Please tell me I'm not the only one...

LyssRob · June 2012

I am feeling pretty miserable. Nauseous 24/7 and such extreme exhaustion that all I do is nap on the couch. (I'm a teacher, so able to be worthless right now).

I get it, people get sick in first tri. But for some reason, I feel this ridiculous guilt for being so miserable. I wanted to be pregnant SO BADLY that I feel like I should just be embracing this and happy regardless of how sh*tty I feel. I feel like I shouldn't be complaining when so many other TTTC girls are still not here. I feel bad that my husband watched my cry when I WASNT pregnant and now is watching my cry because I AM.

I know in my head this is ridiculous and that my hormones are nuts and so am I...but did anyone else feel like this???

Ccjones85 · June 2012

I am so happy you posted this... I just called my mom yesterday saying how guilty I felt for complaining because I always told myself if I could ever have the chance to be pregnant I would embrace everything that came with it but man do I feel like crap! I am so stinkin tired and either starving or nauseous or both at the same time. So, no you are not the only one feeling this way. I hope it passes quickly for us all feeling this way!

TJ1979 · June 2012

I'm so sorry you feel so bad. I was really bad off from 8-16 weeks too, so I know how you feel. I felt really guilty complaining as well. But as several girls on this board reminded me, nobody likes being sick, and that doesn't make you any less thankful to be pg. It just makes you human. I tried to limit who I complained to, mostly just MH and this board occasionally. I hope that you start feeling better really soon.

ellephunt · June 2012

I was crying yesterday because I felt like crap all day too. I'm just ready to feel good again. I felt like crap going through treatments (thanks to the met) and now because of the pregnancy. Try to get out and do something. I do feel worse when I sit on the couch all day. Go for a walk, get together with friends, go to the bookstore and read a book. For some reason when I'm out I focus less on how I'm feeling and can power through it for the most part. I know it sucks though.

Shayliz · June 2012

I felt the exact same way, leaving the house wasn't an option because of how horrible I felt. I limit my complaining a lot, but also remember that IF doesn't mean you have to be ecstatic about feeling like sh!t as long as you remember the journey to get here.

wille2b · June 2012

your not alone!! until now I have felt absolutely miserable! i have hated being pregnant and felt so guilty for it. it does get better I promise. just rest rest rest.. i have spent more than a month just sleeping!!! dont feel bad for feeling this way, a lot of us do Im sure! there will be plenty of time to embrace the rest of the pregnancy! hang in there!

cindyc24 · June 2012

Today is the first day that I started to feel really queesy...I consider myself lucky since hyperemesis runs in my family.

In my prenatal it has 25mg of vitamin B6 and I am taking 1/2 tab of the Unisom Sleep tab every night. There is an antihistamine in Unisom sleep TABS that works with the B6 to help with nausea. Today I actually had to take a zofran, but the nausea went away immediately. I will be keeping up with this routine as long as my Dr says it's okay. I really hope that you start to feel better soon. Nausea is not fun and try not to be so hard on yourself!

mizzougal08 · June 2012

You're definitely not alone. I'll admit, I was one of those girls that could get kind of judge-y before I got pregnant about women who would complain about pregnancy. I was all like, "How can you not be grateful every single second that you have miracle growing inside of you?? I'd kill to be able to feel like sh!t all day if it meant I'd get a baby!". And while I'm still absolutely over the moon thrilled, grateful, and pray every single night thanking God that I got blessed with my 2 baby girls, it still doesn't change the fact that I feel like poo more days than not and I complain about it sometimes. I often wonder how the heck I'm going to make it through the next 4 months! I do feel guilty sometimes about the way I feel, especially because we went through so much to get here, but I just remind myself that this is just another step in my hellacious journey through IF and if I can make it this far, I can make it the rest of the way. And my reward(s) are going to be absolutely 1000% worth it. I guess it's another one of those things similar to experience with IF...you can't really judge or truly understand it until you've been through it yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself!

LyssRob · June 2012

Thanks, Ladies. Misery really does love company...it helps to know I'm not alone in experiencing this weird guilt!!

(Just for the record, I don't complain TO anyone except the husband...and you guys...especially since so few people know I'm pregnant! And I solemnly swear not to make my nausea into a Facebook status!)

ETA: I complain aloud to my dog a lot. That's okay, right? She never complains!

Trish11278 · June 2012

I was completely miserable and then felt horrible for feeling that way during my first trimester. People would know that I was nauseous all the time and would ask how I was doing and I would just reply by saying that I can't complain. They would argue with me saying that even though I went through a lot to get where I am, pregnancy does a number to you emotionally and physically. They said we have every right to complain or voice how we are feeling without any guilt. I understand their reasoning but it is still hard to feel miserable and not feel guilty at the same time.

I hope you feel better soon!

tgreenf · June 2012

I completely understand. I felt horrible from about 7 - 14 weeks. I would cry myself to sleep at night. I didn't want to complain to anyone but I was just miserable. My husband thankfully was very supportive and just let me cry and get it out. I hope you feel better soon hon. We are here for you :-)

leolyns · June 2012

I was so tired first trimester that I would get home from work and nap on the couch (if I didn't motivate myself for a short walk with my dog), make dinner and go to bed at 8pm since nausea kicked in for me around dinner time. Beginning of third trimester I needed the little naps once I got home from work.

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