article that meets the needs/thoughts of everyone.  Perhaps you & other moms feel comfortable with your decisions and how you parent but there are a lot of ppl out there who are not and who struggle & sometimes may want to see that another person felt the same way. Those people are the target audience for this, in my view.
  

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• iluvmylab member

  June 2012

  I am not torn about my choice to work. Dh and I wll be able to retire relatively young, pay for our kids college so they aren't in debt up to their eyeballs when they graduate, give them the experience of travel and seeing other cultures, live in a household where mom and dad don't argue over or stress about money, etc. Why would I feel guilty about that? I own my decision to work because it's mine and what is best for my family. And I chose a career that gives me time off to enjoy my children more.

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