Bottle Propping?? More than one baby???

KyleTrigger · June 2012

I apologize if there are more threads about this subject. I don't post here all that much as I have a 15 month old and a 4 month old so I am pretty much busy all the time. I scrolled back and didn't find anything about it.

I know all the books say don't prop bottles because feeding time is bonding time. I bf my son till just about 3 months. At that time I was forced to stop because I was Dx with a brain tumor and was having severe grand maul seizures. The med I was put on you could NOT BF. I was so upset to stop but my life and my babies life was more important.

Anyway, my son is 4 months now and my daughter isn't even 15 months yet. I feel like there isn't enough of me to go around. So I do end up propping my son's bottle a lot. And to be honest, I don't know if this is just me justifying it to myself, he does better with it propped. He keeps it steady and goes back to sleep much faster. When I hold him and try to feed him then put hhim down, he wakes up crying and fussing all over.

I try to bond with him and hold him alot during the day. Whenever my DD goes down or someone has her for an hr or two, I always spend all that time with my son.

I guess I just feel guilty. How do you all spend all the time with multiple kids. I feel like I did everything totally by the book with my daughter but it is just SOOO much easier with 1 baby!!! More than one becomes much more than double the work. Does anyone else take the shortcuts just to get by????

kmm2150 · June 2012

It's not just about bonding, bottle propping is dangerous and can cause babies to choke. I don't have two kids so I don't have much advice, but I would try to make feeding time a time when you are holding LO, even if he doesn't seem to like it; find other times that you can put him down or in a bouncy seat to tend to your toddler.

KyleTrigger · June 2012

Yes you are probably right. I sit next to him a lot when he is eating but I know that isn't an excuse to not just hold him and do it myself. My DD makes it so hard bc the second she sees him in my arms and me sitting there for 30 mins with him she gets SO jealous and won't leave him or us alone the whole time, climbing on him, touching him, trying to get the bottle away or if she goes off on her own she ends up getting in to something she isn't supposed to be in. But I am the mom and it is my job to just handle them both somehow.

Thanks for your input!!

Rsoc23 · June 2012

kmm2150:
It's not just about bonding, bottle propping is dangerous and can cause babies to choke. I don't have two kids so I don't have much advice, but I would try to make feeding time a time when you are holding LO, even if he doesn't seem to like it; find other times that you can put him down or in a bouncy seat to tend to your toddler.

this. some people should not breed.

beccajanedowning · June 2012

Rsoc23:

kmm2150:
It's not just about bonding, bottle propping is dangerous and can cause babies to choke. I don't have two kids so I don't have much advice, but I would try to make feeding time a time when you are holding LO, even if he doesn't seem to like it; find other times that you can put him down or in a bouncy seat to tend to your toddler.

this. some people should not breed.

Yes

Rsoc23 · June 2012

you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2012

I did prop my baby's bottle at that age on occasion when I had my other child to tend to. I always made sure she was in the same room and I could supervise if she did start choking on formula (though she never did once).

I know it's a no-no, but honestly with 2 kids close in age I found it tough to get around. Infants can take a while to eat and sometimes your older child needs sometime in that timeframe. I guess some people are ok with letting the baby cry for food but I would have rather avoided it.

blowfish11 · June 2012

So you let your 15 month old watch you and your H have sex... And you prop your sons bottles KNOWING the potential risks associated with it?

Yeah, you're a winner.

sweetky_06 · June 2012

Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

I just snorted Dr. Pepper out my nose.

pennysuedog · June 2012

What's wrong with dinner and a show? Indifferent

kittyh8r · June 2012

Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.

OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.

Rsoc23 · June 2012

EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.
OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.

Do you know what I find unnecessary? Parents propping bottles. And allowing their toddler to watch them have sex. And people like you supporting this idiotic behavior and telling the mother that it's okay and she is doing a great job.

If OP needs to LEARN these things she probably should have thought a little bit more about procreating--it is common sense not to do them.

blowfish11 · June 2012

Rsoc23:
EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.
OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.
Do you know what I find unnecessary? Parents propping bottles. And allowing their toddler to watch them have sex. And people like you supporting this idiotic behavior and telling the mother that it's okay and she is doing a great job.
If OP needs to LEARN these things she probably should have thought a little bit more about procreating--it is common sense not to do them.

