Stress/Frustration Release

maceymay1816 · June 2012

I am about 45 days away from being a mother of 2 under 2. I am currently very pregnant, on modified bed rest and have been having contractions for 10 weeks. I can't chase after my LO so we can't go outside, I have to keep the doors closed because she sits and screams at the doors to go outside. I am not allowed to be driving anywhere besides the doctor so visiting others is out of the question right now. I know all this is temporary, but it is frustrating now with one, I am very nervous at how I will handle 2 under 2. My patience level at this point is zero so I find myself getting frustrated with my LO when she throws tantrums, partly because I physically can't get up and play with her like I want to and partly because I am a pregnant emotional mess.

I am very aware that my life is going to be kinda crazy over the next few months getting the hang of 2 under 2, and there will likely be a good bit of stress. Can you tell me how you guys handle the stress and frustration? I will be a SAHM for the first time ever and I have some apprehension, but I need to know what your tricks are to relieve some stress.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2012

In those moments when I'd get really angry with my toddler, I would just walk away for a few minutes. I'd put him somewhere safe and just step away. I'd go put on a song I liked, decompress for a few minutes, then go back.

Also, when DH got home from work I'd try to squeeze in a little time for myself after dinner, like taking a warm bath.

In terms of outdoor play, could you get something like this so she has a safe place to play outdoors and you don't have to chase her?

https://www.diapers.com/p/north-states-industries-superyard-xt-gate-25830?site=CA&utm_source=cse&utm_medium=cpc_D&utm_term=NR-002&utm_campaign=Google&CAWELAID=1338719548&utm_content=pla&ci_sku=NR-002&ci_gpa=pla&ci_kw={keyword}

When your 2u2 are here, you'll have more stategies to deal (like just taking a car ride or getting out to burn off your older child's energy). I found being pregnant with a toddler and an infant harder than the reality of 2u2 honestly.

Hang in there!

bellelamb · June 2012

Honestly the last month being pregnant was harder than the first month with 2u2 for me. The hormones made it so hard! I think taking it a day at a time and making sure to enjoy at least some time with each kid has helped me so far! I have a 1 month old and a 19 month old. Oh yeah and a 8 year old.

schwietRDH · June 2012

I know you can't get out now, but this phase will be over soon. I thought I was going to go insane after I had #2 and the key for me was to get out of the house. We go to Stroller Strides 3-5 days a week and I can honestly say it changed my life. The kids are happier because they had a schedule and were able to get out & play. They get to interact with other kiddos and play at the park afterward. And I have lots of other moms to talk to everyday and it's an awesome workout (get those endorphines working!). So even if Stroller Strides or a mommy work-out group isn't your thing, I'd say find a moms group or something to give you structure. HTH

segerama · June 2012

Could you have a neighborhood kid come over and play with your two year old? It would give her the attention that she is seeking while giving you a break. Since you are home, you probably could have a tween do it and only pay a small amount. If your neighbors are anything like mine, they would probably love the opportunity to play with your child and make $10 for several hours each day.

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