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REALLY DH!?!?

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Ok....so DH and I have decided on a name for months now and tonight he told me he grew out of liking it.  WTH I'm overdue and NOW you decide you don't like the name.  I'm about in tears and don't know what to do.  I want both of us to like the name we choose for our child.  He said that there was no need to change it, but honestly how can I name our child knowing he really isn't a fan of the name!?
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Re: REALLY DH!?!?

  • emoxymooseemoxymoose member
    I've already bonded with my baby through his name, if my DH said that right now I'd tell him tough luck! It must not bother him too badly, especially if he isn't asking you to change it.

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  • girlsonlygirlsonly member
    Did you ask him since he doesn't like the name you both choose together what he likes
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  • ASKSAKASKSAK member
    That's exactly how I feel.  He said that he just brought it up to talk about it and I was like what exactly did you intend to talk about?  He backed off when he sensed that it was getting me upset.  I want him to be proud of the name we chose for our son not just have an "it's fine" attitude.  Pregnancy and overdue frustration hormones definitely in full force! Crying
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  • ASKSAKASKSAK member

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    Did you ask him since he doesn't like the name you both choose together what he likes

    Yes, I asked him and he had no suggestions.  Hmm

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  • girlsonlygirlsonly member
    Honey its not sone to get upset about I changed my mind about my baby's name a week before I told my husband and he said no I am glad cause it was just last minute jitters. Get a baby book scrap book have dh write it in there and why you choose the name. So your dh can make it official and leave it at that
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  • peachmuffinspeachmuffins member

     My DH did this too and when my son was born he liked the name again. I think it was more the fear of being a dad, feeling unsure about himself and he just.... took it out on the name we chose, you know? My DH said that it really wasn't that the name didn't feel right he was just second guessing a lot of things. I think everyone goes through it and either they dont talk about it at all or it comes out in silly ways like wanting to change a name when you're overdue.

     4 days before my due date i was unsure if the nursery theme i had chosen and set up was what i really wanted and even said to DH "i think we should change the nursery"... he almost died when i said that :P  Now of course i'm back to loving it again.

     Just keep the name the same, he'll change his mind.

     

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  • cchill01cchill01 member

    Sounds like last minute panic to me.  I would stick with the name you have selected.  DH asked me on the way to the hospital both times if I liked the names we had selected.  He also asked me how to spell them. 

    The good news is that you can change the name up until you check out of the hospital and submit your birth certificate paperwork.  So, let DH hold him and use the name you chose before you decide to switch.

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  • ASKSAKASKSAK member
    Thanks ladies!  I think we're both having last minute panic right now. Being overdue is really throwing us for a loop!   We decided to keep our name and all is well Smile Now we just need our little guy here!
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  • daisy080187daisy080187 member

    imageASKSAK:
    That's exactly how I feel.  He said that he just brought it up to talk about it and I was like what exactly did you intend to talk about?  He backed off when he sensed that it was getting me upset.  I want him to be proud of the name we chose for our son not just have an "it's fine" attitude.  Pregnancy and overdue frustration hormones definitely in full force! Crying

    Maybe he really did just bring it up not meaning any intention for you to change it..I would do that with DH we'd had pick Jackson before I even knew he was a boy....(it was a sign for me but thats a long story) but when I hit 38 weeks & all the way to 41 weeks I'd mention "what do you think about...example Brody?" He'd always get huffy with me saying "NO! He's already got his name monogrammed on stuff, we are NOT changing his name" I wasn't really thinking or wanting to change his name just asking...maybe for kid number 2 Wink..the pp is right...I always said Jackson when talking about the baby that was about to arrive...it helped me form an identity on him..since I'd find out he was a boy, his name was always Jackson..& if DH asked to change it I would have fought tooth & nail against changing it! If I was you I'd go with the name of you've picked..it must not be that huge of an issue since he doesn't have any suggestions & if he wasn't 100% sure of the name or felt like he couldn't grow to love the name (my DH said he wasn't a huge fan of Jackson but once we both said it more, he heard it more he said he grew to love the name) than he should have spoke up & said something so many weeks ago when you decided on your LO's name!

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