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MIL REALLY wants a girl

nekoraynenekorayne member
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We decided to tell our parents the moment we found out. If something were to happen we would want them to know anyway. Both sides are SUPER excited about this. We have a DS and so this will be our second.

Anyways, MIL is always mentioning how much she wants us to have a girl. It is constant. My BIL and his wife wanted a girl so bad and they got two boys. hey don't want anymore kids but sometimes talk about having another "just to try for a girl" and the emphasis on girls has been driving me batty. She has 5 grandkids and 2 of them are girls and 3 are boys so I guess she sees it as having 3 of each?  I know she is always saying how cute I dress and I make a lot of mine, DH, and DS's clothes and that if I had a girl I would dress her so cute but really that is just clothes. Boys and girls are both great. When we bring up the baby she is always "I hope it is a girl" or "We NEED another girl in the family" or "I bet it will be disappointing if this one is not our little girls"

  We get what we get and we would be ecstatic for a boy or a girl. A girl would be cool because one of each but a boy would be awesome because I really love the idea of having 2 boys. I mean does it matter? It is not like I get to put the "sex chip" in and my USB slot that lives on my stomach and choose the sex! Just be excited with what you get. On the flip side I made the mistake of telling my mom this and my mom now conteracts that she wants us to have another boy. Ugh...

LOL I'm not mad or worried. I just find it a bit tiring and even funny because DH jokes that only one grandparent will be happy when we find out.  It is a bit stupid really though, lol hopefully we get a healthy kid and in the end I'm sure they will be happy with whatever sex.

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  • kelly321kelly321 member
    That would get really annoying. If it happened to us and it was annoying DH, too, then I'd make him tell his mom to cut it out.

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  • roxyttandmeroxyttandme member

    MIL should really only want a healthy baby and mom. All else- she needs to learn how to keep her mouth shut IMO.

    PS- I hope you have a boy....

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  • MyaMaternityMyaMaternity member
    It would get annoying but I would just blow it off.  I'm sure she will be happy either way.  
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  • MoreThanABrideMoreThanABride member
    Ugh, so annoying! When I was pregnant with DD both my family and DH's family wanted a boy. I was really frustrated because I felt like they wouldn't love a girl as much. I am glad i had a girl. It will probably be even worse this time because people get so caught up in the whole "one of each" thing. I would like to have a boy, but I also think it would be awesome for DD to have a sister, so I would be really excited for either one.

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  • Angel0423Angel0423
    This seems to be a recurring theme lately! I would be super annoyed and would probably say something snippy like "you know the sex has already been determined yet, and you having a preference is pretty weird".  But my mom and MIL haven't even hinted at something so silly! I want another girl, DH wants a boy, no one else gets to have actual "feelings" about this!!!
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  • alkvoelkeralkvoelker
    I don't really care and even though everyone in the family is betting on one sex or the other, all they really care about is a healthy baby. It's all in good fun. my mom, grandma-in-law, and I are hoping for a girl though....Wink
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  • MrsRiceARoniMrsRiceARoni member
    imageroxyttandme:

    MIL should really only want a healthy baby and mom. All else- she needs to learn how to keep her mouth shut IMO.

    PS- I hope you have a boy....

    :::evil laugh:::: 

    Haha I pffh you.

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  • shipsshoessealingwaxshipsshoessealingwax member
    Lol I'm pretty sure everyone in our family wants a girl (except my husband, who know's he'd be wrapped around her little finger, lol!). For good reason, though - a girl would be the first in over 20yrs for either side of our family!!
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  • bearkatjenbearkatjen member
    My mom is like this. DS is her only grandchild and she really wanted a girl the first time (so did I), and she really wants a girl this time (I don't care this time). I'm sure MIL would like a girl because all her grandchildren are boys and this is probably her last grandchild, but she never says a word. Wish my mom would follow suit.
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  • nallslnallsl
    FIL wants a boy. My mom  wants a girl because she thinks we'll stop having more kids if we have a boy. It is annoying. I will admit that having a girl terrifies me because I know how I was w/my mom when I was a teen, but I also know I won't be disappointed either way!
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  • Kingston54Kingston54 member

    I hear you on this one - my MIL wants a girl too.  She doesn't harp on it but I know she does.  She had two boys and my LO #1 is a boy so I think she just craves the girl stuff.  I am kind of with her in that I'd like a girl too so I could experience one of each.  But without a doubt I just want a healthy baby.  So this time we are not finding out!

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  • drpaynedrpayne member
    Wow. I was annoyed just reading that. I'd tell her she's bing a weirdo and to knock it off. Seriously. 
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  • cja06cja06 member
    My mom is the same way. But I already have two boys and I am an only child, so this pg is her last shot at a grand-daughter. She was disappointed when the last baby was a boy but got over it. It is tiring. I would like a girl too, but I want a healthy baby more.


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  • Todd&LauraTodd&Laura

    imagenekorayne:

      We get what we get and we would be ecstatic for a boy or a girl. A girl would be cool because one of each but a boy would be awesome because I really love the idea of having 2 boys. I mean does it matter? It is not like I get to put the "sex chip" in and my USB slot that lives on my stomach and choose the sex! Just be excited with what you get. On the flip side I made the mistake of telling my mom this and my mom now conteracts that she wants us to have another boy. Ugh..

    Your way of thinking is excellent and I enjoy your humor!! Fwiw, my mom would do the exact same thing your mom is doing. I think they think they are siding with you when really it is just annoying.

    I hope you get a healthy child that is the perfect complement to your cute little family!! 

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