Father's Day - How'd yours go?

HisChamaoleGirl · June 2012

How was everyones Father's Day? Did your DH/SO/BF have the child(ren)?

HisChamaoleGirl · June 2012

*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:

How was everyones Father's Day? Did your DH/SO/BF have the child(ren)?

DH didnt have SS this year and when I posted about what to do with DH since SS wouldnt be here you ladies suggested I ask what DH wanted to do to celebrate. Also it was suggested I speak to BM about having SS do something. Well I did both.

BM said three weeks ago she would have SS pick out a card and send it. She also said she would have SS call. Well, no card ever came and neither did the phone call. SS couldnt be reached by phone but BM was able to text to say that she didnt send a card bc since CS is in the process of getting adjusted she cant afford it. BTW she text ME to also say that she couldnt afford to have SS call DH. I pointed out that DH was calling SS so if she answered the call then it would be charge free on her end, but she never responded.

And that was DHs Father's Day ....

Hopeforthebest · June 2012

DH and I picked up the two youngest (7 and 3 yrs old)Saturday and had a great Father's Day. I helped them make one of those candy posterboard size cards (from Pinterest). It was fun and they were hilarious discussing who had dibs on what candy they would get after dad got the card. Also got him the "new" classic book Goodnight Ipad. We read it together as a family on Sunday morning in bed.

The two oldest (from BM1) couldn't be bothered to text, email, call or even FB their dad. I know he wasn't expecting any recognition from them, but I'm sure he was still disappointed. This year I just tried to make it all fun and happy and didn't bring it up to him. Probably over compensated though with giving him Aerosmith concert tickets and a movie too but oh well.

Hope everyone else had a great Father's Day!

VanessaB24 · June 2012

We had a nice day. We went to a local baseball game..minor league? We met SD & in-laws there... We didn't get SD this weekend because she got out of school and she went to a beach house with her mom so thats why we met them yesterday. It was a good time over all.

CFjo2010 · June 2012

*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:
*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:

How was everyones Father's Day? Did your DH/SO/BF have the child(ren)?

DH didnt have SS this year and when I posted about what to do with DH since SS wouldnt be here you ladies suggested I ask what DH wanted to do to celebrate. Also it was suggested I speak to BM about having SS do something. Well I did both.

BM said three weeks ago she would have SS pick out a card and send it. She also said she would have SS call. Well, no card ever came and neither did the phone call. SS couldnt be reached by phone but BM was able to text to say that she didnt send a card bc since CS is in the process of getting adjusted she cant afford it. BTW she text ME to also say that she couldnt afford to have SS call DH. I pointed out that DH was calling SS so if she answered the call then it would be charge free on her end, but she never responded.

And that was DHs Father's Day ....

Yeah, those 99 cent cards totally break the bank, and don't even get me started on how pricey postage is... I'm sorry your DH didn't get the recognition he deserved on Father's Day. It breaks my heart when BMs and/or the older kids don't find it important to at least acknowledge Dads on Father's Day. If the roles were reversed and it had been Mother's Day, I'm sure the BM in your situation would have thrown a complete fit if she didn't get a card and phone call on Mother's Day. I hope your DH doesn't feel that SS didn't call as a reflection of him being a bad father, but that it was a direct result of BM's bitterness.

CFjo2010 · June 2012

Our Father's Day was great. We had all 3 kiddos and spent the weekend at a beachhouse we had rented. The kids helped pick out a gift and made a card from the baby to add to the mountain of goodies my husband got. My 2 kids seemed really happy being able to spend Father's Day with my husband as opposed to their own father, who of course couldn't be bothered to answer his phone when they called. That was really the only hiccup we had, other then BM texting and asking if we could drop K off early (yeah, no).

rachi1285 · June 2012

We have it written that BM gets the kids on Mother's Day and we get them on Father's Day, so there's no fight. I got DH a couple things I thought he needed ( Wink ) and helped the kids make an "All About My Dad" book. It's a photo book you create online and there are questions like "if my dad was a superhero, he'd be...and why", so I helped the kids write in the answers. He loved it!!

I was holding my breath waiting for BM's BF to call the kids (since I called them on Mother's Day because they gave me gifts) but he didn't. Whew! One of the kids' daycare teachers asked DH if they could make a Father's Day card for their "other dad" and DH said he almost blew up. The guy has been around the kids for 6 months tops! (we've been going to this daycare for a week so far, so it was just a misunderstanding, but still sucked for DH to hear!)

