Sexy time...?

k8edgerton · June 2012

DH is horny... 24/7 This is the longest that we have ever gone without being intimate. At four weeks, I am getting a bit hot and bothered myself.

I was cut and had stitches. Basically, everything is healed down there.

So, DH wants to go down there... I am unsure if it is okay for him to do so? I stopped bleeding two days ago. So, is there any harm in foreplay?

Also, anyone else's DH can't keep his hands off of you? He basically jumps me and swindles me into passionate kisses as much as possible. I enjoy it but it holy cow... I didn't think that he would be so into my post preggo body. He says that he likes me more now. Which is sweet... but I still want my abs back. I used to have abs... sigh.

lovesharkweek · June 2012

My husband is the same way (me too). I can't believe how much he digs my new bigger, floppier body! I think it's because he had become accustomed to the huge belly, but he does love my new big butt! I've never had much of a butt before! Unfourtunatly I'm still bleeding, so no sexy time yet...

elviebird · June 2012

I would call your doc and ask. Usually they give you clearance at your 6 week pp visit, but maybe its longer if you tore or had an episiotomy?

DH and I tried last weekend. We haven't had sex in probably 5 months. Both of us were into it but unfortunately it hurt for me... guess my body isn't used to it anymore. Sad Need to ease into it slowly.

winter-shock · June 2012

I would make sure to take it slow. It can hurt like hell the first time.

Elvie, it gets better. With my first baby though, I won't lie, it took 2 solid months of us trying regularly before it stopped hurting. And make sure to try different positions you would be really surprised how big of a difference the position you are in will make. Good news is this time I healed up quick and it was very very slightly uncomfortable, otherwise it was all good

Heather2256 · June 2012

Yeah it's only been 2 weeks for us (since birth of LO) but already like a month since we've done it. And DH is already going bonkers. I can't imagine how he'll be when/if I get cleared at 6 weeks. If the doc give you the green light, good luck!

bornmommy · June 2012

My DH is super horny too! He hasn't stopped being horny throughout my pregnancy and now he asks everyday if we can "get down!" He is well aware that the shop is closed until my 6 week visit, even though I am all healed up and wicked horny as well. One of my main reasons is that I don't want to be that girl who is pregnant at her six month check up!

christinaa722 · June 2012

I'm having the same deal with my DH, but I'm just not interested. I feel less sexy than ever and honestly, I'm just not rearing to go. We havent had sex since Thanksgiving!!! Its basically awful, and honestly I had major rippage down there and almost 12 weeks later I'm still not normal.

jlsweets · June 2012

My husband has been driving me crazy with wanting to do it. Honestly I am not interested in the slightest. I feel like the baby needs me all day that by the end of the day I don't want to have someone on me and deal with their needs. Sounds selfish I know but I just can't shake that feeling. I had way more of a sex drive when I was pregnant. Now I just feel flabby and covered in breastmilk, not so sexy. I also am still bleeding so that has been my excuse to my dh plus I want to wait for my 6wk checkup

ELF4321 · June 2012

Even if you feel like you've healed, it might not be safe yet. Definitely check with your doctor first. I had my checkup at 5.5 weeks pp and thought they'd say everything looked great because I had stopped bleeding a week earlier and felt ok -- instead she told me that I'm not healing as fast as they would like to see and I should wait until 8 weeks pp for sex and exercise.

BelleIsa · June 2012

With DD1 we had sex at 4 weeks PP (vaginal delivery, no stitches or tearing), and this time around I'm waiting until 6 weeks PP. I'm just so much more tired this time around (same vaginal delivery, no stitches or tearing) looking after DD1, who's 2 and needs lots of attention and DD2. I'm still bleeding too, so not really into it.

Also, with DD1 I wasn't leaking as much breastmilk. It seems my letdown is much more forceful now and I'm always damp with breastmilk which is kind of a turn off for me (I try not to use breastpads at home since they tend to promote thrush which I'm prone to so I'm doing everything to avoid it!).

gervaisj6 · June 2012

Man, we haven't done it since I was about 14 weeks... Boo. But I am not sure I want to do it or have the energy now...LOL

faydre · June 2012

I'm not interested at all. I'm scared...

But, I got the go ahead from my Ob on Monday, so it's only a matter of time before DH gets ansy. Ugh...

JennyJensing · June 2012

I made DH come home early the day of our induction so we could "bang" lol because I knew it wouldn't happen again for awhile. I think as long as he's not inserting anything in your va-j-j, foreplay is fine. I would say, if you get uncomfortable, just stop!

We are waiting until after our 6 week check up next week to even attempt. I think I'll be getting Mirena inserted and may be irritated from that even then. I think the average woman is most comfortable around 11 weeks pp. I've also read to make sure you've got some lube handy--your hormones are still outta whack even if you are healed! GL!

wheelsonthebus · June 2012

Sex is the LAST thing on my mind right now. At my 4 week pp appointment, my midwife asked if I'd had sex and I laughed out loud. You ladies are brave!

EmilyXLC · June 2012

Do NOT have sex before you are given the all-clear from your doctor!

I was given the okay at my 6 week check up. We tried about 4 days after. About 15 seconds in, I was crying & begging him to stop. We haven't tried since.

I feel horrible because he's exceptionally turned on these days & I have to turn him down. I had never, ever turned him down before now & it makes me feel like a bad wife, but... It was far too painful.

Jinnifah · June 2012

It's probably best to get the ok from your ob before trying anything, just in case.

my dh is feeling the same way. It's been 3 weeks or so since we last had sex, and he's started initiating a lot of making out - something we haven't really done in years! So it's been really fun. This morning he lingered a few seconds giving me a goodbye kiss before work and on the way out the door exclaimed "I got half a stock off that!"

poor guys

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