feeling guilty...

whiteroses05 · June 2012

I have been so busy I didn't even realize what today was. Today was our lo's 3 month angelverisary. I feel so guilty that I wasn't even aware of it until now. Its not that I don't think about him/her daily I just have been so caught up in getting ready for vacation, thinking about father's day, thinking about what the following months will bring,and just trying to stay focused at work. Feel like this makes me a bad mommy that forgot a birthday!!

I really can't believe it has been three months already! I still remember what it was like the day we had to say goodbye. Part of me will always try to block out the parts I wish I didn't have to remember so I can just focus on the the good. I feel like the days are getting easier to deal with or just to get through. I am actually surprised how I am handling this. I have a feeling however that the EDD will be the hardest for me. We are only a month away from it and I wish it was on a weekend so I didn't have to face all the looks. I just really hope o lo knows how much she/he was loved and is missed!!

Thanks for listening!!

johnnys june · June 2012

*hugs* I agree with pp, don't beat yourself up. These "months" are just that...time. Time cannot measure the love or the bond you had with your baby. To be honest, I didn't focus on the 1, 2, 3 month marks and so on. 6 months was hard, and of course his 1st birthday, but I tried not to put so much pressure on myself from the beginning.

Guilt is something you with battle...but always remember to be gentle with yourself.

Mrs Nice · June 2012

Don't feel too bad. Ian's three month Angelversary was my DHs b-day so I felt guilty for celebrating on that day. I promised myself that I would be extra sad the next month to make up for it. Guess who forgot? That's right, I completely missed the four month mark. The truth is tho, that we grieve every single day. We hold them in our hearts constantly so one day or another the pain is the same. Our LOs know we love them no matter what the date is. Big hugs to you!

pb127 · June 2012

Huge (((hugs))) The dates don't matter, just the love in your heart for your LO... and that is definitely an immeasurable love.

tuscanbride2007 · June 2012

(((Huge hugs to you))) I agree with pp that the dates don't matter, just the love in your heart for your LO. My doctor told me that anniversaries are what society puts upon us. We shouldn't feel guilty when we miss one. Our angels know that they were loved.

whiteroses05 · June 2012

Thanks ladies!!! I knew you would get it!! Happy weekend!!!

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