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sroddy12
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Would you do it again?
sroddy12
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DH and I are thinking about when we will start trying for LO #2. If you had the chance to go back, would you have 2 under 2? We wanted to start trying as soon as DS turns one but it makes me super nervous thinking of two children under 2 yrs old. DH is 35 yrs old and doesn't want to be 40 with a newborn if we decide to have three children.
+hpt on December 27th, 2010--miscarriage and D&C at 12 weeks--angel taken too soon but never forgotten
Clomid started June 2011-- +hpt July 2, 2011--grow baby grow 
Chance Bryant born @ 31 weeks due to abruption
Chance Bryant born @ 31 weeks due to abruption
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Re: Would you do it again?
Definitely and we plan to, although we might leave a little more spacing between #2 and #3 but then have #3 and #4 be 2u2.
Would I do my current 2u2 again? Absolutely. I can't imagine life without either of them and wouldn't trade these babies or this life for anything. They adore each other and I'm excited to watch them grow up together and hopefully be good friends.
Do I plan to do 2u2 in the future, if we should decide we want #3? Nope. If we have #3 we would want #2 to be at least 26ish months, but not more than 3 years. We want all the kids somewhat close in age, but need a break from the haze of sleep deprivation.
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
Exactly this. We started to ttc when we would have over a 2 year age difference between 2-3, but if it took a long time to ttc and there was going to be 3+ years, I'd likely just stick with 2. I definitely needed a break for my physical health in getting a break between closely spaced pregnancies as well as dealing with it mentally.
I loved having 2u2 the first time around and am glad my kids will have each other to play with when we go through the pregnant stage again. My 2u2 are so close already and I feel the benefits of 2u2 far outweighed the disadvantages.
Yes. My first two are 14 months apart and the transition was super easy.
The 18 month age gap I'm dealing with now between DD2 and DD3, not so much. If I were you, I'd get KU now!
In all honesty at this point NO, do I love my youngest yes, am I glad we had him yes, but do I wish there was more time between them YES. I feel like my toddler had to grow up too fast that he didn't while I was pregnant or now with an infant in the house get the babying he deserved. I also feel like my lo doesn't get the time he deserves either. I also feel like I never have a moment without changing a diaper, feeding some one or listening to one or mom kid crying.
I know I'm very new to this but I feel like having two so close I'm missing out on the good parts of having babies. I liked having my first two spaced out more.
Would I do it again? Yes.
Was it easy? No.
I feel like the benefits we are reaping now of having our kids close in age is worth the efforts we have made and continue to make caring for two tiny kiddos. As they get older they are getting closer and closer which is awesome to see. I am happy they have one another
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Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
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No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
This...exactly this. I have a six week old and an 18 month old, and frankly it's about staying afloat. It's about which kid to rescue from crying first. I totally agree that my oldest is having to grow up faster and I sometimes feel guilty because of it. On the other hand, we had our boys so close together because we wanted them to be close in age and have fun together and be best friends etc. It has definitely taken some time to get used to, and I'm not as nutso as I thought I would be- but it is the HARDEST thing I have ever done. When people ask us about #3 I always laugh and say that "even so much as a Cricket better not get pregnant in my yard until these boys are potty trained"- and I am dead serious! lol As of right now, today, there may not be a number three (and neither one of my kids have had a meltdown today to influence that decision lol)
There are pro's and con's, I almost feel like everything else is on hold like my marriage, vacation, friendships, work etc. All of my time is dedicated to the boys, and frankly going to walmart is now my vacation.
Would I do it again? It's hard to say- I definitely think it will be easier in the long haul when it comes to routine and the boys being on the same ball team etc. But I really shouldn't have taken for granted how easy it was with one.
Someone told me that it's harder to have Two under 2 than it is to have twins....she was right!
This is exactly
(except mine would be #5 & #6)
Yes, and we are!
My 2 boys are exactly 24 months apart (birthdays are 2 days apart) and DD is due right after they turn 4 and 2. My boys play so much and so well together now that I'm not really worried about them with the baby -- I can deal with her while they're occupied with each other.
Are there things that are hard about having them close in age? Yes. But for me/us, I think the long-term benefits outweigh the cons.
Yep! We have a 22 month age gap between our first and second, 21 months in between our second and third, and there will be just under 17 months in between our third and fourth kiddos. However, if we have a fifth, there will most likely be a larger age gap (probably around 3 years).
I'll be the voice of dissent. I would not do it again. I wouldn't give up either of my children for the world but you know if I could wait a little while and have the same DS#2 I would. But maybe I am still in the difficult part...
ETA: woa, I didn't read other comments. People actually already said they wouldn't. Usually when this stuff gets posted everyone says yes they would do it again. I think it depends on which point in the process they are. like people w/ a 4/2 would say yes but no0bs like me say no.
I'm on the fence. This has been soo tough but very fulfilling. I'm either done at two kids or will take a break and then do another 2u2 again.
We ultimately wanted 4 kids and I do feel a certain accomplishment and joy watching them grow up together. I wouldn't want to have #3 with a huge age age between kids so if I get pg with #3, DC #4 would be written in the books ASAP.
This is our hope as well (two sets of 2u2, about 3-4 years apart).
I can't answer the OP's question because #2 is not here yet, but I will say that we planned and tried for #2, it was not an oops by any means.
Yup, I would. My 2 LOVE each other. They do everything together, and play dates are easy because in a way they are all around the same age. It has hard parts, but doesn't everything with parenting? My sister's 2 kids are 4 years apart, and that has its own set of challenges. Her older one wasn't napping when the new baby arrived so she had no down time at all during the day...whereas I get a 1-2 hour break still (DS doesn't nap, but he gets quiet time).
I don't think I could have done #3 as 2u2 again - not because I didn't like having 2u2 but having a third kid to worry about would have been too much for me with the 2 little ones. This time DD will be 2.5 and DS will be almost 4 when #3 arrives - DS is potty trained, and I am hoping DD will be too. The only thing I worry about is that my first 2 are so close that I hope #3 won't feel left out.