Pee Sticks on Facebook

Ziegeficker · June 2012

Why does it annoy me so when one of my Facebook friends posts a picture of a positive pregnancy test on their wall? I'm having a hard time figuring this out, but it drives me flucking nutty...

Is it because I'm jealous that they don't have to worry about pregnancy loss and get to feel comfortable announcing their pregnancy when they are five weeks along? Do I miss that naivety?

Is it because I'm disgusted by seeing something they just pissed on?

Is it because I'm being a bitter b!tch and will be like this until I finally get my baby? It's ok...you can say so if it is.

Just wondering if I'm the only one who feels this way...it feels unreasonable, but seeing this crap puts me in a cynical mood that my husband just doesn't understand. Of course I would never wish a miscarriage on anybody...I just think I'm being cranky.

And yesterday, TWO of my friends on Facebook did this! One of them is already complaining about pregnancy symptoms and scheming about names...Arrgghhhh...

Allycat11 · June 2012

They kind of bug me too...especially if they are announcing immediately. However, I also am not a fan of people who give pee sticks as presents to people to say they are pregnant (people on TB have mentioned this as an awesome way to announce). DH has seen the tests with both of my pregnancies, but I've never shown them to anyone else.

WearingRed · June 2012

I was this way even before I got pregnant and miscarried. I always thought how stupid to announce before you have even been to the Dr.

Ziegeficker · June 2012

I'm trying not to be b!tchy, but I'm in a mood today because of some work-related crap...and then I saw that. I did the proper thing and congratulated them (because a pregnancy is great news, even if I'm bitter) and asked when she was due...she said, "Sometime in February, but I won't know the exact date until I see the doctor on Thursday." So obviously, if this were a scratch and sniff, my office would smell like urine, because that stick wasn't even dry yet...

Whatever. I'm going to reward my negativity with a prenatal massage, because apparently those might be covered by my insurance, and hooray for that!

jessalynn521 · June 2012

It bugs me, but I can say that I had a friend do it but not until 14 weeks and it didn't bother me at all in that case. I guess that must mean it bothers me because they are announcing to the world before the pee is dry so to speak, but that bothers me no matter how they announce. I am friends with a girl who went through 4 rounds of infertility treatment of some sort and still announced the day she found out. I was a little shocked at that one.

Mom2anAngel2 · June 2012

They really annoy me too! I also get annoyed when someone posts a 7w U/S pic on facebook. I think it may have to do with the fact that I am jealous, but I don't think it is all that. With my first pg, a "friend" posted a 7w u/s pic when I was about 13-14 weeks along and it still bugged me. I had not been through our loss yet, but I did not like it.

I guess to each their own. Ugh!

Allycat11 · June 2012

Mom2anAngel2:
They really annoy me too! I also get annoyed when someone posts a 7w U/S pic on facebook. I think it may have to do with the fact that I am jealous, but I don't think it is all that. With my first pg, a "friend" posted a 7w u/s pic when I was about 13-14 weeks along and it still bugged me. I had not been through our loss yet, but I did not like it.

I guess to each their own. Ugh!

This has always bothered me. Your baby looks like a blob at that point.

MoreThanABride · June 2012

I think posting pictures of pee sticks is gross, I don't know why people think it's a good idea on fb

letitbe3 · June 2012

SUPER annoying. And I can completely feel for you - right after my miscarriage, the entire world got pregnant and announced it immediately to the entire freakin' planet. My attitude was the same as you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Experiencing something like that makes you look at pregnancy in a way that no one else understands I think, except those who have also been through it too And I think it's perfectly normal

Ziegeficker · June 2012

letitbe3:
SUPER annoying. And I can completely feel for you - right after my miscarriage, the entire world got pregnant and announced it immediately to the entire freakin' planet. My attitude was the same as you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Experiencing something like that makes you look at pregnancy in a way that no one else understands I think, except those who have also been through it too And I think it's perfectly normal

Luckily for me, I am currently pregnant, or this sort of thing would absolutely cause me to lose it. But I think I'm just surprised that, even at 24 weeks pregnant, I still feel this way about people nonchalantly announcing a pregnancy so early. I think after you've been through pregnancy losses, you can't ever take life or a pregnancy for granted no matter how far along you are.

Maybe this is just my way of saying I wish I could be that naive and carefree again...because it never escapes me that I could be here with a 3 month old baby right now...or due in just over a month.

