Why am I so much more worried this time around??

babydollaudie · June 2012

I'm new here but this is my second pregnancy. DD just turned 3. I am so much more nervous this time! I feel like I'm just waiting for something bad to happen. I don't remember feeling like that with DD. Every cramp and twinge and pain is totally freaking me out. I know I need to probably stop reading these boards and just relax, but I'm curious, are any other second (or third or fourth etc.) moms feeling this way??

mom2b22013 · June 2012

I am sorry you are feeling this way! I am finding I feel the same way, which does seem strange we should be more relaxed!! I am finding I am even freaking out more about DS and worried about him a ton more too!! So yes, you are NOT alone!! I am trying to enjoy the last months of alone time with DS and not worry so much!!

MrsPandolph · June 2012

I am a basket case so far and I have only been aware of my pregnancy for 4 days lol This will be my second time around and my daughter will be 3 in august. My husband chuckles at me when I tell him I feel like something is not right (because I don't have a reason to feel that way) besides the fact I don't have persistent symptoms. I think the second time around I am just more aware of the things which can go wrong and so I am constantly thinking about how long it will take me to rule out each test and such. I don't even have my first appointment until July 2nd so.... whew... hopefully I learn to relax!

pgros005 · June 2012

I'm a first-timer but I am starting to think that half of our problems about the "freak out" is the amount of information we have available to us. I asked my mother and aunts and great-aunts and they all simply said they didn't worry much because they didn't know any better. This was a time when they got only one ultra sound at around 20 weeks or so! I've already had 2 ultrasounds at 7 weeks 2 days. I've totally stopped googling....that may help.

holly321 · June 2012

I think it is because you know what you can lose.

I am less freaked out this time than last time. I guess because there was no warning signs with my loss. There was just no heartbeat when we did the doppler.

I even bled for weeks during my pregnancy, went to the doctor, all was well, baby had a great healthy heartbeat. So, I personally don't read into the signs. I have now been bleeding for a week, earlier in the week, my u/s looked great, so while it is annoying to have to wear a pad, that is all I will allow myself to think of it as.

kris10t3 · June 2012

I am on my third pregnancy and I feel the same way!! I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old and had no worries with either pregnancy. I have very mild symptoms, as I did with the others, but for some reason I think it's a bad sign this time. I'm trying to relax, but the biggest thing I think is all of the info out there. I definitely wasn't on all these websites with my other two, so I think that causes more stress and worry. So, you're not alone! We just need to relax and remember our chances of a happy, healthy birth are pretty good. I know I'll feel better once the 1st tri is over!!

Good luck with everything!! Smile

Kie310 · June 2012

I hear ya. I was a nervous wreck for the first 10 weeks until I finally have a good u/s and saw/heard the baby's heart beat. I'm sill nervous when the doc goes to use the doppler, and I have another u/s on July 5th to follow up with an issue from the first one (possible fibroid or old blood in my uti, nothing to do with the baby). But you know that day I will be a nervous wreck until I see the HB.

My first pregnancy was just fine, complications, but nothing life threatening, my son is 2.5 years old. I have never had a m/c or loss. I don't know where this fear is coming from. My husband thinks I'm nuts, but it is what it is I guess.

CutieBean79 · June 2012

I'm actually the opposite this time, but I can see how you could feel that way. We've been there, done that & know just how delicate this whole process can be. Not to mention we are nervous because we actually know what we are in for with childbirth & newborn life. Just remember that worry doesn't help anything.

ashdonne · June 2012

I'm a little more nervous this time around too. Honestly I don't think the bump really helps with our worries and fears because we hear about everyone's losses and stuff more often that you would IRL. I think that sounds insensitive and I don't mean it that way---I just mean it makes you more concerned about your own pregnancy when you know what all goes wrong in others.

hansonam446 · June 2012

ashdonne:
I'm a little more nervous this time around too. Honestly I don't think the bump really helps with our worries and fears because we hear about everyone's losses and stuff more often that you would IRL. I think that sounds insensitive and I don't mean it that way---I just mean it makes you more concerned about your own pregnancy when you know what all goes wrong in others.

Totally agree. Sometimes I have to take a day or two break from the boards to enjoy my pregnancy.

Optimus+Prime · June 2012

I have some bouts of paranoia as well. I just try to remember that I'm doing everything I can to ensure a healthy pregnancy and if anything happens, it's really out of my hands. I'm trying to enjoy it all I can!

Todd&Laura · June 2012

I feel kind of similar and I think it is because we know more this time since we were through this once already.

AppleJacks81 · June 2012

I'm glad you posted this! I kept telling my husband after we found out we were pregnant that I just had this feeling of "dread" about it. For no reason whatsoever I almost felt depressed! When I had spotting at 6 weeks I told him that I was probably miscarrying and it was just my intuition trying to protect me from getting attached. I was convinced something bad was going to happen. But almost 3 weeks later after two ultrasounds with good heartbeats I finally got the dark cloud to go away and feel much better! I guess after you have your first you just know how lucky you are and what you stand to lose if it goes wrong.

Ventura and Andrew · June 2012

There are some nights I think my head might explode I am worried so much. I used to have insomnia pretty badly, and I have found that I have it again since I have found out I am pregnant.

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