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AndromedaEclipse
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Need some support
AndromedaEclipse
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I am scared, and tired, and huge, and frustrated. I'll be 42 weeks on Thursday according to my hospital. I've finally gotten stretch marks, and I've gained almost 20 lbs more than my doctor wanted me to. My mom (a L&D nurse) told me that I'm probably carrying a >9 lb kid. I've tried everything I can think of to help this baby along. I can't stay active too much because my feet are swelling like crazy. So I keep switching back and forth from sitting with my feet up to feeling like I need to work out or at least walk a ton.
I have an OB appointment tomorrow, and I'm both afraid that they're going to tell me to induce and hopeful that they will. I know I should let this kid come when it's ready, but I'm just so done. I'm afraid that if I get pitocin, I won't be able to make it through the labor without drugs or worse, a c-section. I feel like a failure already and labor hasn't even started.
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Re: Need some support
I'm not normally one to post on this thread, but I just want to let you know you are not a failure.
It can be dangerous for babies to be TOO post term, but the good thing is that you may only need a little teeny bit of pitocin to kick your uterus into gear. Perhaps they can induce you and then turn the pitocin down once your uterus figures out what's going on.
Best of luck. T&P for a healthy baby & momma soon!
I had my first DD at 43 weeks. She came out pink and perfect. Some babies really do just need a bit more time.
I KNOW how you are feeling right now (Lily was born in July and I was very swollen), but I would encourage you to get a u/s and a stress test done before consenting to a induction. If all is well with your LO, then maybe you could get a few more days out of it.
This sounds like you describing my last pregnancy verbatim. Is it an active little one? If yes, then don't let them pressure you into induction. They are just happy and content inside. I have met several women who regularly go 44 weeks. YOU are not "past due", you are "post average date". That 40 week timeline wouldn't exist if it wasn't for those of us that go longer:)
I gained 20lbs after my due date (most is water), and I tried things too. But I caved to the pitocin, and I ended up with a c-section, because when they hooked me up, the baby's heart rate plummeted. Honestly, I regretted it. He came out 9lbs 3oz (not the 10lbs their machines predicted), and he wasn't chunky at all. He was all legs and lean body. My little frog.
Keep trusting in your body. As long as all "levels" look good, stand strong.
PS: The highest concentration of natural pitocin is semen, so if you can, get your partner to help finish the job they started:)
There is solid medical support to inducing a woman because she is 42 weeks. I think sometimes natural birthing communities can get a little too gung ho about not intervening and it leads to guilt and disappointment for women who need the interventions that are a huge, giant, blessing to women and babies!!! Interventions have their place. That being said, if those interventions are right for you is a decision for you to make with your doctor and partner. Do some research on your own and make a decision based on complication rates etc...Tell your mom to shut it. Yes she has some medical experience but she isn't your doctor and she needs to keep her thoughts and opinions to herself.
My goal isn't to have an ideal birth, it's to have the RIGHT birth for my baby and me. I assume (up until things change) that the right birth for my baby and me is to go into labor naturally, avoid pain medications, and deliver vaginally. But if something changes and the right birth changes to be something else, it's not a failure.