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To lady in church:

MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
in December 2011 Moms

Turn up your Bell Tones so the lady next to you doesn't have to say something so loud I can hear you four rows up!!!

O.k. so tonight I took DD & DS to church and even got there early enough to get a seat...  DS was in his carrier..  I have a severe diastasis (originally they thought it was a hernia but thankfully it's not there yet!!!) such that I still look 9mo pregnant and nothing is going to change that until I have corrective surgery done which insurance has preapproved (100:1 wasn't likely to happen for most women going through the corrective procedure - yes, it's THAT bad!).  It sucks!!  But tonight - I about wanted to laugh or cry because as I was kneeling before the start of mass with DD, I overheard one of the gals behind me talking about DS (awwww!) and how "she always just brings the kids herself, but I think the poor woman is pregnant with her next one already.."...   (most of the time I take the kids myself because DH works a crazy schedule and it's just easier this way)

Sorry to disappoint, I'm not expecting a sibling yet, as it is, I'm waiting to hear what the doc thinks on whether to hurry up and have another before getting the belly fixed or wait and risk having to have the surgery a second time...  It was just one of those moments that could either be a laugh or cry and I couldn't vent about it to DH who wouldn't understand post baby body...

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  • InTheSunInTheSun
    That's awful!  Funny how people judge so quickly...especially in church!
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  • heatherjhheatherjh
    I hope that you get some answers/surgery sooner than later. Church ladies can sometimes be the worst. Keep your head up and try not to let their comments get to you! Maybe next time you can think of a clever comeback, such as I'm not preg, but you're still nosey, etc.. ;)
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  • InTheSunInTheSun

    imageheatherjh:
    I hope that you get some answers/surgery sooner than later. Church ladies can sometimes be the worst. Keep your head up and try not to let their comments get to you! Maybe next time you can think of a clever comeback, such as I'm not preg, but you're still nosey, etc.. ;)

     

    When the guys at work used to take jabs at me while I was pregnant (I gained 75 pounds), I once got so mad that I said, "At least I have an excuse to be fat, you don't have an excuse to be an ass___!"  The women around us clapped it up.  You could try "My body made two beautiful children...what do your rude comments make?"  And let her think about it. 

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  • ealauberealauber member
    You should have turned around and just shot her a look. Lady, I can hear what you're saying!
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  • brandywine2010brandywine2010 member
    Sometimes it feels like the people in church are the most judgmental of all. So sorry you had to go through that. You should tell them that you'll pray for their forgiveness for their judgmental ways. Stick out tongue
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member

    Thanks ya'll! 

    It probably was the body image issues that made it hit as hard as it did.  I know there wasn't any malice intended by the gal, it's just the feeling like crud already about where my body is at this point from where I planned to be..

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