*bangs gavel* Yes

kittyh8r · June 2012

Rsoc23:
EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.
OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.
Do you know what I find unnecessary? Parents propping bottles. And allowing their toddler to watch them have sex. And people like you supporting this idiotic behavior and telling the mother that it's okay and she is doing a great job.
If OP needs to LEARN these things she probably should have thought a little bit more about procreating--it is common sense not to do them.

Where does it say that her toddler watches her have sex? I must have missed that one.

I don't think that because she props a bottle she should be told that she shouldn't be a mom. That's awful. Although, toddlers watching sex is terrible. This isn't breastfeeding we're talking about, this is SEX and should never be seen by the eyes of a child. That should definitely be re-thought, and probably not shared online with a bunch of women who are not afraid to rip you to shreds.

Rsoc23 · June 2012

Emma--you must have missed all the drama the other day. Had this been a lone post from OP making poor decisions I would not think much of it.

NoodleM · June 2012

EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.
OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.
Do you know what I find unnecessary? Parents propping bottles. And allowing their toddler to watch them have sex. And people like you supporting this idiotic behavior and telling the mother that it's okay and she is doing a great job.
If OP needs to LEARN these things she probably should have thought a little bit more about procreating--it is common sense not to do them.

Where does it say that her toddler watches her have sex? I must have missed that one.
I don't think that because she props a bottle she should be told that she shouldn't be a mom. That's awful. Although, toddlers watching sex is terrible. This isn't breastfeeding we're talking about, this is SEX and should never be seen by the eyes of a child. That should definitely be re-thought, and probably not shared online with a bunch of women who are not afraid to rip you to shreds.

She has admitted to it more than once. Check her post history. She has now gone down in Bump history as causing an epically gross thread.

kittyh8r · June 2012

Rsoc23:
Emma--you must have missed all the drama the other day. Had this been a lone post from OP making poor decisions I would not think much of it.

I must have.

Carry on.

kittyh8r · June 2012

NoodleM:
EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.
OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.
Do you know what I find unnecessary? Parents propping bottles. And allowing their toddler to watch them have sex. And people like you supporting this idiotic behavior and telling the mother that it's okay and she is doing a great job.
If OP needs to LEARN these things she probably should have thought a little bit more about procreating--it is common sense not to do them.

Where does it say that her toddler watches her have sex? I must have missed that one.
I don't think that because she props a bottle she should be told that she shouldn't be a mom. That's awful. Although, toddlers watching sex is terrible. This isn't breastfeeding we're talking about, this is SEX and should never be seen by the eyes of a child. That should definitely be re-thought, and probably not shared online with a bunch of women who are not afraid to rip you to shreds.
She has admitted to it more than once. Check her post history. She has now gone down in Bump history as causing an epically gross thread.

Found it. Sick nasty.

I do enjoy all the gif responses though.

pearblossom · June 2012

Wait. How do you not have time to feed your kid, but have time to have sex at least daily?

Rsoc23 · June 2012

pearblossom:
Wait. How do you not have time to feed your kid, but have time to have sex at least daily?

I was thinking the same thing...and I believe she said it is twice a day most of the time

pearblossom · June 2012

FarmBoysWife:
wait, you have two babies? it says you're 54 weeks pregnant.
I find it offensive that You are bitching about 2u2 which some are struggling to get to 2u2 who would love it. I'd take the hardship of having to deal with a toddler and hold a bottle over my ute refusing to work again.
if its even worth a real reply- I let DS (6 months next week) hold his bottle but never prop. Proping is bad and lazy in most cases, I think its a bad sign if you don't want to hold you child.. or you want to and don't. 2 babies equals double the work.. I have no idea how you missed the memo when you got KU with #2

::slow clap::

I like how you were a huge cuntbeast for all the wrong reasons.

kkfeb04 · June 2012

A brain tumor now. Oh your brand of crazy just keeps getting better. This "brain tumor" is no excuse for having sex in front of your toddler nor bottle propping. If you can find time for sex, find the damn time to feed your kid. And for the love of Santa Christ please get sterilized. Having two kids is no excuse for bottle propping. I can't believe you are still here, I imagine your GBCB will be legend.....ary.

biblionerd · June 2012

Maybe her brain tumor is what makes her think it's okay to have sex in front of children??

laurakaz13 · June 2012

Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

You have time to have sex in front of your toddler, but no time to feed your 4 month old? You're a great mother! Really.

gisa886 · June 2012

You barricade the toddler in the room with you and toys and hold your baby to feed him. If she gets into something then stand your azz up and get her. Or try sitting on the floor to feed him. Not rocket science sweetie.

