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Just when I think everyone is on the same page...

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MIL put LO on her tummy on a fluffy comforter on their bed to nap when she watched her for a few hours.  I came to get her and she was in the there by herself...not happy.  MIL bought a RNP on her own and baby sleeps in there at their house.  All good for now.  My mom helped us at our house at first when I was healing.  So she knew the ropes about no blankets in bed and we are putting her to sleep on her back.  So my mom watched LO for 2 hours this weekend.  I get there and she has LO in a small antique baby crib that my dad and his siblings slept in, he is 70, she is on her back but she is covered with a thick baby comforter that is up to her mouth.  She said she measured the slats and they are a little too wide.  At least she was in the same room and watching her...but still.  As soon as LO made a peep I pulled the comforter back and picked her up.  My mom will be watching her 1 day a week so I will bring her a swaddler and have her use that.  There was a lot of company there when I came to pick her up so I didn't say anything in front of them, but I will before she watches her again.  The funny thing is my mom has 8 other grandkids and they all slept in a pack n play...why does my baby have to be "special"?  :)  Ugh.   
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  • tjkdlhbtjkdlhb member
    This makes me nervous too... I've had people laugh that the new rules are silly and their kids did fine sleeping on their tummies, with blankets, etc.  I explain that yes, that may be true but there has been a dramatic decrease in SIDS since people started following the regulations.  I think my parents understand (they're always telling me about things they saw on TV about recent statistics regarding SIDS, etc) but I do worry about when we go to ILs... MIL is one who feels that the rules are silly.  I like to think that she would follow my wishes, but I will make sure that I am there for overnight visits until she is older.  But, like I said in a previous post, since nobody else hears her cry at night, I expect I'll be staying with her till she's one anyway!  (only possible exception may be my sister and BIL... because BIL always wakes up for their young one!)



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  • Brandyjean30Brandyjean30 member
    While I love my in-laws to death this is my one big issue. Not necessarily sleeping arrangements but under minding the way I do things. LO is gassy in the evenings and when we are home she is uncomfortable from about 6 to 8 and then she is in bed and asleep by about 9. We have been going to their house for dinner a lot the last 2 weeks visiting out of town family and someone else always begs to feed her and then refuses to put in the 45 minute effort it takes to burp her after her bottle and I end up with a very uncomfortable baby who doesn't sleep until late. Everyone thinks they know best (grandmas and great grandmas) and its hard for me not to scream that they may have had 6 kids but they don't know my kid like I do :/
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  • stemms8810stemms8810 member
    Gosh, that would make me so nervous!  I am lucky that my mom is very good about all that stuff and I wouldn't worry if she was watching him.  The older generations need a class to take before baby comes that explains all of this.
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  • k8edgertonk8edgerton member

    Ummm... So your MIL did one thing that you didn't like and your mom did another thing? Just want to make sure I am reading this right.

    I would just insist on the back sleeping, swaddle, and pack n' play. Tell them that this is what is safest and this is what you want. No blankets... etc... If they think that LO is chilly they can layer a onesie or pj under the swaddle. 

    They should respect this. 

     

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  • DrRxDrRx member

    I just don't understand why they can't just put the baby on their back and not use a blanket, especially after you specifically ask them not to.  Do they think that you won't notice or care? Sorry you have to deal with that.  I would be upset also. 

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    I feel for you, I busted my MIL spoon feeding water to my baby...
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  • k4slr6k4slr6 member
    imagek8edgerton:

    Ummm... So your MIL did one thing that you didn't like and your mom did another thing? Just want to make sure I am reading this right.

    I would just insist on the back sleeping, swaddle, and pack n' play. Tell them that this is what is safest and this is what you want. No blankets... etc... If they think that LO is chilly they can layer a onesie or pj under the swaddle. 

    They should respect this. 

     

    Yes they each did one thing.  I get along with both of them very well and they are both very laid back so I figured I wouldn't have any issues.  They are both well aware.  I was more upset with my mom b/c she had been in our house multiple times and knew what we did.  I just need to go over the basics for LO while she is at her house when she starts watching her.  She told me she had gotten the crib and I told her maybe it could be used for dolls for the other grandchildren to play with and she had agreed.  Oh well I just needed to vent.  :)

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  • lpumpkingirlllpumpkingirll member

    omg, i can totally relate to this!

     

    it is so frustrating. my SIL live 1.5 hours away so occasionally when they visit they end up staying overnight. 

    some things my SIL have done that have totally irked me bc i've told them not to do it. 

    1) Insist on giving the baby formula so I can rest. when LO was 3 days old she gave him a bottle of formula while I was sleeping.

    2) Put LO in his crib with a regular sized pillow and rolled blankets propped up against his sides so he wouldn't roll

    3)  Ask me if she can pop the "white spots" (milia) on his face. 

     

    I know she means well. The good thing that has come out of this is usually I'm a very easy going sometimes passive person, but since having LO I've found my inner assertive self!

    Hang in there!!  

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