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What's the worst/strangest/outrageous....
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thing someone has said to you since they found out you were pregnant??
I get this feeling that people think I don't have feelings anymore because I am pregnant. That now they are free to comment on my changing body as they see fit. To give everyone a good chuckle and a nice eye roll, what has been the strangest or most outrageous thing someone has said to you. Here is ONE of my many....
I was told by a co-worker that my "butt looks like it has gotten bigger, but that is a good thing." So the following week when I saw that co-worker again she said this "Wow, you look really pregnant today...it really balances out your butt now!" Um...thanks....I told her in a matter-of-fact kind of way that her face balances out her butt too! I don't know what that means, but I felt like saying something mean and my brain wasn't working fast enough.
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Re: What's the worst/strangest/outrageous....
This was a gem:
Me to Boss: I will be out of the office tomorrow for my 3 hr GD test, bc I failed the 1 hour
Boss: Oh, well you probably have diabetes because you are getting...big
Me: No, it has nothing to do with weight
Boss: Well, you probably have it, because, you've gained weight and that's what happens... Oh, and when are you due again, and how big is the baby?
Me: August, and about 3 lbs
Boss: wow, You're screwed!!
ummmmmmm thanks?!
When I was about 20 weeks pregnant I was wearing a jacket and with a client that didn't know I was pregnant and I mentioned it and he goes- Oh- I didn't even know! And, I said "Oh- I'm just looking fat right now, not pregnant!"
Usually the response I would get from that would be 'oh, no, you look great'. Honestly, I don't know why I say it, but he (the client, an old crabby man) just looks me up and down and said "you said it, not me!"
I know I really set myself up for that comment, but I was so shocked! I can't believe he would say that! I didn't know what to say so just said good bye and left.
Well I haven't really had any bad comments except for this one that sticks out to me and I wonder why people would think such a thing.
A lady asked if I knew what I was having and I told her with a big smile (since obviously I'm happy about it!) that we were expecting another Girl! Her response was "oh..well at least you already have a lot of the stuff you will need" with a dissapointed/sad look on her face.
Are you kidding me?! I am thrilled to be having another girl! DD1 is so Awesome and the plan was to have another child not a specific sex but another CHILD!! Anyways, I thought that was very rude. I myself have 3 sisters and no brothers and I have great relationships with all of my sisters and so I think it's great that DD1 will be able to experience having a sister.
"it's about time"
Someone said this when they found out I was pregnant. I have been married for 6 years. I was only 21 when we got married and in our first year of marriage I had 2 major strokes and my husband was finishing up his phd. Not a good time in our lives to have a baby.
I found it a strange thing to say, where is the rule that as soon as you get married you have to start TTC. Things happen, it isn't good to have a baby if you can't handle it because of certain situations that come up. Also what if we were secretly struggling with infertility? How would that statement have made us feel?
Standing in a grocery isle looking for a card. Strange lady comes walking down the isle pushing her cart. As she is passing by she does this rub/scratch to my belly and whispers... Jealooous.
Super Strange!
Oh my gosh...
I absolutely hate when people ask me "Are you sure you aren't having twins?" Because in my mind all I am hearing is "Wow fat (bleep), slow down."
I hate when people refer to "pregnancy brain." I realize I might be a little air headed now, but everytime something happens people say that. And all I hear is "Really? Are you that stupid/slow?"
What upset me most in the beginning of my pregnancy was when my sister announced that she and my cousin had decided I should only gain 15 lbs during this pregnancy "because you're already big." Neither of them had ever been pregnant, and I was only 10 lbs overweight. Thank you , but I will go with what my doctor advised me to do.
I just can't stand people who have never been pregnant give you "advice" one what you should and shouldn't do when you are pregnant.
I was out of town with my friend for a girls weekend and we were getting ready for dinner and I am putting on my pants and she comes over and tries to help me.... I told her I know how to put my own pants on I don't need help!
The same girl says to me (as I am drinking a ginger ale cause I am still nausea's all the time!!) the only thing I am going to drink while I am pregnant is water.... and I am not going to have sex the whole time bc I don't want to hurt the baby or have the baby hear us. My response was "Just wait till you are so sick that the THOUGHT of water makes you sick! Your hormones will be raging that you just want to do your husband all the time!" She just stared at me. I just got tired of her telling my what I should do and what I shouldn't do.
Posting on 3rd tri a little early, but I couldn't resist because the comments make me crazy!
So far I have gotten:
- Are you sure there is only 1 baby in there
- You are going to be as big as a house
- Tubby
- And yesterday my MIL told my niece I couldn't go downstairs to play with her because I was too fat to walk down the stairs.
