Feeling Pretty Guilty

samibear74 · June 2012

I saw my Dr on Tuesday for a normal check up. I was 40 weeks and 2 days. That morning I was so tired and I was starting to feel stressed about returning to back to work in early August (is this enough time??). He checked my cervix and I was 2-3cm dilated, 90% effaced, and -2 station. He talked to me about how I was going to need the NST by Friday and an ultrasound early next week if I wanted to continue waiting. Then he offered an induction on Friday morning and said that I would be a good candidate... I can't believe it but I said yes. I have been so against induction and want a natural labor etc this whole time and then I just folded so that I could have an end in site. I am seriously considering calling tomorrow morning and canceling the induction and scheduling the NST instead. One issue is that I of course have already told my family about the induction on Friday...I just don't know if I can live with myself for making the decision to do an "unneeded" induction. I feel like I copped out.

Bellachick · June 2012

When I saw my doctor on Monday she wanted to schedule an induction for today. I felt pressured to say yes, so I scheduled it. Then when I got home I did some more research and decided it just wasn't a good idea for me. So, I called and cancelled it. I felt that since I've had a healthy pregnancy and no complications, I didn't need the induction. I'll wait and let baby chose his birthday! You do have a choice, and can cancel it anytime.

samibear74 · June 2012

Thanks Ladies. I am going to call tomorrow and cancel. If I am already having anxiety over it I can just imagine how I would be the day of the induction. I am going to do the NST and if he is doing fine I am just going to wait it out until he is ready.

tellytell08 · June 2012

How much longer is your doctor going to let u wait it out?

samibear74 · June 2012

They told me the max would be 42 weeks and that I would have to be monitored with NST and biophysical profiles done.

khagan9368 · June 2012

I was induced yesterday (blood pressure was sky high, I was in a lot of pain)

I now have balloons inflated in places they don't belong and a steady drip of pitocin in going. While neither are causing me THAT much pain I'm sick of sitting here waiting. My DD came on her own and was born in a few hours I say if you can wait, wait.

sarahsteve · June 2012

I am 40w4d so right there with you with the impatience and completely uncomfortable, but I'd encourage you to wait too. I had an induction with my first that failed, and ended up in a c-section. This time, trying to give my body every possible chance to go into labor naturally - all the way to 42 weeks.

kdjudd · June 2012

I was in a similar position. I was very pro-natural birth, but when it came to the end of my pregnancy and the doctor started to talk about how large my baby was going to be I caved and decided that an induction would be best. I felt guilty about it too, but emotionally I needed there to be an end in sight. I ended up going into labor on my own five days before the induction! Don't feel guilty about your decision. Pregnancy is seriously one of the hardest things you will ever do. There is no shame in being tired and needing there to be an end. Also, who knows! Maybe your baby will come on their own before you get induced!

kincaid44 · June 2012

Maybe rethink it? Your progress is pretty good, so I bet it wouldn't be too much longer. I am not even 39 weeks yet (2 cm, 80%) and we almost accepted the induction for this weekend that my midwife offered, but I just couldn't do it. I knew that I would feel guilty about it, because they baby is perfectly fine and there is no reason to do it. (she offered it to me because I've been in prodromal labor for a week, just in case anyone was wondering)

liyahc9 · June 2012

I wish that mom's would stop feeling guilty about making decisions!! It is ok to be induced especially if you are alraeady showing the amount of progress you are. You are almost completely thinned out and the baby is moving well into position. You made an instinct decision and you did for some reason, and it was not so that you would go home and make yourself feel guilty. Your baby is nice a ripe if you know what I mean and if your first instinct was to agree to induction then I say go with it!!

Not all inductions fail and although people say well I ended up in a c-section because I got induced 95% of the time that is not the case. Your baby could be face up, and could have heart rate drops with or without induction and you may still end of in a c-section. So don't be alarmed if those happen as well. You simply need to go in open-minded that you are going to do your best throughout labor and want what is ultimately best for you and the baby when and if the time comes to make a decision about c-section. This way you will be less likely to blame yourself because you have been a great mom thus far to your unborn baby and this decision isn't of to induce or not to induce is not going to change that. You are still a great mom and will continue to be so please stop the blame and guilt!!! You don't deserve it!!

jess9802 · June 2012

I was induced at 2-3 cm and 70% effaced - two doses of Cytotec to further ripen the cervix, and then Pitocin. I delivered DS 10 hours after the Pitocin was administered - no C-section, and baby tolerated the labor exceptionally well. I believe ours was a positive induction story, and I was 39w3d.

I hate the trope that "babies know when to come." No, they don't. We don't know what causes moms to go into labor. Your doctor is offering the induction vs. the other monitoring because the risks start to increase the longer a pregnancy lasts. Make an informed decision as to the risk vs. benefit of waiting longer, but don't feel guilty for accepting an induction.

liyahc9 · June 2012

AGREED!!!

snicksnack · June 2012

There really is no way to know so go with your gut. With DD I waited and at 41 weeks two days still 0 progress so I had a folly bulb induction and ended up needing Pit. I did deliver without C over 24 hours later. With this one my doc was concerned about his size and I was favorable so I did the induction and so glad I did because he was over 9 pounds and barely made it out his shoulder got stuck but the doc got him out with her hands so no intervention, cutting or tearing. She did say had I waited he would have been close to ten and I would have needed a C. The doc was suprised by his size she thought if I waited he would have been over 9 she was guessing 8.5 even though the sonogram was on target with his size, which she said is rare.

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