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DH's family nearly gave me a heart attack!

Heather2256Heather2256
in May 2012 Moms

MIL was over visiting today. I had walked to my doctor's appointment (2 blocks away). And when I got back, DH was on the porch so I was talking to him. MIL comes out & says, "Leslie's laying on her stomach w/ the pacifier in her mouth" and then sits down. I just thought - 'OMG!!!! Tummy time is suppose to be supervised!!!' I rushed into the living room & of course LO was ok. But holy crap! Apparently DH had tried to give me an 'oh crap' look but I was too busy getting into the house.

And then we visited his grandma (had to drop MIL off & stop by my mom's house) who hadn't seen LO yet. Well, his grandma is holding her, all's going good. Then his aunt walks out & starts touching LO's face. I nearly flipped! DH hurried up & grabbed the pacifier to put in b/c she was nearly trying to put her finger in LO's mouth! Plus they kept on touching & holding LO's hands & she would then try to put her hands in her mouth. DH kept telling them we didn't want LO getting sick since everyone was touching her hands. 

It really makes me wonder if people know how to be around babies anymore!! 

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Re: DH&#039;s family nearly gave me a heart attack!

  • bellelambbellelamb member
    It's a fairly new thing that most our parents generation and older don't believe that you shouldnt put babies on their stomach. Honestly there are times I've let my babies nap that way if I'm awake and around if they are gaving a gassy day. Also most family members feel its family and ok to touch  babies, if they aren't sick and have washed their hands it is ok.  I'd give them a break I know your a new momma and worried about your baby but your dh's family didn't mean or do any harm.
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  • MelissaMisoMelissaMiso member
    I don't mind if family and friends touch my little one provided they are not sick. Germs don't freak me out and I don't want to keep my baby in a "bubble" since being too sterile isn't good for their immune systems either. They need to start building up their immunity. Of course I don't put her in the arms of someone with a hacking cough or anything like that but I am of the belief that "a little dirt don't hurt."

    We all want what is best for our babies and you should have family respect your "hands off" approach, but don't get too worked up. Just explain, calmly and respectfully, how you want your baby handled. Good luck

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    MIL did the same thing to me but she had watched her all day and told me when I came to pick her up that she sleeps much better on her tummy....WHAT?!  I walk into the room and LO is laying on her tummy on their bed on top of the comforter.  Not ok.  Family touches her hands some, but that doesn't bother me as much b/c they usually wash their hands first.  You can always wash LOs hands with a baby wipe if it makes you nervous.  Actually with the kids we have a rule arms/hands and feet/legs only for touches so they don't accidentally poke her in the eye, touch her mouth or play with her soft spots--they are young though :).  I think some germs are good germs, but I would not want people to put their dirty fingers in LOs mouth.   
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    imageMelissaMiso:
    I don't mind if family and friends touch my little one provided they are not sick. Germs don't freak me out and I don't want to keep my baby in a "bubble" since being too sterile isn't good for their immune systems either. They need to start building up their immunity. Of course I don't put her in the arms of someone with a hacking cough or anything like that but I am of the belief that "a little dirt don't hurt."

    We all want what is best for our babies and you should have family respect your "hands off" approach, but don't get too worked up. Just explain, calmly and respectfully, how you want your baby handled. Good luck

    This. Especially once you have two children and your toddler has playgroups and such. Good luck keeping everything sterile and germ free. They really do need to build their system.  So as long as the aunt was not sick I really don't see that as a problem.  

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  • Heather2256Heather2256
    We're not trying to keep everything germ free or anything & I know she needs to build up her system. His family hadn't washed their hands beforehand & plus they're smokers (the aunt's finger tips are literally yellow). Which I didn't say anything. DH says his aunt would have gotten all defensive saying her hands were clean. I had thought about being able to use a wipe to clean LO's hands afterwards.
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