Cherry1111 · June 2012

Yep I totally get where you are coming from. For me I think there is a total jealousy that they don't go through the stress and panic I go through every time I get a positive test. Then anger that they assume because there are 2 pink lines there will definitely be a baby in 8ish months. Even more so when I know they have seen friends/family suffer losses. How can they think it won't happen to them?

rockstarpups · June 2012

It totally annoys me when people announce as soon as they have a positive test. Some of it is definitely jealousy, but mostly I resent the people that just assume everything will be fine. I wish I lived in that naive world.

crystal8503 · June 2012

I think it's disgusting and have never congratulated a person when I saw the pee stick. I would have to wait several days at least and post on their wall or tell them in person. I think anything you have a bodily secretion on should be kept private. Did my husband see them? Of course! The only other person that saw them was my sister via text message because we have that type of relationship and we both laughed. I got pregnant the first time on our wedding night and found out 3 weeks later. She saw the pictures and immediately called me. When I answered, she was singing fertile myrtle. I wish that had lasted.

JulesDiane · June 2012

They TOTALLY piss me off. And sadly, I seethe for days after seeing them! Seriously.

aadewitt · June 2012

I think its gross. For my 1st pg (m/c) I had taken a few pics of the stick on my phone, no plan AT ALL to post. I just wanted the pic. When I found out I was going to m/c I had DH delete it. This time when I got the + sign, I didn't take a pic, I did how ever look at it now and then (it was a digital one that says Pregnant for 24 hrs) - I was also at my parents and didn't want to throw it away there and give the news away too early.

I can totally see the jealousy. I actually get angry at ppl on FB that post they are pg at like 6 weeks, 8 weeks...

Im like how can you be that confident that things will work out? but I guess if you haven't had a m/c before you don't understand and really know.

aadewitt · June 2012

btw I don't think I even said a word about me being pg on fb until I think the 20th week. Just to be sure. Even then I haven't posted much about it, but that is my own choice. I am very happy to see friends pg updates- as long as its not at 4, 6 or 8 weeks ish. after the 13th week I am happy for them (but also jealous that even then they are that confident!)

adoxyinherear · June 2012

I haven't known anyone to do this but it just seems crazy to me. Even before we experienced our loss we had no intention of sharing until at least 10 weeks. I just feel like it's unfortunate that so many women don't realize the true gravity of their situations

kbhaynes · June 2012

Cherry1111:
Yep I totally get where you are coming from. For me I think there is a total jealousy that they don't go through the stress and panic I go through every time I get a positive test. Then anger that they assume because there are 2 pink lines there will definitely be a baby in 8ish months. Even more so when I know they have seen friends/family suffer losses. How can they think it won't happen to them?

This, exactly. Yes

Shayliz · June 2012

I will never condone posting a pee stick on FB. More negative points if it's still wet.

KJohnson826 · June 2012

I find it annoying as well... I'm always like "Uh... you just peed on that..."

I hide a lot of pregnancy announcements/complaining posts on Facebook, I'm just waiting for the day I flip out on someone.

MrsLele · June 2012

I know someone who posted TEN pee sticks, a few of each brand! The same person is a nurse and got an ultrasound like every 2 weeks and posted EVERY photo. This sort of stuff irritated me even before I had a loss.

Chocodoxies · June 2012

My final breaking point with FB was when a HS friend posted a pic of her pee test and announced at 5 weeks which also happened to be the day I was seeking solace in FB because I was miscarrying my baby. I wasn't annoyed with her posting the pee stick (I was too overrun with depression and sadness) though I did think it was tacky, and I wasn't annoyed with her being naively optimistic, but I thought that MUST be the reason I was upset! How DARE she have a positive test and post it the day I lose my little one! I was annoyed with myself it turns out, and when that realization hit me I was floored! I was annoyed because instead of immediately being happy for her my first thought was "Oh my God! I hope she doesn't have a miscarriage!" and that thought made me feel like such a negative person! I was already having one of the worst days of my life, and now I was guilting myself because I couldn't jump up and down and be super duper happy for someone else getting what I so desperately wanted to save?! That is some kind of bullshovick! I am not a negative person, at least I don't like to think of myself that way, and to realize that my first thought at such a happy moment in her life was was a negative one (worrying that she would have to announce a miscarriage) upset me to my core. I hate that instead of being able to EVER be blindly happy for someone's pregnancy again, I am immediately worried for them and thus taken over with guilt and anguish. I just got off of FB then. My history makes me worry for those I love, and I can't do a thing about that, but I can do something about FB making me feel like a negative nancy, so I did, I logged off and didn't log back on.

pumpkinhead4 · June 2012

This may sound mean and pretty judgmental but I think when people post pee sticks it's kind of trashy! I don't know why I think this but I do. Something about it just lacks class to me, I can't figure out why. I agree with the early ultrasounds too, most people can't even tell it's a baby so why bother?! Just say you are pregnant or do something else creative but don't be coy and say stuff like "I have a secret but not ready to tell..." that's annoying to me! rrrrrr I am b%tchy today!

Kasi80 · June 2012

Ooh it irked the ish out of me for sometime after my m/c. I swear everyone got pg around when I did so I got to see all those announcements and I wanted to punch each and everyone of them. I was a mess. After I got pg again I had calmed down but I still shake my head at those who post their 4 week pregnancy.

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