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WWYD - long!

solsburyhillsolsburyhill member
in September 2011 Moms

I'm a BM in my cousin's wedding next month.  The day of the wedding I'll be with my cousin and the other BMs getting our hair done and then we need to be at the church at noon to take pictures and get our dresses on.  The ceremony starts at 2pm.

After the ceremony, the bridal party and family are taking a boat cruise to the reception site, which is a 20+ minute drive from the church.  So nobody from the bridal party or family can have cars at the church.  They've arranged for a shuttle from a random parking lot to the church and this random parking lot is 2 miles from the hotel which is two blocks from the reception venue (are you following me, lol).

They are asking DH to drive a load of people to the church, then check into our hotel, then hoof it the 2 miles to this random parking lot, and then ride the shuttle to the church.  Which would normally be no big deal but they want Augie at the ceremony so he can be in family pictures taken at church. 

If he leaves Augie with me when I get dropped off, I'll have Aug at church from 11:30 till whenever DH gets there and then he has to sit through the ceremony at 2pm and stick around for pictures.  That's 11:30-3:30 ... we're talking prime eating and napping time.  What a pain.  I was really hoping DH could leave the house around 1pm, let Augie nap in the car on the way to the wedding, and then my mom could handle A while DH and I go on the cruise.  (family got added to this boat ride just last week, originally it was supposed to be just bridal party)

So the way I see it is they either have DH drive people and then Augie stays with my ILs for the entire day, or if they really want Augie at the ceremony then DH can't help with driving people because he's got to take care of A.

Thoughts?

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  • PoppymamaPoppymama member
    Can someone else besides your DH do the drive? This way A can still eat/nap etc. Hopefully they understand thst a no nap/no eat baby is not a happy baby! Good luck!
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  • solsburyhillsolsburyhill member

    I think there are a few other options for drivers. 

    Honestly, I think the best thing is to just send A to my inlaws for the full day but I understand wanting him in pictures. I don't see how DH can pitch in to help AND be in charge of A.

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  • PoppymamaPoppymama member
    imagesolsburyhill:

    I think there are a few other options for drivers. 

    Honestly, I think the best thing is to just send A to my inlaws for the full day but I understand wanting him in pictures. I don't see how DH can pitch in to help AND be in charge of A.

    Maybe see if someone else can drive that way A can be in the pics. Or leave A with the IL's. That way you know he will stay sort of on schedule. At the end of the day its you that has to deal with a cranky baby.

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  • Broadway1Broadway1 member

    I would leave LO with the IL. It's not fair for A to sit through all of those things and if he gets cranky because his schedule is messed up, you run the risk of having an angry bride who could blame your baby for ruining her day.

    Just tell the bride he sometimes spits up unexpectedlyDevilSmile.

     

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  • Pips09Pips09 member
    I'm a little confused about this random parking lot, and what the point is of using it, but if I were you, I'd just let them know your H isn't available to drive people, because he has to take care of Augie. Your being accommodating enough, really . I'd be OK with, but not a huge fan of, leaving him with the ILs all day, but I wouldn't have him with you at the salon, etc. 
    Plus, how are you all going to get back to the hotel? Are you going to take the car seat out of the car to put in the shuttle? It just seems like a lot of shuffling around. I'd probably just drive myself if I was taking the baby, but I don't like to be inconvenienced if I've got her in tow.  
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  • Ms5586Ms5586 member
    DH shouldn't be driving people around if they want Augie there for pictures and the ceremony.  You will probably have to put your foot down and say it's what's best for your family.  Augie comes first to you and your DH.  (I hope this doesn't sound snarky, it's just blunt honesty).
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  • solsburyhillsolsburyhill member
    Ok good, you all seem to be on the same page with me.  I didn't want to be rude to my aunt but she's just asking to much of us.
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