Lol, I swear I get more "advice" from men then I do from women. Lots of men have given me their opinion on when I should start maternity leave, how I should be putting my feet up, and someone in the office insisted on carrying empty cardboard boxes to my car for me...really, I can handle empty boxes, lol. It's nice that they are trying to be helpful, but I personally don't like being treated differently just because I'm pregnant. I can most of the things I did before I was pregnant just fine.
Well, this 60 year old man that works at my office overheard a female coworker and I discussing BFing. He came in and decided to chime in and tell us about how I am wrong to think BFing will be a challenge and that it is "a piece of cake" and he doesn;t even understand what "all the mess with classes and consultants" is anyway. I replied with "wow, I wasn't aware men could breastfeed" and walked away.
Another thing that irks me is, as one PP already mentioned, when someone who has never been pregnant or had a baby tries to give you advice. my 20 year old SIL took a class on the female experience of pregnancy/birth her freshman year of college (bless her heart) and thinks she is some expert or that I am a complete idiot. She heard me metion that my belly is itching me the other day and proceeded with "oh, you just wait! Your belly will only get MUCH itchier in the last trimester and it will be almost unbearable". Really? Mine was itchy cuz I got too much sun and here I am in the 3rd trimester and no itchy belly! She loves staing the obvious as well: "you're going to get much bigger you know" or after I jokingly commented about how I like to wriggle all around to get baby used to motion so he won't get motion sickness like his daddy " That won't work. The baby is in water in side you in a sack. He isnt just floating around in your stomache"...Ummm DUH! You think I don't know about these things considering I'm pregnant??? Haha
Someone told me and my DH that I "look miserable"
*Are you sure you're not having twins?
*You're going to be pregnant during all of summer. You're going to be overheating!
*Was it planned? You should always plan a pregnancy.
And, a woman behind me in Starbucks:
Woman: "You're having a girl."
Me: "How did you know?"
Woman: "Girls steal your beauty. You look pretty bad right now. You're all broken out and you have bags under your eyes. I would start taking care of yourself if I were you. You're only going to look worse the farther along you get."
I wanted to cry.
I cannot BELIEVE that anyone would call a pregnant woman fat or tubby or anything like that! Wow the rudeness of people. I would ream someone a new one.
The day after I got BFP it was my office work party, and....well long story....but I had to confess to the hostess that I was pg and the first thing she said was "I had two miscarriages, so if anything happens, just know it wasn't your fault. It just means there was something wrong and it wasn't meant to be."
Uh, thanks for the uplifting advice??
My SIL is an idiot. I love her dearly, but me being pregnant has made her insane.
-She announced to our group of friends that she took off the first week after the baby is born to come over and "help" us with the baby.
-She has brought up getting rid of our cats 4 times because cats are territorial and will "hurt" our baby
-She also suggested at family dinner in a crowded restaurant that since it took us 4 years to conceive this one, we should really start trying again right away so we don't end up being too old, or have an only child.
Thankfully everyone else I know has been completely normal with me. I'm not showing, and I'm not your typical FTM freaking out about everything and watching every little thing, so I think my friends and family alike sometimes forget there's anything different about me.
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
That Starbucks lady needed a kick in the teeth! What is the matter with people? I've gotten every variation of the "Wow, you're enormous. It must be twins" comments. Yesterday, DH's stepmother asked me how much weight I had gained, and I just said I didn't know. My own mother doesn't even know this. For that matter, neither does DH.
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Co-worker #1 - I can tell that you're carrying a boy
Co-worker #2 - Why, because she's carrying all in front?
Co-worker #1 - No, you can tell by the butt. When you're carrying a boy your butt gets wider.
I don't know what makes some people think it's ok to comment on the size and shape of someone's body..pregnant or not! I wanted to say back to her..."So, you must be carrying twin boys"... But I bit my tongue and ignored her..Especially because I knew it wasn't true...this was at least a couple months ago and I was barely just beginning to show.
OMG... this has got to be the worst one I've read yet! I WOULD have cried! Who says that!? It's okay, I had someone tell me my nose was getting fat... gee, thanks.
I laughed so hard at this! What a creep-show.
I don't think that I've really had anyone say anything to me that was outrageous, but the questions I've been asked... wow. What is it about pregnancy that breaks down the social norms of appropriate conversation?
I worked in a school and was sitting at lunch with several of my students. A substitute teacher comes up to me and asks me, "So, how many times have you gone pee today?' Are you serious? When is that okay to ask someone? I found it funny!
And then there was the co-worker who groped my chest at 12 weeks "trying to feel my belly." People are weird!