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This is not the place for a BFP post edited by Mod jen629

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  • dunvillesdunvilles member
    Good luck to you! I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!
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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member
    What is wrong with you?!  Congrats on your pregnancy, but this is SO, SO, SO not the place to post about it, no matter how well you know the women here (I am from TTCAL and saw this while lurking, so I don't know how long you have been here).  There are new girls on here every day who have just lost their babies, and this announcement is the last thing they need to see.  IMO, you need to delete this post.  Seriously.  This is ridiculous.
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  • mgh2008mgh2008 member
    Agree w/ the others.  There are more appropriate boards to have posted this.  This board has many women who are currently still going thru the m/c process and still grieving pretty badly.  No one wants to hear about a bfp right now on this board.  Best of luck to you.
    BFP #1- 12/3/09, EDD- 8/7/10, Missed M/C at 8 weeks & D&C- 1/5/10, BFP #2- July 2010, Baby Charlie Born March 29, 2011, BFP #3- 4/12/12- EDD- 12/21/12, Missed M/C at 10 1/2 weeks 5/29/12, D&C 6/1/12- testing results showed triploidy, IF testing all normal, February 2013- IUI#1, femara, follistim, trigger =BFN, March 2013- IUI#2, femara, follistim, trigger= BFP #4, 3/20/12, Beta#1 16dpo= 397, Beta #2 18dpo= 1037, Beta#3 24dpo= 11,589- EDD 11/30/13- It's a Girl!!! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker BabyFruit Ticker
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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member

    imagedmalone1024:
    This is not the place for this post. Try TTCAL or PGAL. Congrats

    This sounds snarky, but I don't meant it to be... This won't be well-received on TTCAL, either.  OP, PGAL is the right board. 

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  • KikiCohenKikiCohen member

    imagemgh2008:
    Agree w/ the others.  There are more appropriate boards to have posted this.  This board has many women who are currently still going thru the m/c process and still grieving pretty badly.  No one wants to hear about a bfp right now on this board.  Best of luck to you.

    You hit the nail on the head!  Move on, OP!

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  • kelly321kelly321 member
    OP, I'm guessing you just wanted to give women hope, but this is not the board to do it. Please go over to Pregnant After a Loss or your birth month board and announce there.

    BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
    BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
    BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

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  • krisztina33krisztina33
    Seriously not the place to post this...while DDs are usually not well received, this is in serious need of a delete.  OP, think of this board as a GRIEF support group.  Would you walk into a grief support meeting of women who had recently lost their babies, and announce to (mostly) strangers that you were newly pregnant??  It hurts the other women on here.  Please delete your post and move on to PgAL.
    TTC #1 since November 2011
    ** BFP #1 - M/C at 6 weeks 4/13/2012 **
    ** BFP #2 - expecting a little leprechaun!! EDD 3/21/13 | HB 7/30/2012 (6w3d) **
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  • meheron80meheron80
    Im really glad you posted here. Im not ready to move to the ttcal but I have fears now about the future. Congrats on the pregnancy but I do share your fears. I think all of us have the fear that something will go wrong again... Im terrified. Congrats and good luck. 
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  • daniella2727daniella2727 member

    You all are cruel 

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  • genmalonegenmalone member
    This post is so inappropriate.

    After more than 2 years of fertility treatments, FET did the trick!
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  • krisztina33krisztina33
    imagedaniella2727:

    You all are cruel 

    No.  We are not cruel.  What is cruel is throwing your BFP in the faces of grieving women.  Our suggestion was merely to post this exciting news in an appropriate place (ie not a board that has zero pregnant women on it, and is full of women grieving their miscarriages/losses).

    Please delete your post and move on to PgAL.

    TTC #1 since November 2011
    ** BFP #1 - M/C at 6 weeks 4/13/2012 **
    ** BFP #2 - expecting a little leprechaun!! EDD 3/21/13 | HB 7/30/2012 (6w3d) **
    NT Scan 9/4 - looked great! | Grow, baby, grow!!! | A/S 10/29

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  • genmalonegenmalone member
    imagedaniella2727:

    You all are cruel 

    We're cruel?  No one was even rude to you!  Most even said congrats.  You posted on a miscarriage board that you got a BFP.  This is a board for those currently going through a miscarriage.  You are the cruel one!!!  Or maybe just highly inappropriate.  Either way, you are the one in the wrong here.


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    IVF March 2012 - BFP! - Severe OHSS = 8 days in the hospital in kidney failure
    No heartbeat at 10w6d
    FET August 27,2012 = BFP!
    It's a boy!
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  • michele61michele61
    Congratulations! I wish nothing but the best for you. We all know what a LONG scarey road it is after loss. May God give you some peace of mind.
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  • jess8788jess8788
    Thats exciting and of course your nervous. Every right to be. Good luck! Hopefully its your take home :)
    Me: 24 DH: 27 12/7/2011- Faint BFP #1- 12/18/2011- early m/c at 5 weeks- CP 1/30/2012- Faint BFP #2- 2/17/2012-early miscarriage at 6 weeks- CP RLP done- 1 copy C77T hetero MTHFR-Slight hypothyroid-normal HSG. 8/2012 and 9/2012 Clomid + TI= BFN 10/2012- follistim 7.5 and IUI #1- BFN (pressured into this IUI) 12/2012-BFP #3- 2 days later started bleeding. 3rd CP. 1/18/2013 BFP #4. Beta #1- 14.7(10dpo) 99.5(13dpo) 263 15(dpo).STICK LITTLE PEANUT- WE LOVE YOU!
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  • luvsdogs2luvsdogs2 member

    PP'ers have tried to explain this to you and apparently you don't get it, so we'll try it again.

    This is a board for women that have had a miscarriage.  Yes, you have had a miscarriage.  No, that does not give you privilege to post everything under the sun.  This board is here for everyone, not just you.  And if we tolerate someone coming to this board and posting a BFP, then eventually the women that are still hurting are not going to post here, it's just going to be a bunch of "I'm KTFU and scared I'll have a miscarriage" or people will be coming to the board with their pregnancy tickers saying "is this a sign of a miscarriage" and women that need this board will have nowhere to go.  Take it from someone that's been on this board long enough to see drive-by posts from people that never even had a miscarriage, they were just afraid of having one.  This board has to be protected from that for the sake of the women that need it.

    Nobody is saying "fluck you and your baby" so nobody here was being cruel.  Nobody wishes nothing but the best for you, you just needed to be called out on being inappropriate and were just surprised that everybody else's world doesn't revolve around you.

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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member
    imagedaniella2727:

    You all are cruel 

    No one was cruel to you.  I am very sorry if you were hurt, but that was no one's intention.  If we were slightly aggressive, it's because your post is pretty clearly rude (even if that rudeness was caused by negligence rather than malice, which it seems that it was). It's just that these women are in the deepest stages of grief, and a BFP post can shatter their whole night, or their whole week.  They are fragile.  I have been there; you have been there.  We all want the best for you and your LO, but we also want the best for these ladies.  That means that you need to delete this post and, in the future, think before you hit the "post" button.  Just evaluate your environment and ask if your post will do more harm than good.  If so, don't post.  It's not something we're saying to be mean; it's something we're saying to keep this board safe for the women who need it.

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