Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
ashleybritton
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Re: When did your baby start smiling at you?
My boys started smiling at about 6-7 weeks adjusted. The eye contact developed more over time. I would not even worry about it if he is only 2 days adjusted. As hard as it is, try not to compare!
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My daughter, who was born at 26 weeks, gave me her first official "social" smile about 10 days ago! She was a little over 1 month adjusted. She had been smiling before that, but it was those internal/content smiles that wasn't in response to use talking to her. Since she's done that, she does it now a few times a day when she first wakes up and sees us or is just happy and content playing.
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This - it's especially noticeable in the beginning when you have the eternal NB. I tried to stay away from those pages until he was a little older. I don't remember the timeframe for the first intentional smile, but I think it was around 2 mo adjusted.
My baby is 7 weeks adjusted. He finally gave us his first real/social smiles last Friday and Saturday (just brief fleeting smiles that were gone as quickly as they appeared).
He didn't smile again until today... this morning I got in his face, determined to see that smile, and I talked to him, smiled, laughed, cooed, made silly sounds, tickled his cheek and lips, etc.
After a few minutes of this, I saw that he was staring down at my smiling mouth and was on the verge of a smile.
And then it broke through! He smiled and smiled at me for a good minute! (I tried to capture it with my camera but of course the smile was gone by then.)
I realized that a lot of babies start smiling on their own, but I think you can coax smiles out of them a little sooner if you do what I did and really "work" on it (and even if baby doesn't smile, it's still very sweet bonding time!). BTW, I had tried that before and it didn't work... babies just smile on their own timetable. But I can tell you that when it finally happens, it will rock your world and you will be the proudest Mommy on the planet! Definitely worth the wait!
eta: Oh gosh, I misread your baby's age (should've looked at your ticker, duh!). I was thinking our baby is 6 weeks adjusted. If your baby is only a couple days old adjusted... that is a newborn! Newborns just don't smile (except in their sleep)! I know it's hard but expecting a 2-day-old to smile is like having an early-term preemie and expecting them to come out ready to breastfeed. I KNOW it's hard... but if I were you, I would focus on the posts by people whose babies are the same gestation age (i.e. newborn -- NOT six weeks old) and don't even open posts about babies who are older. My baby is technically four months old, but if I were to read any posts about full-term 4-month-olds, I'd be depressed out of my mind. Don't even think about what full-term 6-week-olds are doing and try as hard as you can to enjoy this sweet newborn stage!
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Aiden started around 6 weeks adjusted....he was born at 30 weeks.
Now he does it all the time (8 weeks adjusted).
Its hard because he is not like a typical 4 month old but he is incredible and my sweet little miracle!