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Update! (Long, sorry!)

Patches08Patches08 member
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I figured I owed an update around here, it's been a little while since I had a new post.  

Well, I had a huge visit with Mckenzie in mid May.  It included about 35 people, her adoptive grandparents, aunts & uncles, etc., and my grandparents, aunts and uncles and cousins. We had a picnic at a local park and rented a pavilion and I cooked for everyone. Most of my extended family hasn't seen Mckenzie since birth so this was their first opportunity to meet her.  

It was pretty stressful on me, even though I'm very open with my extended family and talk about Kenzie frequently, it still makes some of them feel uncomfortable and there's just nothing I can do about it.  The visit did help with this, I believe. A lot of my family opened up and seemed at ease during the visit.  I think they were expecting me to be in tears or be upset/emotional about seeing her.. They really misinterpreted the atmosphere at our visits.   

Mckenzie really took well to everyone although she did feel a little overwhelmed towards the end of the picnic when she asked me if everyone was here to see her.. But she did great and really interacted well and played.  Here's a pic from the visit, (I could barely get her to sit still for a nice picture..lol).

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On another note, my husband and I ran into Mckenzie's birthfather in April.. This was our first time talking since I found out I was pregnant (besides the few emails 5 years ago).  It was very weird and he didn't even know who I was.. Once I told him we talked a little bit about her but he didn't seem to care much.. I didn't punch him or scream at him like I thought I would.  I've been wondering when the day would come that I'd run into him somewhere.. It was at a bike race in the next town over.  I left the conversation feeling sad for Mckenzie.  I hope he gets his act together sometime.

Hubby and I are still TTC, he will be getting a SA soon and we will go from there.  But on the bright side we were in a wedding two weeks ago and we both were able to drink and I did the warrior dash last weekend, check it out!  Then later this week and weekend is Creation East - Anyone else going?

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Thanks for letting me share a little!

 

BM to Kenzie 9/1/04 --- Married 1/22/09 --- Me 27 - DH 25 --- TTC our first since April 2010 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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Re: Update! (Long, sorry!)

  • Rachel SonnierRachel Sonnier member

    Sounds like you guys have been having a blast! I'm glad most of your family decided to go to the visit. I remember you had posted a while back that they were being weird about it. 

    Thanks for the update and good luck on TTC!!  

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  • ellekaeellekae member
    Thanks for the update! I'm glad that picnic went well; sounds like Mckenzie is a pretty cool little girl. :) Good luck with TTC!

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  • jillianmbjillianmb member

    I remember your post from a while ago; thanks for the update.  I'm so glad the visit helped your family with the awkwardness concerning the adoption.  Sounds like she is an amazing little girl.

    So bummed to hear that you are still TTC with no success; hope the SA comes back clear and your belly is soon swelling with new life.  Thanks again for sharing! 

    TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
    SA February 2011: Normal
    RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI

    Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption

    Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
    Court trip October 2012
    Home November 24 2012!

    Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues: 

    Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count 
    Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???

    Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013

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  • baze2baze2

    THis is an awesome update.. well except the TTC part..you made my night with all this good news!

    "Onward"--CathyMD Waiting since 07/5/2011 for our forever child! Yep we are adopting!
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  • DebateThisDebateThis member
    These pictures are adorable! You and McKenzie are beautiful. :)
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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  • Patches08Patches08 member
    Thanks for all your kind words. I've been struggling a bit lately... I started a new job about 6 months ago & I share an office with an amazing, fun, girl. We really hit it off and have become close friends, she's 5 years older but was also pregnant at 18. She decided to parent, her son is 13 now. She also has a 7 year old son. Hearing stories non stop stings a little (she doesn't know about our TTC struggles). I certainly don't regret my decision to place Mckenzie but that doesn't mean it's always easy to live with, especially since we've been unsuccessful TTC over the last 2 years.. I've had a lot of down moments lately... But I'm enjoying summer and trying to stay busy with the mind frame that this might be our last summer child free.
    BM to Kenzie 9/1/04 --- Married 1/22/09 --- Me 27 - DH 25 --- TTC our first since April 2010 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member
    I am sorry you are struggling Patches... there's nothing I can say that you don't already know :)    I like your last sentence best.... enjoy this time w/hubby :)
    image Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
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