Optimist or pessimist

mrs25 · June 2012

Which are you? Im naturally a pessimist but I prefer to call it "realist". I tried so hard to be positive last cycle because I have always heard how important attitude is. The day I got my period I told my DH, "This is gonna be our success cycle, I just know it!"....I didn't even ovulate...But I do feel very hopeful this time. Do you ladies ever try to talk yourself into a positive attitude about things? (fertility related or not).

ammare · June 2012

I'm exactly like you. I'm naturally a pessimist and call myself a realist.

Just within the past 6 months though I've been trying to work on thinking positive. My grandmother is a healthy 91 year old and has a great outlook on things. She has always been a positive influence in my life and so many others. I was talking to her a while ago and she mentioned that her mother was naturally pessimistic and that she found herself being that way and decided to change it when she was young. So, I figured if my grandmother went from being a pessimist to what she is now, then I can do it, too.

It is really hard though. I find myself with negative thoughts and really have to talk myself out of it.

The problem I have is that I get excited if I'm positive and then get really upset if it doesn't work out. I have to work on being positive even if I don't get the results I want right away.

CageyMack · June 2012

Sure! I have to talk myself into things all the time.

I think I'm an optimistic pessimist. This is described by these two phrases:

It can always get worse
The glass is half empty, but at lease it isn't all the way empty!

I work hard at staying positive, but I find the more I cultivate it the easier it is. Little reminders are good, such as remembering that we are starting down our IUI path now when we thought we wouldn't be able to start until October and just begin so thankfull of all the wonderful options that ARE available to us.

Hnysckl426 · June 2012

Pessimist/realist - I have been trying really hard to be positive but I hate being let down! I am like this for everything, not just IF.

beachy6 · June 2012

I'm usually pretty optimistic until the last few days in the 2ww. Then, all bets are off.

kofmkg · June 2012

Generally in life, I'm a realistic optimist. With fertility related things, I'm a bit more pessimistic just because of our experience. Nevertheless, I stay pretty optimistic in the 2ww until I see my temps plunge as the end of a cycle nears.