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Questions from a FTM of a one month old
Are there moms out there whose babies eventually accepted sleeping in a cosleeper, rock and play, etc.? My LO is a month old and sleeps wonderfully in a ring sling or Moby wrap, and somewhat well in bed next to me, but usually only lasts from 5-45 minutes in the rock and play or the ARC. I don't get very good sleep when he is in bed with me, so I would love to get him into the cosleeper as soon as possible. I am wondering if and when he will grow into sleeping in the ARC. What has been your experience?
I am also wondering if babies need "practice" sleeping out of arms, or even just being content not being held. My LO screams and cries in the car seat, swing, rock and play, etc. unless he is already sleeping when he goes in. At least we have figured out baby wearing so it is not that bad, but I would like to try him out in the stroller, set him down for showering, cooking, etc. Right now our whole day is bouncing on the exercise ball until he falls asleep, wearing him while he sleeps, feeding, then repeating. He is very rarely awake and calm. I'm interested in hearing from moms with similar experiences and learning how and when things changed for you. I do love wearing him and getting all the snuggle time, but I am wondering how typical this is.
Thanks!
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Re: Questions from a FTM of a one month old
Your situation is very much like mine was. My LO needed to be held 24/7 for the first 3 months of his life. He only slept in the Moby, in my arms or next to me in bed. He hated the stroller, screamed in the car seat and only tolerated the bouncer for maybe 5 minutes at a time. He also nursed about every 1 - 1.5 hours.
Somewhere between 3 and 4 months he turned into a completely different baby. He sleeps in his crib for naps and the first part of the night, is content to ride around in the stroller and will play in the jumperoo for up to 30 minutes at a time.
I know it's hard, but it does get better. Caring for a high-needs baby is tough, and you're doing all the right things!
DD 8/28/2014
DD 5/24/2016, stillborn at 40 weeks
When you put him down to sleep is he wrapped? DS didn't enjoy laying flat, and needed to be wrapped as tight as could be in a burrito to handle not being held. Also we found when we went to transfer him from our warm arms to that cold bed he did better if we warmed the bed first with a heating pad on low or threw the blanket into the dryer for a minute before he layed on it. Obviously don't want it too hot but warm so its comforting.
This early on you really can't spoil them too much with being held etc...I recommend Happiest Baby On the Block the dvd for tips on soothing etc so you don't have to hold your LO constantly. Worked wonders for my DH and I!
My guy slept in the crib at night from the day we brought him home - but during the day he always needed to be held for the first 3 months if he was tired. He wouldn't sleep in the bouncer/rocker/carseat and would start screaming/crying if he started getting sleepy while in any of those.
So for those first 3 months I wore him practically all the time and he slept on me. After that, I worked on transitioning him slowly to napping in his crib - it took about 5 weeks.
In the beginning it's all about survival (yours, not the baby's). You have to do what works for you and you can worry about "training" when they're a little older.
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