spin off to not finding out post...

nycbride2011 · June 2012

I personally DON'T want to find out the sex of the baby; but DH wants to know. I'm contemplating letting HIM find out and making him promise not to tell anyone; and not to tell me.

Do you think you could do this? I figured it would be a fair compromise. What are your opinions on this? Do you think you could handle DH knowing the baby is a girl/boy and you not finding out until delivery?

sbevmc09 · June 2012

I don't think I could stand that, but maybe it's different for everyone! For me, it's something that MH and I would have to agree on and if one of us wanted to know and one of us didn't I guess we'd have to evaluate who wanted what more and try to figure out something we can agree on.

Allison546 · June 2012

I think if you really don't want to find out, it'd be hard to have DH know.. it'd be too tempting for you to break down and ask him, and I think it'd be bound to slip out somehow... then again maybe some people have had success with this, I don't know.

If I was dead-set against finding out I wouldn't let DH find out either.

rjade9 · June 2012

I don't know if this would work for us. If dh wanted to know that bad and I didn't we would have to draw straws or something lol. I don't know if it would be as special to not find out if it was only a suprise for one of us.

Alyssa102 · June 2012

That would be hard, what if he slips up and says "she", or once he knows all he'll be able to concentrate on is names for that gender.

LoriLue31 · June 2012

Sounds like a good compromise to me if he is good at keeping secrets. I couldn't handle not knowing at all, that's why I am not team green

Mom2anAngel2 · June 2012

My sister has successfully done exactly this. She knows and has not told anyone. She wanted to be able to buy some gender specific items before baby comes. Her H does not want to know. I think it takes a strong person to do this, but it can definately work.

nycbride2011 · June 2012

Thanks everyone! My DH would be very good and not saying anything; luckily we have plenty of time to figure this out.

pghctwife · June 2012

id be too worried that one of us would slip... but a good friend of mine did this successfully! Her H was military though and had high security clearance... so he could be trusted to keep a secret

this decaf life · June 2012

I would have to do the same thing as DH. We both want to know so that's easy & I don't think it's fair to ask that he tells no one because that's going to be a difficult thing to keep to himself.

+lisamarie+ · June 2012

This has happened to me twice now...I didnt want to know, DH did. We thought about this option breifly, but I know DH couldnt keep it a secret! What would be the purpose of only him knowing? Just so he can mentally prepare or something? Im sure other people have done this and its worked fine! Ive also considered the u/s tech writing the sex down on a piece of paper just in case we change our mind in the past, but Ive had to give in to finding out!!! This time i WILL get my surprise baby!!

laurapacheco · June 2012

I think it would be really hard for one parent to know and the other to not know... someone is bound to slip up eventually. To each their own, but as for me I'm so glad DH & I are on the same page with this!

Yellow415 · June 2012

sbevmc09:
I don't think I could stand that, but maybe it's different for everyone! For me, it's something that MH and I would have to agree on and if one of us wanted to know and one of us didn't I guess we'd have to evaluate who wanted what more and try to figure out something we can agree on.

This is how we made our decision. He wants to know more than I dont.

landosmommy · June 2012

My DH wants to know the gender as well, but I'm rocking on turning his decision around. :P

I will not let him find out because I don't want him to accidentally slip up & say something like, "oh, she'll need this." so no, he wont know until I push LO out. :P

jobiann · June 2012

I have three friends who didn't want to know but their husbands did, so their husbands were told...all three of them blew the secret at some point in the pregnancy and my friends were all so pissed off at their husbands. I wouldn't divide the house, make a decision together and roll with it.

kristinrotondo · June 2012

rjade9:
I don't know if this would work for us. If dh wanted to know that bad and I didn't we would have to draw straws or something lol. I don't know if it would be as special to not find out if it was only a suprise for one of us.

This.