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How many is too many?

ntkt311ntkt311
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Just starting to plan my shower and I'm wondering how many is too many invitees? I am planning just to have one big shower rather than smaller ones for different sets of friends (church, college, work related, etc) thanks for any input!!!!
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Re: How many is too many?

  • morethancottoncandymorethancottoncandy
    It really depends on the number your hostess is comfortable with based on the budget, venue, etc.
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  • eav2ceav2c member
    Are you planning your own shower??? 
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  • FemShepFemShep member

    Ask your hostess how many guests she can accommodate; that answer will give you a good guideline.

    IMHO, once you get above 25 people, the shower is too big and not as much fun.  Also, keep in mind showers are gift-giving events, and you really don't need to invite, say, everyone you work with, everyone you went to school with, etc.  Often, churches and workplaces will do their own shower thing. 

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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    Stop planning your own shower and wait for someone to offer to throw you one. 
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    However many your hostess can comfortably afford and accommodate.  All things being equal, I say at 30 people, you're putting on a charity fundraiser.
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  • ntkt311ntkt311
    Sorry I didn't make it clear :-) yes, my friend is hosting it but I'm helping provide a guest list which is common practice I'm sure. I didn't want to send huge a list of too many names. 
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  • pugznploonspugznploons member

    ask your hostess how many she is comfortable with, it really depends on location and what she can afford!

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  • dufferoodufferoo member

    I would max out at 25-30. But I much much prefer something smaller, like 10-15.

    The more people you have, the harder it is to get in quality time with any individual, the more overwhelming the gift-opening is (for you and for everybody who is bored watching you open 10,000 things!), the more stress on the hostess, and the more it just feels like a big impersonal assembly line.

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  • ntkt311ntkt311
    I am also assuming sone people may not be able to come due to location, work schedule etc. should I not even invite those who live out of town?? Especially family?
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    Find out how many your host can accomodate/afford.   Keep in mind that you will only get about 1/2 of who you invite unless you are inviting only close friends and close family - especially in the summer months.  Showers with more than 40 guests in attendance are just too big IMO but I have hosted a couple up to 60 people.  I invited out of town guests (especially family) since everyone lived out of town/out of state at the time of my shower.  Over half of them came.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Ditto - ask your hostess.  Remember- she may have offered to throw you a shower, but that doesn't obligate her to throw a HUGE shower w/ everyone you know.  She can do a "friends" shower and if your fmaily asks about a shower, you say "none that I know of" and if family wants to have one, someone can offer.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Ditto - ask your hostess.  Remember- she may have offered to throw you a shower, but that doesn't obligate her to throw a HUGE shower w/ everyone you know.  She can do a "friends" shower and if your fmaily asks about a shower, you say "none that I know of" and if family wants to have one, someone can offer.
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  • ntkt311ntkt311
    Thanks everyone! Again, I wasn't thinking anything over 30 and my friend will host with my mom at my mom's house. Thanks again!
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  • morethancottoncandymorethancottoncandy

    imagentkt311:
    Thanks everyone! Again, I wasn't thinking anything over 30 and my friend will host with my mom at my mom's house. Thanks again!

    Sounds like a good number!  Enjoy your day! 

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  • KarmBKarmB member
    i invited 50, but O knew a lot fo them wouldnt come. they were courtisy invites to those family members who would have been "why didnt she invite me?" Because you live across the country. 28 came to mine, it was a lot, a little over whelming, i couldnt spend time with everyone.

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  • LexiEmmaLexiEmma
    I invited 50 and have had about 30 rsvp "yes." I feel like that is a good number. :)
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  • LexiEmmaLexiEmma
    Of course... I also asked my hostess her thoughts and she told me she was planning on ordering 50 invites so that kind of enabled me a good maximum. (I also knew not that many would come.)
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  • JenWhite123JenWhite123 member
    Anything above 35 is too many. You can't speak and socialize with many more than that and open gifts in a reasonable amount of time.  No one wants to spen 3-4 hrs at a shower
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