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ashtonblair123ashtonblair123 member
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So, my mom, grandmother, and aunt are planning my shower for this side of the family. They refuse to work together with my husband's family to throw one shower. My grandmother has now decided that my mother in law (who knows nothing about their shower except the date) is copying her and/or going to have hers first JUST to be spiteful. My MIL actually has several weekends in September (when my side of the family is planning their shower) where she already has plans. My baby is due early November and I don't want my shower pushed back very far so I have time to get everything prepared in the nursery and have time to buy things that I still need and early October is when my MIL is throwing the shower for my SIL. How can I convince my grandmother that there isn't any problem with my in laws planning their shower before theirs and that she's the one being problematic? Also, that she can't get mad at my MIL if she chooses the same theme as their shower if they don't tell her what the theme of their shower is? (It's supposed to be a surprise or something, so I don't know it.)
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    EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    You can't reason with crazy. Don't tell your grandmother any details (I mean, how does she know the theme of the other shower?).  She asks, she gets pissy. Just shrug your shoulders and say "don't know". 
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    See, the thing is she doesn't know anything about the other shower except that they are planning one. Because I don't know anything. I didn't even tell her she was probably going to do it before their shower. She just decided to go crazy about it.
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    EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    imageashtonblair123:
    See, the thing is she doesn't know anything about the other shower except that they are planning one. Because I don't know anything. I didn't even tell her she was probably going to do it before their shower. She just decided to go crazy about it.
    Then let her go crazy. "don't know what to tell ya gram". 

     Anything you try to convince her about, she's going to use that as more ammo to be crazy. 

     OR stop trying to be nice about it and just tell her you're not playing this game. This baby is as important to his family as it yours and that's all that matters to you.  

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    CraftyKaylaCraftyKayla member
    Crazy is crazy. I'd try to explain that you told MIL nothing about their shower. If she doesn't let it go, I'd just ignore it.
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    rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    Sounds like she is just a crotchety grandma.  I wouldn't get into it with her...just keep saying "I don't know".  Let that be your mantra.  Why is she so concerned that it will be the same theme anyway?  The same people won't be at both showers.
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    CranangCranang member

    imagerhubarb123:
    Sounds like she is just a crotchety grandma.  I wouldn't get into it with her...just keep saying "I don't know".  Let that be your mantra.  Why is she so concerned that it will be the same theme anyway?  The same people won't be at both showers.

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    Good grief, I'm sorry you have to deal with this.  What the hell is wrong with people??

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    eav2ceav2c member
    Well theory, if your MIL is first your grandmother can outdo it. Honestly though, tell your grandmother she's causing you a great deal of stress and to move on.
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