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Keepin Secrets

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So I just found out I'm pregnant but don't feel comfortable sharing the news yet. My first pregnancy ended in a m/c and I'm just not willing to go public until I know everything is going smoothly. My problem is that we have weddings every single weekend in July and I'm not sure how to keep it a secret when I will not be drinking (and these are drinking people).

Anyone got suggestions for me? I already thought about just having my hubby dote on me extra hard at the receptions and make him get me "drinks" which can just be pop so no one would know the different but...PLUS I'm horrible at keeping secrets.

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  • Allycat11Allycat11 member
    Hiding the fact you are not drinking at weddings is really easy. IMO it is easiest to refresh your drink without any friends going with you.  Order something like a coke, sprite or cranberry juice with a lime in a cocktail glass.  Other options would be to pretend to sip something and just keep setting your glass down and "forgetting" it as you mingle.  Some people like to use excuses like being on antibiotics. Personally I think the second 2 options draw more attention and are more of a hassle.  
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  • mishka29mishka29 member

    Same issue here...other good excuses are that you are the DD tonight or that you are recovering from the previous drinking outing and have sworn off the booze for a couple of weeks (I use this right now but it's also true and there are numerous pictures to prove it)

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  • luvindanimalsluvindanimals member

    You can just drink a drink that looks like it could have something in it. As for keeping the secret just think to your self today is supposed to be all about the bride and groom. When you do tell people about your secret you want the attention to be fully on you! (Atleast I did hehe) Good luck and enjoy keeping your secret! ;)

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  • alkvoelkeralkvoelker
    imagemishka29:

    Same issue here...other good excuses are that you are the DD tonight or that you are recovering from the previous drinking outing and have sworn off the booze for a couple of weeks (I use this right now but it's also true and there are numerous pictures to prove it)

    This. Or simply, "I don't want to drink". Let them come to their own conclusions and don't give anything away. You don't have to lie or sneak around.

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  • Kie310Kie310 member

    Wedding were easy for me. I had 2 back to back weekends right when I found out. I wasn't sharing with that groups yet. Seriously, no one noticed. Not even the people I drink with all the time. It's so crazy and busy and you can be out dancing or table hopping, it's easy to lose track of time at a wedding.

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  • Kie310Kie310 member
    And at the 2nd wedding the bride herself wasn't drinking & was carrying around a wine glass that apparently had sherly temples in it all night. No one new until after the wedding!
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  • nallslnallsl

    I have a wine tasting w/the girls tomorrow. I plan to tell them that I recently had bloodwork taken and my liver levels were high. This buys me two months. This actually happened to me not too long ago, but no one knew. Either that or I am on a diet and the liquid calories are too much for me!

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  • mom2b22013mom2b22013 member
    I went to two weddings when I was pregnant with DS. Just order fruit fruit in cocktail glasses or like other people said Coke works too. The key is you can't make a big deal about not drinking. If you just go with the flow of the wedding no one will notice. If someone offers you a drink take it and just ditch it later.... people seriously don't notice. I fooled my sisters at one wedding who are usually pretty good at these things, and they had NO clue. They still talk about how our mom was drinking for two that night (I passed off real drinks too her!!!)
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  • amtrak18amtrak18
    Just keep a glass in your hand. You don't have to drink it but it makes the appearance nothing has changed. I had to do this for a work function. I took a couple of small sips but just made it appear I was drinking
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  • Nutella1979Nutella1979
    You're taking antibiotics.
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