how to tell my siblings

leolow · June 2012

I have 2 older sisters and a younger brother, each with their own unique personalities and lives, of course. My oldest sister has 2 toddlers and I know she will be thrilled when I share the news.

Sister #2 sees herself as the "black sheep" of the family, is unmarried, no kids. She has always been extremely supportive of me, but when I told her today about being pregnant, she did not exactly sound happy for me. I think sometimes that she thinks I am "jumping ahead" of her since I got married before her, etc.

My brother (1 year younger than me) and his wife just had a miscarriage last month, so I know when I tell him, it will probably be a sensitive and bitter topic.

Anyone else dreading telling some family members? My parents and my husband's family have all been thrilled. Sometimes I think stuff like this is just how childhood sibling rivalries play out in adulthood. Even though we all love each other very much and get along great, there can be underlying sensitivities.

MoreThanABride · June 2012

I am a little nervous about telling my sister because she is TTC and last month we were both complaining about how it sucked to not be pregnant. She has been trying a lot longer than me and I think she will be pretty upset if I tell her and she is not pregnant yet.

GraceyandTroy · June 2012

One of my best friends has been trying for over six years, and while I was trying for over two years and she and I shared our experiences, I was still really heartbroken writing an email to tell her the news. I decided to go with email, because when I was having tttc, I wanted to hear the news privately so I could have a chance to process my feelings and respond positively when I actually responded.

DH's sister had a mc last fall, so we will send her a gentile email and let her know we are praying for them to be parents in their own right soon. Other siblings (DH has 7) we will tell as we see the ones we are closer to and DH will call the rest. For my sister, she got to find out when I told my parents on Father's Day, and she cried she was so happy for us.

Generally, family will react however they want. I'm more concerned about the ones who we are friends with, too.

sekura · June 2012

I agree with Gracey; telling someone who's had TTTC should be done very sensitively. Email is probably best; let them know you care about them and wanted to tell them in the easiest way possible for them.

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