If you could sum up the principles of AP....

Re: If you could sum up the principles of AP....

• BoilerUp1

  June 2012

  Honestly?  Just responding to your baby's needs, when they need you.  Babies NEED to be close to their parents and this is achieved by BFing (if possible), cosleeping, babywearing, etc.

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• celiabwatson

  June 2012

  fredalina:

  To make it very, very brief, I think it would be "Recognize that your child is a whole, unique person with needs and wants that may differ from your own, and respond to their needs and wants with respect and kindness."  Not "give your child everything they want or need", just respect that they may be hungry when you don't think they *should* be hungry (i.e. the middle of the night, or frequently in cluster feeding), they  may not be sleepy when you'd like them to be, etc, and try to find a solution that is respectful of all family members. 

  I love this summary. I usually call what we do "responsive parenting" because I think it provides a clearer image than "attachment parenting" to someone who hasn't heard of AP. 

  

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• katiewhompus member

  June 2012

  For me it would be all about respect. Respecting DDs wants and needs while teaching her to respect ours. I feel like most of the mainstream parenting ideas veer heavily into respecting parents needs, but not the babys.

  I also sum it up as, non-ap = "No you can't do that", AP = "No you cant do that because of x,y,x". Obviously that is not a black and white AP/non-AP distinction but it is what I have experienced.

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• tokenhoser member

  June 2012

  Have you seen the "official" list? Obviously everyone interprets AP differently, but this does pretty much sum it up:

  https://www.attachmentparenting.org/principles/principles.php

  API's Eight Principles of Parenting:

  • Introduction
  • Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
  • Feed with Love and Respect
  • Respond with Sensitivity
  • Use Nurturing Touch
  • Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
  • Provide Consistent and Loving Care
  • Practice Positive Discipline
  • Strive for Balance in Your Personal and Family Life

  
  

   

   

  
  
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• tokenhoser member

  June 2012

  hocus:

  tokenhoser:

  Have you seen the "official" list? Obviously everyone interprets AP differently, but this does pretty much sum it up:

  https://www.attachmentparenting.org/principles/principles.php

  API's Eight Principles of Parenting:

  • Introduction
  • Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
  • Feed with Love and Respect
  • Respond with Sensitivity
  • Use Nurturing Touch
  • Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
  • Provide Consistent and Loving Care
  • Practice Positive Discipline
  • Strive for Balance in Your Personal and Family Life

   

   This is an interesting list. However is plays into the stereotypes the AP is a mom/femaile thing (e.g. reserve feeding for the mom even if using formula). I hate crap like that. If you breast feed then yes when you're around you'll be feeding, but if you're using a bottle I don't see why dad or other caregivers can use that time to bond as well.

  Well, I did preface it with "everyone finds their way". I subscribe more the the LLL philosophies, and they say a baby has an intense need for his/her mother beyond the need for food. I actually agree with that. 
  

  
  
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• jennyann28 member

  June 2012

  Thank you for asking this question, I've been curious about what AP really is (since I seem to lean that way). I get hung up on the term "attachment" because I do want DD to be an independent child. I know those two things aren't exusive of each other though, and the responses & links have helped.

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• ChristyML

  June 2012

  tokenhoser:

  hocus:

  tokenhoser:

  Have you seen the "official" list? Obviously everyone interprets AP differently, but this does pretty much sum it up:

  https://www.attachmentparenting.org/principles/principles.php

  API's Eight Principles of Parenting:

  • Introduction
  • Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
  • Feed with Love and Respect
  • Respond with Sensitivity
  • Use Nurturing Touch
  • Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
  • Provide Consistent and Loving Care
  • Practice Positive Discipline
  • Strive for Balance in Your Personal and Family Life

   

   This is an interesting list. However is plays into the stereotypes the AP is a mom/femaile thing (e.g. reserve feeding for the mom even if using formula). I hate crap like that. If you breast feed then yes when you're around you'll be feeding, but if you're using a bottle I don't see why dad or other caregivers can use that time to bond as well.

  Well, I did preface it with "everyone finds their way". I subscribe more the the LLL philosophies, and they say a baby has an intense need for his/her mother beyond the need for food. I actually agree with that. 
  

  I agree with the bolded. There was a study done with monkeys that they had baby monkeys that had a soft warm "mother" with no food or bottle (a fake monkey) and a "mother" that was scratchy, not soft, but had a bottle or food. The results of the study was that most (if not all) the baby monkeys died because they needed the "love" of the soft warm "mother" more than they needed the food.

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• kwinkle1980 member

  June 2012

  I am new here, but I love this thread. For me AP is making room in your life and embracing your child fully, as opposed to trying to lead the same life you did before and trying to "train" your child to fit into the background. 

  

   

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