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annoyed with sister (vent)

jw87jw87 member
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So my sister sent me a facebook message asking if she could come see me today or tomorrow (she sent it last night).  She also lives an hour away.  I rarely see her.  I told her we were busy with swimming lessons, doctors appts. etc. basically there is somewhere we need to be with just an hour or two in-between things.  I told her two other days THIS week we are free and then all of next week.  She says, "Well, I don't have have another free day until August."  She just wants to come see us for like 2-3 hours at the most. 

Um... seriously?  Your life is that packed?  I don't even know how to respond to that.  I have a feeling she's just mad one of the two days she offered doesn't work... and I haven't exactly put forth a lot of effort when I have to drive two days a week to our baby appointments (our doctor is an hour away) and I haven't been feeling the greatest.

What would you say?  "That's a bummer."  Is your life that jam packed?
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  • ovechkiumovechkium member
    I think you're overreacting. I can totally relate to being that busy. But if you say you have free time next week, why not go visit her?
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  • SoontobemrspauldingSoontobemrspaulding
    I would honestly probably blow it off and say oh bummer. Let me kmow if something opens up. We love you. My sister is very attention seeking and i like to avoid giving her amunution if possible
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  • melody921melody921 member
    I'd just ask her when she's free in august then so you can pick a date now. Maybe she is that busy. Does she work? Have kids? Have an active weekend social life? I don't have a lot of free days this summer between responsibilities and things that are fun but already on the calendar.

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  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member

    I have been trying to swing by my friend's house to visit her and her newborn who lives 20 minutes away. Our schedules keep conflicting.  Her LO is now 10 weeks old.  So, yes, it is possible that her schedule is just as jam packed as yours.

    That she is willing to drive an hour each way to spend just 2-3 hours with you is thoughtful.

    I'd send her a note back along the lines of, "I'm so sorry we'll miss you.  If some free time pops up before then please let me know and I'll try to shuffle some things to accomodate as I would really love to see you."

    I get that you have kids and other priorities.  But I also get how it feels to be the one to make ALL the scheduling adjustments simply b/c I don't have kids.  I'll try to keep reminding myself of this when I become a mom :)

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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member

    If your schedule over the next two days is so jam packed that you can't fit in a 2 hour visit with your sister, I don't see why you would question her schedule being likewise jam packed.

    If you can't fit in time on the days she suggested and she can't fit in time on the days you suggested, then just tell her you're sorry it won't work out and hopefully you can get together some other time.

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  • MrsDavesAFishMrsDavesAFish member

    I get what you are saying.  You just HAPPEN to have a full schedule today and tomorrow.  But then you told her you are basically wide open to hang out with her after that.  She turns around and says she is busy till august.  LOL.  Sounds a little dramatic. 

     

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