Rhenna · June 2012

Ours was ok. We picked up SS for the day since it wasn't FI's weekend and SS had a gift he had made at school for FI. Well FI opens it and it is a can with papers in it saying all the chores and stuff he'll do for Dad. FI asks him how he should use them and SS says, "oh, I made those for SD not you. I didn't know the gift was for you." It just broke my heart for FI. He put on a good face and we went on with the day and had fun but at that moment I could tell he just wanted to cry. SD is a good guy but BM has worked really hard at alienating FI and it is so frustrating trying to break through that wall with SS.

HisChamaoleGirl · June 2012

jobalchak:
*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:
*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:

How was everyones Father's Day? Did your DH/SO/BF have the child(ren)?

DH didnt have SS this year and when I posted about what to do with DH since SS wouldnt be here you ladies suggested I ask what DH wanted to do to celebrate. Also it was suggested I speak to BM about having SS do something. Well I did both.

BM said three weeks ago she would have SS pick out a card and send it. She also said she would have SS call. Well, no card ever came and neither did the phone call. SS couldnt be reached by phone but BM was able to text to say that she didnt send a card bc since CS is in the process of getting adjusted she cant afford it. BTW she text ME to also say that she couldnt afford to have SS call DH. I pointed out that DH was calling SS so if she answered the call then it would be charge free on her end, but she never responded.

And that was DHs Father's Day ....

Yeah, those 99 cent cards totally break the bank, and don't even get me started on how pricey postage is... I'm sorry your DH didn't get the recognition he deserved on Father's Day. It breaks my heart when BMs and/or the older kids don't find it important to at least acknowledge Dads on Father's Day. If the roles were reversed and it had been Mother's Day, I'm sure the BM in your situation would have thrown a complete fit if she didn't get a card and phone call on Mother's Day. I hope your DH doesn't feel that SS didn't call as a reflection of him being a bad father, but that it was a direct result of BM's bitterness.

DH wasn't surprised he didn't get "recognition" and didn't give it any thought bc he knows how BM is. I was the one who was pissed bc she was exchanging the messages with me. DH wouldn't have even known if it wasn't for me telling him.

Im just irritated that this is her way I lashing out that he wants a cs modification. And yes she was told happy mothers day.

wwnbw · June 2012

We had all 4 kids a DH had a good day. I had to work so he spent the day being mr. mom and took them all (even the baby) to a movie.

lily_721 · June 2012

DH is away with the military. He only had a quick minute to call -- early morning. We celebrated a few weeks ago. Boys called all the important men in our lives (FIL, SFIL, godfather) to wish them happy father's day. Then we all went to my parents for a bbq.

bebe11 · June 2012

Our day was good.

H had asked BM2 (sd's bm) if she could drop SD off, since it was father's day, and she said "yes, but that will be your present". She wasn't joking... SD did make H a card (for Mother's Day BM took her to Macy's and got me a really pretty bracellet).

SS's BM dropped him off, and he got H a card.

I got H a couple of gifts from my DD and the dog. Then we went to my BIL's and had a nice fun family day. H's two younger brothers were there with their families, and my MIL & FIL.

sweetwalks · June 2012

The day was good until we dropped Ss off & BM decides to put DH down on Facebook and say crap like happy fathers day to her BF who's been the daddy SS needs. I so badly want to tell her to quit b****** about the $$ her bf spends if he's the daddy SS needs.

DH just gets frustrated & hurt because he wants to be there for SS and do more for him & constantly is met with obstacles. It was a very hurtful thing to do, especially after we dropped him off with clothes, pack of diapers we had to buy buy wont use near as quickly as she would & underwear because she was upset her bf bought plain white underwear, she wanted some with printing but she couldn't find his size.

HisChamaoleGirl · June 2012

wendilea:
I already posted about our Father's Day. I found out today that BM2 sent DH a text "Happy Father's Day. Thank you for giving me the most precious gift of our daughter. Even though she's headstrong and stubborn, I cherish every day with her zany sense of humor and contagious laugh. She's so much like you, every moment with her is a memory of you." Vomit. That's so appropriate to send a text like that when you're engaged to another man, not to mention the man you're sending it to is married? Oh, and she sent that early in the day, SD2 didn't call until late last night.

Vomit is right. I thought that was a nice text up until the memory comment. So unnecessary and like you said inappropriate.

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