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September 2012 Moms
KellersPrag
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Do I just come out and say it? NBR.
KellersPrag
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This may make me a biitch. I'm not sure.
I just got back on Facebook maybe two weeks ago. My old manager and friend, who I keep in general contact with, but am not super close with messaged me today. She asked me to share a link on my page to her and her husband's fundraiser because he was diagnosed with an illness and they are trying to raise money.
I'm all about helping out... attending events, donating, whatever. But I'm not comfortable sharing that on my wall. Is there a nice way to say that? Should I just tell her that? Should I ignore it?
I'm torn, because like I said... I keep in contact with her and I'm fond of her... but I'm just not comfortable having that on my page, asking people who have no idea who she is to donate money to her.
"Mommy, HELP ME!"
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Re: Do I just come out and say it? NBR.
I would tell her your happy helping out... attending events, donating, whatever. But you're not comfortable sharing that on your wall.
That sound's nice enough to me. Just because someone asks a favor does not mean you're required to say yes.
(read it. you know you want to.)
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I thought that for a moment, and she very well may have... but she still took the time to send one only to me, and not a group. It even has "Hey Jen" at the beginning. Sigh.
Agreed. What harm can it cause to you, really? You don't have to say anything, just copy and paste it and done.
It doesn't cause any harm... I just don't feel comfortable. I don't have a friend list of hundreds of people, I have a small group of actual friends. I don't mind going on someone's page and seeing that they have a fundraiser set up for themselves or their family. But I cannot understand going onto someone's page and seeing that their friend's husband needs money.
Like I said, it might make me a biitch.
Ooh this! Really good idea!
That is hilarious. I never would have thought of that. Just be careful if you have lots of friends in common and it might come up! (Ie. Just go to so and so's wall and you'll see the link...oh it's not there?)
When my dad had cancer we had so many random people give money at his benefit and it really helped them. I'm sure if one of your loved ones desperately needed it, you'd be so grateful to all that helped.
this.
IMHO, if the link had come from a mutual friend saying, "Hey, so-and-so's husband is sick, so we're passing around this fundraiser link to raise money for them. Please share," it would have been better received than, "Hey, my husband's sick and we need money. Please solicit donations by sharing this fundraiser link with your FB friends."
Like hosting your own baby shower, holding your own personal fundraiser just seems.. slightly odd. I don't know. I'm suspicious of stuff like that because of those stories you hear of people faking illnesses for the money. :
On a side note, TAGSL710, I'm so sorry to hear that your dad had cancer!
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How crazy insane is it that I had a fb group message me something like this yesterday. She has three kids, two of which have cf. One of them has been in the hospital for close to a month with kidney failure. I shared the address on my fb page so people can send get well cards, but now she wants me to share a link to a chipin page so people can donate money to her and her hubby to pay utility bills.
I get that - of course I'd be grateful for help. My father has Multiple Sclerosis, diabetes, traces of cancer... he has quite a few ailments that will never go away. But I would never be presumptuous enough to ask people to put a request for money for my family member on their page. Benefits are different, IMHO.