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Has anyone "picked" their older child from foster system?

Bonnie SueBonnie Sue member
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So, I'm wondering how this works.  I know that I can go on websites like adoptuskids and see older children who have been waiting to be adopted and who's parental rights have already been terminated.  I'm wondering what the system is.  Can you choose a child and tell your social worker that that's who you want? Does going this route shorten the wait time?  I'm very curious. Thanks in advance for the advice.
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**Bonnie**
Married Sept 13, 2009
TTC since Jan 2010
Diagnosed w/ PCOS Oct 2010
1500mg metformin
SA 05/25/11 morphology @ 10%
HSG 06/02/11, tubes were clear, uterine septum discovered
06/30/11 Hysteroscopy, found a polyp blocking R fallopian tube
07/20/11 Successful surgery to remove polyp and uterine septum!
Sept/Oct cycle-Femara IUI turned into TI cycle= cancelled due to unresponsive follies
09/28/11: dx w/ MTHFR (cc)
10/22/11: IUI #1 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+ diluted hcg shots= BFN :-(
03/25/12: IUI #2 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+progesterone= BFN
Starting to pursue adoption
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Re: Has anyone "picked" their older child from foster system?

  • JerseyGirlAtHeartJerseyGirlAtHeart member

    Im not sure how it works with the Adoptuskids website, but I know in my state its still a wait. From what was explained to us is that if we "like" a kid on our states website, we tell our worker. Our profile gets submitted to that childs worker and then based off of the profiles the child recieves, they pick who they think is best suited for the child. Once that is done, the prospective parents have meetings with everyone involved (workers, therapists, foster parents, etc) and see if those childs needs (if any) are OK for the family to handle. From there you get visits building up to the actual placement before adoption.

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  • beaurevebeaureve member
    I agree with the previous posters. You get to pick who you are interested in being considered for, however, that does not mean their agency thinks you are an appropriate match for them.
    The waste in life lies in the love we have not given, the powers we have not used and the selfish prudence that will risk nothing; and which shirking pain, misses happiness as well. Mary Cholmondeley
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  • znianiswanznianiswan

    From what was explained to us is that if we "like" a kid on our states website, we tell our worker.

     

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  • mommytoconnormommytoconnor member
    I can tell you from experience that the AdoptUSKids website is difficult to use if there is a child that you feel would be a good placement. When I was in the process and was waiting, there were several kids that I thought I could give a home to.  You contact their social worker, who then contacts your social worker and they get your homestudy. After weeks and weeks go by you hear that this child is unavailable.  I have spoken to many people and we all have had similar experiences with that site.  I have yet to ehar of anyone who was able to get a child placed with them that was on that site.
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  • beaurevebeaureve member
    We located our DS on the AdoptUSKids website. 
    The waste in life lies in the love we have not given, the powers we have not used and the selfish prudence that will risk nothing; and which shirking pain, misses happiness as well. Mary Cholmondeley
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  • Bonnie SueBonnie Sue member
    Thank you all for responding. I've mainly been looking through a few counties websites around where I live. We are already planning on using a private agency to foster adopt, but I appreciate that advice. I was just curious to how the process works, in case we choose to do that. 
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    **Bonnie**
    Married Sept 13, 2009
    TTC since Jan 2010
    Diagnosed w/ PCOS Oct 2010
    1500mg metformin
    SA 05/25/11 morphology @ 10%
    HSG 06/02/11, tubes were clear, uterine septum discovered
    06/30/11 Hysteroscopy, found a polyp blocking R fallopian tube
    07/20/11 Successful surgery to remove polyp and uterine septum!
    Sept/Oct cycle-Femara IUI turned into TI cycle= cancelled due to unresponsive follies
    09/28/11: dx w/ MTHFR (cc)
    10/22/11: IUI #1 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+ diluted hcg shots= BFN :-(
    03/25/12: IUI #2 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+progesterone= BFN
    Starting to pursue adoption
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