Madringal · June 2012

Meh...I don't judge the bottle propping. It can happen from time to time to the best of us. But it sounds like you are doing it all the time and I don't think that is ok. I also think you are a lying liar pants. You cannot convince me that your daughter claws all over you while you feed your son, but just sits back and watches her dad have at you. You are lying about your daughter wanting to hold you to try to justify bottle propping.

And the PP that someone managed to turn this into a "Wow is me, I can't have 2u2" You get a major side eye - moms ARE allowed to complain about their challenges with having young children. Now if you were to say complain because this GEM of a mom has 2 and you don't well, I would have to agree with you.

Wifey1012 · June 2012

Glad you find time to bump.

Rsoc23 · June 2012

Wifey1012:
Glad you find time to bump.

HA!

intdesigner925 · June 2012

Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Lawl

intdesigner925 · June 2012

EmmaBoBemma:
Rsoc23:
EmmaBoBemma:

Rsoc23:
you are probably bottle propping for the baby when the 15 month old is watching you have sex.

Unnecessary. Seriously.

OP, I personally would not bottle prop but I also don't have more than one kiddo right now so I also don't have advice for you. Everything I have read says that it is super dangerous. Also, how do you get your LO to stay still enough during a feeding? I couldn't prop a bottle even if I wanted to, DD is a freakin animal when I feed her. I hope you figure something out for you and your family! This doesn't make you a crap mom, you're still learning like all the rest of us.

Do you know what I find unnecessary? Parents propping bottles. And allowing their toddler to watch them have sex. And people like you supporting this idiotic behavior and telling the mother that it's okay and she is doing a great job.

If OP needs to LEARN these things she probably should have thought a little bit more about procreating--it is common sense not to do them.

Where does it say that her toddler watches her have sex? I must have missed that one.

I don't think that because she props a bottle she should be told that she shouldn't be a mom. That's awful. Although, toddlers watching sex is terrible. This isn't breastfeeding we're talking about, this is SEX and should never be seen by the eyes of a child. That should definitely be re-thought, and probably not shared online with a bunch of women who are not afraid to rip you to shreds.

This! I may get flamed but Ive done it, im a single mom so im doing everything by myself. Sometimes I just need to do laundry or wash bottles or whatever and I dont always have an extra set of hands around me so yes I bottle prop however she is supervised when its done and in arms reach. She also holds her bottle some so I dont know if that makes a difference. I know im not an unfit mother and anyone who thinks so can kiss my ass to be honest. I also co-sleep so I suppose I should be reported since I suck as a parent and all. My life/parenting does not revolve around others opinions I do what works for her and I. I totally get why she would do it especially with mutiple LOs. However that is where the defending ends because I totally do not agree with her having sex and her kid watching im sorry but thats digusting and all shades of wrong!

namara5532 · June 2012

I'm sure if it was a different poster, we'd be a bit more sympathetic. Sure, you've gotta be careful bottle propping for all the reasons previously mentioned (choking hazard, not bonding during feeding time, etc.), but in my opinion as long as you don't leave the room I'd probably bottle prop from time to time too if I had a toddler running around. I wouldn't let that be a permanent solution by any means and would find a way to get the toddler doing an activity while I fed the younger baby.

With that said, anyone else notice this chick doesn't come back to the threads to defend herself? Makes me wonder if it's MUD or if she's just that naive.

intdesigner925 · June 2012

namara5532:

I'm sure if it was a different poster, we'd be a bit more sympathetic. Sure, you've gotta be careful bottle propping for all the reasons previously mentioned (choking hazard, not bonding during feeding time, etc.), but in my opinion as long as you don't leave the room I'd probably bottle prop from time to time too if I had a toddler running around. I wouldn't let that be a permanent solution by any means and would find a way to get the toddler doing an activity while I fed the younger baby.

With that said, anyone else notice this chick doesn't come back to the threads to defend herself? Makes me wonder if it's MUD or if she's just that naive.

I noticed that too. Im hoping her having sex infront of her kid is MUD because if thats real then... Tongue Tied

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