Clicky poll: how your H/SO treats you when you are pg

Mrs.G123 · June 2012

Just curious how others' husbands/significant others treat them when they are pregnant. I definitely don't want to be treated like a fragile flower but feel like sometimes H could give me SOME preferential treatment.
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hboo2011 · June 2012

Most days, he's his normal self, because most days, I'm my normal self. BUT, on days when I'm feeling extra crabby (a few weeks back I had a mini temper tantrum because I attempted to make two things for dinner for us that I ended up not liking either, so he went out to get me Taco Bell) or upset (about a week ago, I hadn't felt any movement for two days, so I was a little concerned, and he made dinner/vaccuumed without me having to ask) and then yesterday, after our ultrasound I was so upset (I posted yesterday, baby is very small and doc a little concerned) that he did everything for me, and kept asking me how I'm feeling/doing, etc.

I haven't gotten any massages/food rubs, besides an occasional back scratch if I happen to be laying near him on the couch, but he can tell the few days I'm down and tries to help out more which is good enough for me for now.

Although... In a few months, when I'm too big to bleach the bathroom floors (which he finds an unnecessary chore, but I bleach everything in the bathroom once a week), we'll see if he's offering to help out then ;-)

tatercater · June 2012

hboo2011:

Most days, he's his normal self, because most days, I'm my normal self. BUT, on days when I'm feeling extra crabby (a few weeks back I had a mini temper tantrum because I attempted to make two things for dinner for us that I ended up not liking either, so he went out to get me Taco Bell) or upset (about a week ago, I hadn't felt any movement for two days, so I was a little concerned, and he made dinner/vaccuumed without me having to ask) and then yesterday, after our ultrasound I was so upset (I posted yesterday, baby is very small and doc a little concerned) that he did everything for me, and kept asking me how I'm feeling/doing, etc.

I haven't gotten any massages/food rubs, besides an occasional back scratch if I happen to be laying near him on the couch, but he can tell the few days I'm down and tries to help out more which is good enough for me for now.

Although... In a few months, when I'm too big to bleach the bathroom floors (which he finds an unnecessary chore, but I bleach everything in the bathroom once a week), we'll see if he's offering to help out then ;-)

This is us, too! Although, now that I'm thinking about backrubs, I should try to cash in on some of them. I only have 4 months of this left!!

LetsBeNice · June 2012

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My H has been a jerk pretty much. I've been really sick, and he acts like I'm doing it on purpose. We used to take turns sleeping in on the weekends (one sleeps in Sat and the other gets up w/the kids then Sunday vice versa) and the last 3 weekends, he will not get out of bed, sleeps til 9 or 10, while I'm up around 6. Yesterday he elbowed me in my giant stomach and I said, "excuse me" (full of sarcasm) and he told me I needed to MOVE OUT OF THE WAY. I'm pretty much going to be avoiding him and his jerky attitude now (since my IL's are here for a week and a half).

CraftyKayla · June 2012

LetsBeNice:
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My H has been a jerk pretty much. I've been really sick, and he acts like I'm doing it on purpose. We used to take turns sleeping in on the weekends (one sleeps in Sat and the other gets up w/the kids then Sunday vice versa) and the last 3 weekends, he will not get out of bed, sleeps til 9 or 10, while I'm up around 6. Yesterday he elbowed me in my giant stomach and I said, "excuse me" (full of sarcasm) and he told me I needed to MOVE OUT OF THE WAY. I'm pretty much going to be avoiding him and his jerky attitude now (since my IL's are here for a week and a half).

Whoa. That's just unacceptable. Why are you putting up with that?!

sjgurl784 · June 2012

LetsBeNice:
*SS
My H has been a jerk pretty much. I've been really sick, and he acts like I'm doing it on purpose. We used to take turns sleeping in on the weekends (one sleeps in Sat and the other gets up w/the kids then Sunday vice versa) and the last 3 weekends, he will not get out of bed, sleeps til 9 or 10, while I'm up around 6. Yesterday he elbowed me in my giant stomach and I said, "excuse me" (full of sarcasm) and he told me I needed to MOVE OUT OF THE WAY. I'm pretty much going to be avoiding him and his jerky attitude now (since my IL's are here for a week and a half).

My knee would have immediately come up and slammed into his balls. Ugh. Sorry you're dealing with that shiit.

jennadoll87 · June 2012

I feel like my life goes haywire when im pregnant. DH and I seem to go through issues and life seems out of control!

That maybe the hormones talking...but this is number 2 for us and i feel like we're repeating the first time around. no special treatment for me Embarrassed

Rachelilly23 · June 2012

sjgurl784:
LetsBeNice:
*SS
My H has been a jerk pretty much. I've been really sick, and he acts like I'm doing it on purpose. We used to take turns sleeping in on the weekends (one sleeps in Sat and the other gets up w/the kids then Sunday vice versa) and the last 3 weekends, he will not get out of bed, sleeps til 9 or 10, while I'm up around 6. Yesterday he elbowed me in my giant stomach and I said, "excuse me" (full of sarcasm) and he told me I needed to MOVE OUT OF THE WAY. I'm pretty much going to be avoiding him and his jerky attitude now (since my IL's are here for a week and a half).
My knee would have immediately come up and slammed into his balls. Ugh. Sorry you're dealing with that shiit.

