1st Trimester

Spacing out kids

I know this is a personal choice, and everyone has a different experience. But I am interested to know how much waiting time you have between having kids.

My husband wants our kids close together. I want our kids KIND OF close together, but I'm also concerned with not giving each child enough attention if they're too close in age. I also want to be the best momma I can be, and would want to have energy, something I'm not sure I'd have if I'm chasing 2 toddlers around, instead of just 1.:)  I'm pregnant with my first, so I was just interested to know what you chose to do, and how it worked out for you.

Thanks!

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  • My boys are 2 years apart and then there is a 5 year gap between DS2 and DD. DD and this LO will be 2 years apart.  2 years was a good gap but I'm good there was a big space between the middle two.
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  • Our DS will be 5 by the time DD is born. This honestly wasn't planned, but I'm happy with the idea of having two kids 5 years apart. DS will be a big helper and is pretty self sufficient at this point leaving me with two hands to devote to an infant at all times. plus he's had plenty of time as the only child to have attention from grand parents etc before little sister comes along.

    My sister has a boy / girl combo too, but her's are only 1.5 years apart and that poor girl has been run ragged. I don't think she's slept in 3 years so in that sense I'm very happy with how long we waited. 

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  • I'm hoping for 3-3 1/2 years. That's how far a part my brother and I are and we're really close, but I was pretty independent by the time he was born so it was easier for my mom to deal with. 

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  • This is my first but I'm noticing that 2 years seems to be the number for a lot of people I know.
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  • Mine will be 22 months apart.
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  • Well, we wanted ours 2-3 years apart but they will be 1 1/2 years apart. I know it's going to be challenging but the Two Under Two board is very helpful and encouraging. I would like our 3rd to be 3 years after LO is born. At least... Def. going on some birth control after LO is born!! Declined last time because I was bf-ing and having trouble so my OB was hesitant to give me anything...other than saying to use condoms. 
  • DD and LO#2 will be 2 years and 2 months apart.  We liked the idea of 2 years between them.  Prior to getting pregnant we started talking about maybe waiting and having a 3 year gap.  Either way we wanted them close in age.
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  • we just have sex and let God do the rest... children are a blessing from the Lord, we embrace that and trust that God will give us what He has chosen for us to have, and He will provide for the rest...  we have two boys 2 years and 7 months.. and im pregnant again.... my second child will be 13 months when I deliver....  In my heart i'd love 6 kids but whatever the Lord gives us will be a wonderful blessing.
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  • I always wanted my kids close.  In fact, just before DS turned one I started talking about having another.  For various reasons we waited to start TTC, then it took us 6 to get pregnant.  Now that we've gotten our BFP, I'm pretty excited about the age different.  They should be just about 2.5 years apart.  (And I'm hoping to have DS potty trained by then! I can hope....)
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    DS will be just over 2 when this LO is born.  We actually wanted them closer together, but ended up with 2 m/c.  We are hoping to have another fairly soon after this LO.  Our thoughts are that we want to be done with diapers before DH turned 40.

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  • We decided on two years(ish) Our first will be 2 in March and I'm due in Jan.  Close enough :]
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  • The original plan was to have our first two children about 3 years apart, but I got pregnant unexpectedly about a year ahead of schedule. So, they will be almost exactly two years apart. :) I would really like a third down the road, but we will probably wait a little longer to think about that. 2 under 2 seems intimidating now, but I'm sure we'll be fine. DS is 17 months old now and LOVES babies. Every time he sees one he says, "BABY! HI! Awwww." So I think he'll be an awesome big brother.



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  • We wanted our kids 2 1/2 - 3 years apart.  That is how far apart my brothers and I are and it is a good spread.  DS will turn 3 in February.
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  • We were shooting for 2 years apart, our will be 2 1/2 years apart, and I think that's a good gap.
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  • DD and DS are just shy of 14 months apart, the new baby and DS will be 26 months apart. Planned and love the age difference of DD and DS, hoping #3 will be as smooth a transition.
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