speaking of being that person...

jenyjeny · June 2012

I just got a little flaming from the baby shower board.

So normally I bite my tongue when I disagree with something, but it just rubbed me the wrong way so I spoke up.

(I said that we should respect other cultures - turns out it doesn't matter if it's your cultural tradition to host your own shower - you're rude/tacky)

Anyway... I guess I've lost my "flaming" virginity! Oops!

blowfish11 · June 2012

*runs off to BS board to view*

Everyone gets flamed at some point. Better to get it over with. Good for you though, for speaking up.

pepperchanning · June 2012

I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.

JenniatONU · June 2012

Welcome to the club!

I would say most people on the nest/knot/bump have been flamed for something. (Sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.)

jenyjeny · June 2012

pepperchanning:
I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.

Thank you... I was starting to wonder if I was really had such an offensive perspective!

MrsT1108 · June 2012

pepperchanning:
I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.

Wow, that one sounds like a winner!

cowgirltu · June 2012

Dont let it bother you. Everyone with an opnion gets flamed at least once. At least your not afraid to state your opnion and only go along with everyone else.

twister22 · June 2012

Ha I read that too. I'm totally on your side though.. those BS ladies are quite the etiquette police...

blowfish11 · June 2012

I just read the post and I definitely agree with your argument.

I consider myself to be mindful of etiquette and manners, but I certainly don't go around flaming others for not displaying the same etiquette as I do. I really couldn't care less if someone throws a shower for themselves. Nor would I ignore an invitation to one thrown by mom-to-be. Ignoring an invite just because I might disagree with how the shower is being thrown is considered ill-mannered to me.

BrittanyDoesDerby · June 2012

Ah, the baby shower board.

Good for you, for speaking your mind! Like the pps said, everyone seems to get flamed some time or another.

Now I'm going to read that post

jenyjeny · June 2012

I love my december ladies. you've restored my faith in humanity LOL

StefandTodd · June 2012

I didn't really see that as flaming. I think you only really got to like the second base of flaming.

denise_m · June 2012

I saw that earlier. I happen to think the baby shower board is the snarkiest, most judgemental board on the bump.

denise_m · June 2012

And can I just say, unless we are going to force assimilation as a country as a whole, we need to start realizing not all cultures practice the etiquette of Emily post.

LuffJoo · June 2012

pepperchanning:
I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.

Whaaa? Can I vote for her for twatwaffle tuesday?

kldanzinger · June 2012

blowfish11:
*runs off to BS board to view*

Haha! BS board! Sorry, couldn't resist.

I agree, with PP that said its one of the snarkiest boards. I go over there only for cheap entertainment when I'm super bored.

jenyjeny · June 2012

kldanzinger:
blowfish11:
*runs off to BS board to view*
Haha! BS board! Sorry, couldn't resist.
I agree, with PP that said its one of the snarkiest boards. I go over there only for cheap entertainment when I'm super bored.

UGH you're so right!! BS board... it was very snarky, and for the most i just overlook all the etiquette stuff. I only started going on because I would love to throw my SIL's baby shower and was looking for fun ideas.

But, I think I'm just going to avoid it from now on. I can only bite my tongue for so long! LOL

elizabeth0705 · June 2012

Holy moly, they must be really bored over there...

RissKay · June 2012

I especially loved the "rude is rude..." comment. Seriously?

From personal experience, some of the Asian culture (from people I personally know, that is) is to host your own event. It's the whole "Why ask someone else to do the work if I'm the one benefiting from it" thing, I believe. /shrug.

I think you are right on the money with what you said. I grew up in a culture different from that in the United States, and it's not fair that we can't accept different cultures here; we have to "assign" what is "ok" and "not ok." Like, who really picks and chooses like that? I'm on your side.

Also... I kind of accidentally started a flame war myself earlier. /sigh. Thankfully it didn't get to be near as big as that. One of those things that got totally misinterpreted (probably by me... I have a bad habit of not explaining myself well over the interwebz, Thinking before I speak: reengaged!) and NORMALLY I stay for away from flames. Yay! We lost "it" together!

ilenegrace · June 2012

denise_m:
I saw that earlier. I happen to think the baby shower board is the snarkiest, most judgemental board on the bump.

Agree and baby names board is a close second!

LuffJoo · June 2012

LuffJoo:
pepperchanning:
I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.
Whaaa? Can I vote for her for twatwaffle tuesday?

Thinking about this again..what exactly is the USA's culture? Because it seems to run across the board from one side of the country to the other...

LuffJoo · June 2012

LuffJoo:
pepperchanning:
I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.
Whaaa? Can I vote for her for twatwaffle tuesday?

Thinking about this again..what exactly is the USA's culture? Because it seems to run across the board from one side of the country to the other...

rockinmommy · June 2012

LuffJoo:
pepperchanning:

I read that and I think most people would agree with you.

I think when Liz4... said this:

"However, when those people live in America, you are not solely dealing with Asian traditions and culture. You can't pick and choose what you want to bend to your desires either. If they were in China and that's their tradition/culture and Americans were invited I will agree with you. However, if you are in the US you can't just say, well, I'm Asian so I can be rude. Maybe, if you are inviting only Asian family and friends who know of and abide by those traditions, but otherwise, no. "

I stopped reading her side of the argument. What an idiot.

Whaaa? Can I vote for her for twatwaffle tuesday?

She's an idiot, and definite TW worthy.

Loo52 · June 2012

ilenegrace:
denise_m:
I saw that earlier. I happen to think the baby shower board is the snarkiest, most judgemental board on the bump.
Agree and baby names board is a close second!

I got SCOLDED over at the baby names board for saying it was "my lot in life" to have boys. To me, your lot in life is not what you "deserve" but rather the path you are on. What gives anyone the right to be to judgemental? Sheesh.

ArmyWife114 · June 2012

Right there with you OP, I lost my cool about it. BS board makes me so angry...and is such BS (I lol'd so hard when I read the first comment calling it that haha).

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