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2nd Trimester
Frustrated >:O (A rant)
I'm frustrated beyond belief as I can imagine most pregnant women get some days. My frustration stems from my doctors office, who STILL haven't given me a @#$%$ due date yet.
When I first found out I was pregnant It was a shock. I was on birth control, coming out of an abusive marriage and had just started dating again. The biggest shock was that when I found out (from an emergency visit for a completely different reason) the ER doc said I was 12-14 weeks along. Which made complete since, considering my boyfriend had come home from overseas in January, which would put my conception date at around my birthday January 9th; which also makes complete sense. So I made an appointment with the ob and they ordered blood tests and an ultrasound. My blood tests from the ER confirmed the 11-12 week due date, my blood test from the ob (IN THE SAME HOSPITAL!) said I was only 8 weeks, so she ordered an ultrasound and the ultrasound clearly showed there was a baby in there and the ultrasound tech was trying to tell me that I was more like 21 weeks along (I still was not showing at this point as well, and I've had two previous children so it wasn't like I didn't know what it felt like to be pregnant)
Let me just say that unless I am carrying God's child there is NO PHYSICAL WAY I was 21 weeks along at the time. I know when I had sex, and the fact that it took almost four months of dating before I could overcome my fears (yes fears) of having sex again, there is no way I conceived in November like the ultrasound tech was trying to tell me.
I've tried to get into other local offices but they tell me that I'm at the best place I can be, even at my persistence of wanting to make an appointment anyways they just wont do it.
At this last appiontment (today) I asked about setting a date for inducement (my BF is in the military and is stationed states away) so we could make sure he was home for the birth the doctor then proceeded to tell me that they couldn't do that because they weren't sure when the exact due date was because my ultrasound showed that I was 21 weeks but that could be as much as 2 weeks off!
I understand the reasoning for not setting the inducement date because we wont be sure when her lungs are developed fully. I'm just pissed because I want straight answers and I can't get them from anywhere.
And my rant is over. Thanks for listening.
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Re: Frustrated >:O (A rant)
Regardless of whether you are at the best place or not, you need to find another doctor and right away. Sometimes the best places are the worst places. I would not put of that BS.
Can you get another ultrasound, even if you have to pay for an elective one?
I don't think you should set an induction date without medical reason anyway, so I don't disagree with your doc. It sounds like a tough situation for them to make a good medical call right now.
This.
This all sounds pretty odd...
They have me coming every two weeks, so my next app is July 3rd. It sounds even odd to me. I was married for five years and have two children already this is my third, so I'm pretty frustrated with the lack of answers.
I agree with the doctor about the inducement date so I'm not really pushing for that, it was mostly just an idea.
I think tomorrow I'm just gonna push and push until someone gives me an appointment. Their reasoning for telling me to stick with my current office is because I'd have to wait for an appointment, but I really don't care at this point. At the office I'm currently at I've never seen the same doc twice, it's been a different doctor every time. Which I mean I guess it's alright to know the docs in the practice because you never know if your doc will make it to the birth (with my first two my reg ob didn't make it to either birth, they were both delivered by different docs.) But I'm to the point where the only thing consistent about this pregnancy is her hard kicks in my ribs.