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How do you handle this type of behavior?

macaroni1979macaroni1979 member
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When DD doesn't want to go up for quiet time in her room, when she doesn't get her way, etc...  she starts screaming, stomping her feet, throwing things, full on meltdown tantrum behavior. So we tell her what it is we need of her/the behavior we expect and then close her bedroom door. We can give her one chance or multiple chances, try to distract her, nothing works, her bad behavior continues to escalate. She will then scream and scream and scream and cry, kick the door and throw things at the door, jump up and down and stomp her feet more. This will go on for over an hour if we let it. We have been trying different ways to handle her, nothing is working. We just cannot get through to her. Please tell me what you would do. TIA!
Josie Cailin 7/25/08 Asher Mason 7/19/10
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Re: How do you handle this type of behavior?

  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member

    that seems kind of extreme.  Does she always escalate like that?  Are her verbal skills decent?  Have you tried talking to her while she's calm about the right way to react when she's mad/frustrated, etc. 

    Honestly, I'd be a little concerned if that was happeing frequently and there was a developmental issue causing it.  I'd bring it up to your pediatrician and see what they think.

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  • macaroni1979macaroni1979 member

    I feel it is very extreme too. And it doesn't matter what the reason is, whether I ask her to apologize for something or she has actually done something wrong and is being reprimanded. Yes, she usually escalates like that. Starting with telling me no, going limp noodle when I tell her to go upstairs for a time out, and then on to the rest. And I am able to calm her down and talk to her, but the second I close her door so she can finish her time out, it starts again.

    She is a very smart kid. Has always seemed more mature than her age, to the point where sometimes I have to remember she isn't even 4 yet. Her verbal skills are advanced, I would say. I will talk to the pedi about it at her 4 yr appt, next month. I just am wondering if this is normal behavior at all? What type of developmental issue do you think it might be?

    Josie Cailin 7/25/08 Asher Mason 7/19/10
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  • ironmommyironmommy

    I was a really awful preschooler, and I am not developmentally delayed or otherwise compromised. I was also a really great teenager and have a wonderful relationship with my parents today. Some kids are just hard.

    It's worth bringing up to the pedi, but I wouldn't think it's anything other than a young child trying to test boundaries and stand her ground. Maybe time-outs scare her? Have you tried another system?

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  • IlumineIlumine member
    Maybe its time to use a different punishment?  If TOs dont work, maybe the loss of a toy?
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  • ashg8rashg8r
    This is DD's behavior as well if the door gets closed.  We usually put a gate up for timeouts and she cries, but doesnt go wild like with the door closed.  She has started throwing things during TO, so we're now doing TO in a kitchen chair, which has worked pretty well the 2 times we've done it.  I would think about trying something other than closing the door.
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  • Ready4lifeReady4life member
    We do TO in a chair in the dining room which seems to work. DD screams while in it, but we ignore her. Then after 3 min (min for each year she is, and regardless what she does while in TO we do not ever restart the clock)  and we talk to her about it and then hug. As a result, we usually don't have to do TO too often. I really like Supernanny Jo's techniques which seems to work for us. 
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