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Questions on first few days

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For those of you who adopted out of state and had to wait an extended period of time in that state (5-14 days) what did you do about....

The first doctors appointment?

Car seat?

Where did you stay? 

 Where did the baby sleep? 

Did you have bottles with you and diapers or did you purchase them there? 

Did you find a local pediatrician for when you came home? 

 

I just had one friend who had a baby last week posting that the first doctor appointment is today, so that got me thinking.  I have another friend who just brought home her second adopted child last week and I have made plans to meet the LO, so I will ask her as well, but just curious about what you all did.

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Re: Questions on first few days

  • summergirl79summergirl79 member

    Our situation was a bit complicated and we were out of state 6 weeks- this is not the norm so I don't mean to freak you out.  Here is what we did:

    The first doctors appointment? Pediatrician who saw him in hospital agreed to see him for first appt (we ended up going 3x actually)Car seat? We drove (across country) so brought our car seatWhere did you stay? First we were at an extended stay hotel but then actually  moved to a corporate apartment Where did the baby sleep?  Pack and Play Bassinet that we also broughtDid you have bottles with you and diapers or did you purchase them there? I had a few bottles and diapers but bought more when we were there 

    Did you find a local pediatrician for when you came home?  I did this before DS was born and called when I knew we'd be home to set up the 1st appt.

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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member
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    DD2 was born out of state, and we were gone for 14 days.  She was also born three weeks early... we got the call and had to scramble to be at the hospital which was out of state.

    The first doctors appointment?  We just googled and found a pediatrician that would see her. 

    Car seat?  We drove so we brought it with us.  Had we not driven, I would have probably purchased it when we arrived.

    Where did you stay?   We used VRBO.com to rent a house for the first five days. It was wonderful to have the ammenitites of the house.  Once TPR was signed, we left the town and drove three hours to stay at my parents' home... they live in the birth state.  It was so nice to have family available to help.  But w/o the family, VRBO is the way to go IMO.  It costs about the same as a hotel but it has a kitchen, laundry, we even had a swimming pool which in with record breaking heat was nice :)

     Where did the baby sleep?  Do you really want to know???  A laundry basket!  We lined it with towels and she was quite comfy.

    Did you have bottles with you and diapers or did you purchase them there? This was our second adoption so we were counting on the same generosity of the hospital... and it worked.  We survived on hospital issued diapers and formula for the first day and then ran to the local store to stock up. 

    Did you find a local pediatrician for when you came home? We found our ped before our DD1 was born so that was not an issue.  I highly suggest you form a relationship w/a ped before the baby.  They are invaluable when issues come up... and a good one will help you navigate through difficult issues (think if baby is unexpectedly born exposed to drugs or has a congenital problem... having someone who knows YOU as opposed to a strange hospital and stranger doctor is valuable).

    I just had one friend who had a baby last week posting that the first doctor appointment is today, so that got me thinking.  I have another friend who just brought home her second adopted child last week and I have made plans to meet the LO, so I will ask her as well, but just curious about what you all did.

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  • nursesrhnursesrh member
    imageIRR:

    The first doctors appointment? We actually got home a week after DD was born. We got home on Tuesday and her appointment was on Thursday.

    Car seat? We drove to Miami, so we took it with us

    Where did you stay? We stayed at our timeshare. Luckily for us we had a resort close by the DD birth city.

     Where did the baby sleep? We brought a pack and play with us.

    Did you have bottles with you and diapers or did you purchase them there? I brought bottles and formula with me. We didn't need the formula because the hospital was kind enough to give us formula but I did use the bottles.

    Did you find a local pediatrician for when you came home?  I have a friend who is a pediatric nurse practitioner so it was my intent to use her all the time. So, when we got the call, I called her office and set up a tentative appt.

     

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  • hway24hway24 member

    We had to stay for 9 days

    Dr's appt: We asked the nurse at the hospital and she recommended a couple local pediatricians, We called the one she most recommended and explained the situation. They were really nice and happy to see us

    Car seat: We were able to drive so we just took it with us in the car. I had looked into flying and most airlines will let you check it even if you don't have a baby if you tell them

    Where we stayed: In 3 different hotels. There was a big bollege football game going on so we had to leave the first hotel for the weekend and find one about 40 min away. The third one we stayed in the longest and that was the week after he was born so we knew he'd be with us. So that was an extended stay, it had a seperate bedroom and a kitchen. I would definitely recommend something like that. With preparing bottles and eating in so much, the kitchen was a must

    Where baby slept: We took a pack-n-play and planned for him to sleep in that, but he hated it. We also had a travel swing and that's what he slpet in the whole time. It was a life saver

    We brought bottles with us because we already had them but bought diapers and formula there. The hospital gave us some diapers and formulas

    After we got matched, we found a local pedi that we liked. We met with her once and told her the due date and when we expected to be home. After he was born we called and made the appointment for when we got home. He was about 2 weeks old

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  • IRRIRR member
    Thanks everyone for your input, very helpful.
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