What have you already done that you swore you'd never do?

easjer05 · June 2012

I was pretty open to the idea that flexibility would be needed and there was no point in a long list of things I would/wouldn't do until she arrived and we saw what worked for us.

But the one thing I swore I would never do was bring the baby into the bed with me/us and co-sleep at all. It was just too dangerous. . .

and it was also the only way to get her to calm down and for me not to drop her when I was super sleep deprived. We don't regularly co-sleep, but the occasional nap? Yep, especially when she's overtired and won't sleep any other way.

And to be honest? I love the snuggles.

Jinnifah · June 2012

I was going to say the exact same thing. But last night, and for morning naps, lying down cuddling in bed is the only way to get him to settle. I'm glad I tried it.

jlsweets · June 2012

haha yup joining the club! I always said I would never bring him into bed with me..My sister always did that with her son and I would always tell her how dangerous I thought it was and how I thought I would some how suffocate him. She would always just kind of laugh at me and say just wait...Soooo now here we are and I'm doing it..I do it mostly for naps, like when I want to take a nap we sleep together and I can tell he really enjoys it, seems so happy and content being that close to me. At night he sleeps in his bassinet but at his last time waking up which is around 4 I usually just feed him in bed and sleep together until the morning...I also think there is some natural motherly instinct that prevents you from rolling on them..ha

bloverde · June 2012

Same thing here. I'm afraid of dropping him and he won't sleep unless he's touching me. I don't actually sleep well, because I'm afraid of SIDS or DH rolling over on him the whole time. The rest I knew I had to be flexible about.

bornmommy · June 2012

This exactly. I always said I'd never have him in the bed but we always fall asleep together after the 3am feeding.

huskymomma94 · June 2012

We gave him a pacifier when he was 3 days old. I swore I wouldn't, but he loved it and it actually helped him learn how to latch on better.

Nicolewinsbingo · June 2012

Pacifier at 2 days old! (Intended to start it much later). Be a little bit psycho about who can hold him (always thought I'd be totally laid back).

PregoPuma · June 2012

I vowed never to sleep with my baby. Our parenting classes taught us it was unsafe & that we could roll over and smother our baby. Well, I decided to do my own research...and after reading several articles and published studies on leche league https://www.llli.org/nb/nbsleep.html and on Dr. Sears' website https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/sids-latest-research-how-sleeping-your-baby-safe I found that it's actually safer to sleep with your baby (when done safely according to the recommendations). Research shows that babies' breathing is more regulated and they have less episodes of apnea because the mother's breathing helps to regulate babies due to their close proximity.

In fact, I also learned that the average number of deaths due to "smothering" or rolling over on your baby are about 65 per year....compared to 4,250 per year of SIDS deaths in a crib. Accidental deaths in an adult bed are about 1.5% of the number of annual SIDS deaths.

When you dig a little deeper, you will also find one of the articles above reveals who is behind this new national campaign to warn parents not to sleep with their babies. It's the Juvenile Products Manufacturers Association (JPMA)...people who make cribs! Obviously it benefits them to make us think sleeping in an adult bed is so unsafe, because otherwise crib sales might decline. Interesting what you discover when you do your research!

BelleIsa · June 2012

After DD1, I knew never to say never! lol

That said, co-sleeping is something I was never interested in doing... until DD2 wouldn't sleep any other way. Hopefully it's just a phase - during the day she naps well on her own and for some stretches at night, just just seems that she needs to be next to me to fall asleep at 8 pm....

RMama2012 · June 2012

I didn't swear off anything but after a few days I realized how people get into those "bad" habits. When you haven't slept for days, you'll try absolutely anything!

Lynnette171 · June 2012

huskymomma94:
We gave him a pacifier when he was 3 days old. I swore I wouldn't, but he loved it and it actually helped him learn how to latch on better.

This exactly. He refused to latch until I introducedthe pacifier. We still had issues, but he at least latches 50% of the time after I introduced it.

Also, I swore I wouldn't bed share, but as everyone else has said, when the baby screams as soon as you puthim down every time, and after you have lost enough sleep, you'll do anything. He at least has moved from sleeping all night with me to sleeping the 1st stretch in his cosleeper, but then after his feeding is in bed with me.

lovetohike · June 2012

I had no "I will never"s this time.. Last time I swore I wouldn't sleep with my child .. Trip, he never spent one night in a crib. With baby #2 we didn't even bother to buy a crib. We have a RNP but he is in bed with us on my side of the bed. I love cosleeping and am happy to do it again. I love waking up to a sweet baby.

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