This. I wouldn't be taking crap like that.

jennadoll87 · June 2012

LetsBeNice:
*SS
My H has been a jerk pretty much. I've been really sick, and he acts like I'm doing it on purpose. We used to take turns sleeping in on the weekends (one sleeps in Sat and the other gets up w/the kids then Sunday vice versa) and the last 3 weekends, he will not get out of bed, sleeps til 9 or 10, while I'm up around 6. Yesterday he elbowed me in my giant stomach and I said, "excuse me" (full of sarcasm) and he told me I needed to MOVE OUT OF THE WAY. I'm pretty much going to be avoiding him and his jerky attitude now (since my IL's are here for a week and a half).

ohhhhh you're much nicer than i am!!!

jessicaskyy · June 2012

He's definitely treating me differently this time around. I think it has to do with the fact that we're having a girl. When I was pg with our boys he was all into it, and now all he talks about is all the trouble we're in for. We just had a huge move, too, so that could have to do with the way he's acting. He's still very sweet and caring.

daronsmommy · June 2012

LetsBeNice:
*SS
My H has been a jerk pretty much. I've been really sick, and he acts like I'm doing it on purpose. We used to take turns sleeping in on the weekends (one sleeps in Sat and the other gets up w/the kids then Sunday vice versa) and the last 3 weekends, he will not get out of bed, sleeps til 9 or 10, while I'm up around 6. Yesterday he elbowed me in my giant stomach and I said, "excuse me" (full of sarcasm) and he told me I needed to MOVE OUT OF THE WAY. I'm pretty much going to be avoiding him and his jerky attitude now (since my IL's are here for a week and a half).

Are we married to the same man? Thankfully I don't have to deal with the IL's for a week and a half straight. And things are different now that we work opposite shifts so we don't see each other too much, but I totally am with you on staying away from him and his jerky attitude some days.

mdsharr · June 2012

I would say the same as before, but my DH is pretty sweet to me anyway. He is always offering back rubs and feet rubs. We try to split the kids when we are both home anyway, but he is more willing now that we are having #3. He will always do anything if I ask. I just don't like having to ask. I feel he should know it needs to be done.

MichelleL1118 · June 2012

I voted for "just the same," but DH always sort of dotes on me - if I'm hungry, he'll get up and cook something so I don't have to, or he'll run to the store if I want something specific, or whatever. It's not because I'm pregnant, it's just who he is. I definitely "abuse" it more during pregnancy (and while super sleep-deprived right after DS was born, LOL) but I try not to take advantage of it much.

efs83 · June 2012

SS* My hubby totally pampered me the first time around, but this time not so much! He's still treats me wonderfully, but he's not worried about every little thing like he was the last time. He has been complaining much more about the lack of sex (its been over a month, the last time we did it it was really uncomfortable, so I think we're done for a while!) Sometimes I wish he would get up early on occasion with DS, and do more housecleaning, but overal I can't complain!

beege17 · June 2012

I get treated like a princess, which would be fine most of the time, but we miscarried last september and he is being extra cautious. I defnitely appreciate it, but I cant even lift a bag of grocieries without him freaking out! lol I guess I would prefer it to be that way than not helping out at all!

ladeebri · June 2012

I voted for the first one, even though foot rubbing would never happen. When he's not working nights I get a back rub unless he's dead tired. He'll sometimes bring me breakfast burritos in the morning, or cook dinner and help out with house chores. I rarely ask him to do anything, but he does A LOT. I don't know that he would go as far as he has if I wasn't injured though (neck/spine problems). He was nice with our last pregnancy, but not to this degree.

elfchique · June 2012

I voted the same but my husband is extremely attentive and spoils me.

Cynthia1207 · June 2012

I voted for depends on the day but really only because H would never do foot rubs and massages anyway. He has been overly protective and sometimes annoying but also really understanding and loving

He does give me more attention and is way more patient these days than he ever was before. Whenever I go off on him he remains surprinsingly calm which is completely out of character for him. We both have hot tempers so our fights used to get heated...not anymore Big Smile It's managed to calm me down as well so plus-plus in both directions!

jillybean800 · June 2012

I picked depends on the day, but it's more depends on the thing I'm asking him to do. He's really good about cooking dinner etc, because I'm so tired after school, but he's definitely not giving me free rubs all the time, etc! But I don't ask for a super a lot of special treatment.

1+1=4 · June 2012

efs83:
SS* My hubby totally pampered me the first time around, but this time not so much! He's still treats me wonderfully, but he's not worried about every little thing like he was the last time. He has been complaining much more about the lack of sex (its been over a month, the last time we did it it was really uncomfortable, so I think we're done for a while!) Sometimes I wish he would get up early on occasion with DS, and do more housecleaning, but overal I can't complain!

Wow. Exactly this.

thetwinkies&Vivi · June 2012

My DH does an exceptional job taking care of me. He always ask if I need anything before leaving the room (I'm on modified bed rest), makes sure I take my meds, rubs me whenever needed, etc. I really appreciate all he does for me and the babies.

Lilleybug · June 2012

Most days he is his normal self. Sometimes I get back rubs and foot rubs and other times he makes me so mad (probably hormones on my part). He seems to forget how tired you are when pregnant.

Starry Again · June 2012

He treats me normally. I sometimes wish I got treated a little more godess-y, but I accept it as a trade off with the equality I experience in the rest of our relationship.

He did much more housework while I was really sick at the beginning of my pregnancy, which is what he would normally do if I was sick. So point is, he picks up my slack but not any more than he normally would.

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