feel so terrible about taking away her binky!

orchid8407 · June 2012

My two year old daughter has her binky at nap and bedtime. I am ok with it because we take it out when we go to bed. I am not one of those, oh my gosh she is 2 now, so no more binky! I thought I would do it when it felt right. DH and I talked about it and we are going to start the process. I didn't give it to her last night and she was so upset, like sad crying. I felt terrible! She didn't seem like she could relax enough to go to sleep.

I hate this! I heard of some good suggestions, but what have you all tried that seemed relatively painless?

AmandaP678 · June 2012

I remember feeling that way too. I felt so bad because he would want it. If he asked for it, I would just tell him Daddy took it to work and all we had was a junky one with a hole in it, some times that wasn't ok and o and he moved on to the next thing, other times it was a lot more of an effort to redirect hm.

Good Luck, stick with it and don't cave

superaunt · June 2012

we just did this three weeks ago. it was bloody hard to hear her cry that first night but now it's like she never had it. the only thing that sucks for us is that it's hindered her napping when she's home. before she'd go to the room to her door and announce she wanted her binky and bear to take a nap. now, she fights it.

superaunt · June 2012

oh and we "gave it to a baby" and let her pick out a new toy. so when she would ask for it (days after), we would ignore it or tell it's "all gone" and praised her for being such a big girl.

julesverne · June 2012

We just did this yesterday. DD has/had a Wubbanub (named "Buddy"). Buddy got to point where DD had chewed holes in the pacifer part. Out of fear that she would chew it off and choke in her sleep, we cut off the part of pacifier that DD would put in her mouth. At first she thought it was funny, but then at bedtime, she kept asking me to fix Buddy. I felt horrible. If she got her way, DD would walk around with Buddy in all day. However, since Buddy has been "fixed", when she sees that she can't suck on Buddy anymore, she simply puts him down and goes on about her day. Granted it's only been 24 hours, but I think this just might work. We will let her have Buddy if she wants (to hold) since she can't suck on him, and hopefully that will ease any meltdowns that might be on the horizon.

Adam2010 · June 2012

I struggle with this as well...We tried taking DS binki away in December when I had a week off (I am a teacher) and he was only getting it for nap and bedtime. I figured he would be ok with it- we cut off the ends saying "Santa's reindeer ate them" and they were broken...he threw them in the garbage and did not cry once! He did great with nap but then had a really rough night falling asleep- didn't really cry just stayed awake. He did the same thing for the whole week and the following week and then we decided to give it back. He was not sleeping more than 2 hours a night and it was REALLY rough. Both DH and I were so tired we had to give in! Now I am trying to figure out when and how to get it away again

Let me know if anything works!!! GL!

angelina477 · June 2012

The bye bye binky method worked for us! She was three when we finally did it. At one I said we would ween her, then two, and by three we were forced out of self shame.

https://www.bye-bye-binky.com/

FutureMrsBB · June 2012

angelina477:

The bye bye binky method worked for us! She was three when we finally did it. At one I said we would ween her, then two, and by three we were forced out of self shame.

https://www.bye-bye-binky.com/

Thank you for this. I've been trying to find something other than just cold turkey. I'm hoping this will help us like it did you!

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2012

We tried the cutting the tip trick to make him lose interest but it didnt work.

Honestly, that first night of crying was tough. However, he adapted really quick without sleeping without it. The first night took him an hour to fall asleep. The second night-10 minutes. The third night he asked for it, but when I told him we couldnt have it anymore he didn't cry. After the first week he never asked for one again. I'm so glad we stuck with it.

HappyMama30 · June 2012

No real advice, but looking to see the suggestions. We've put a cold-turkey notice on her "soo" after her birthday... yes, her third birthday. She only has it in her bed, but she loves it so much. Worried about going cold-turkey, but I don't see any other option. Good luck!

BrittKav · June 2012

We got rid of the paci last week. DD was addicted, I thought it would take forever and I didn't want to do cold turkey and have her super upset. She's a little older so it was easier to explain to her that big girls don't have pacis. I set up a chart with stickers for when she did something without her paci (nap, bed, car ride) and when all the boxes were filled up, she would get a party. She was so excited at the prospect of a party that she gave it up cold turkey. Sometimes she'd want her paci but we'd just remind her that she would get a sticker on her chart if she went without it, and she did. Everytime she put a sticker on she'd say "I'm getting closer!". She was so excited. We had her party and she got a "Big Girl" certificate that we framed and put on her wall. She hasn't asked for it since.

The one thing I've noticed is that her behavior has been worse since getting rid of it. I don't know if it's related, or if it's just a normal stage she's going through. She's just been testing her boundaries a lot more than usual.

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