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October 2012 Moms
sdb421
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Any STMs having a "sprinkle?"
sdb421
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I have twin girls and am having a baby boy and I have had several people ask to throw me a "sprinkle" or a small shower. While the gifts would certainly be nice, I really don't feel comfortable with it or necessarily think it's appropriate. Thoughts? Anyone else in this situation?
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Re: Any STMs having a "sprinkle?"
I have been appraoched by two friends who have asked to host a small shower for our group of friends. If it is anything like the other ones I have been to / hosted for friends within the same group gifts are not usually included. It is a time to all get together, eat great food and just celebrate a new life in some small way.
For one friend, we all designed individual quilt squares and her mom made a beautiful quilt for their little boy. For another friend, everyone wrote a little note of encouragement / advice ahead of time and one of our friends made them into a really nice keepsake book. Typically, we still give small gifts when the baby is born (and bring meals for the first 3 weeks) but nothing compared to a first time mom / shower.
I will not be registering this time around. We have most of the big things that are gender nuetral (stroller, car seat, breast pump, etc). Although we do need quite a bit since this baby is a boy, between what we will buy and close friends and family gifts we should be fine. I had 3 showers with DD and that felt really excessive (although I was very grateful) so it really doesn't seem right to have another even if someone offered.
m/c at 13 weeks - March 23, 2011
I think your situation it wouldn't be inappropriate to have a sprinkle, especially if they just gift your little boy with some clothing and blankets or whatnot. Boy stuff.
This is my third and I put together a registry for my own reference. Like a digital checklist for myself. I don't intend on having a shower this time around as pretty much all we need is clothes and diapers and I'm sure people will bring some of that stuff by anyway. A friend of mine just had a full blown shower for her third child and I thought it was kind of rude. Granted, her oldest daughter is 12 and by a different father, but her middle child just turned 2 and just because he's a boy and the youngest is a girl, doesn't mean they need new, pink everything. Her registry was like 4 pages long and had EVERYTHING on it! Expensive stuff. Mine is pretty much outfits, crib sheets, and blankets. I might have 10 - 15 things. Again, for my own reference. Honestly, I couldn't fit any more than that in my house anyway.
I am a STM and my baby shower with DS was not really considered a baby shower. It was just me my now MIL and two coworkers in a coworkers house. no cake or anything nor a surprise. More like lunch with friends. This time I am hoping for a real shower as I didnt get to see both my husbands family or mine together when DS was was born. ( Most of my family lives in Staten Island and I live in SOuth Jersey) But they all keep asking me if I know if there will be a shower and if they can come. I do not know if I am having a shower, I love surprises! But since its summer time back yard pool and cook out will work nothing to fancy. I did register but only for things I need, I didnt even register for clothes and I know I will need those. I have all of the big expensive stuff I.e crib,playard, swing, travel system, bouncer.. But I did donate some clothing to a local pregnancy center and stuff awhile back because they helped me when I was looking. This time we are also having a girl and different seasons. My girlfriend just had a girl in march so she will have somethings for me but not a lot. Both of her girls are over 10lbs when born, DS was barely 6lbs and was tiny for awhile, and the Drs say generally DD will be small. But My MIL said a few ladies at work had girls over the last year and are ready to get rid of almost new clothes so I am not worried about that. I will also not plan my own or host my own shower or sprinkle. But if someone does throw me one, I will not object .
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I have three boys 17, 11, 2 and now we are having a girl. Once everyone found out we were having a girl I got approached by 4 different people who wanted to throw me a shower. They are now all working together to throw me a shower in July. I registered but its very small registry and there are no BIG items on it. Mainly clothes, diapers, crib sheets things like that. I even asked some close friends who have been to my previous shower 2 years ago and they ALL said I must have another shower to celebrate the baby girl.
I don't think I'm having a sprinkle but we did have our Gender Reveal party and a few people gave gifts but they certainly weren't expected.
I can see how it might be uncomfortable to have a sprinkle or 2nd shower but I'm also in the boat that every baby deserves a little celebration. I think a celebration with your close family members and closest friends is perfectly acceptable. Right now I'm trying to plan a little brunch for my girlfriend who's due 8 weeks before me.
If people are approaching you and really want to throw something for you and as long as you're not totally against them, I say go for it and enjoy!
work usually does something for everyone regardless of what baby it is. Most of the time they just buy a lot of clothes if it is a second and on baby. I will not have hurt feelings though if they don't. There is another girl who is a FTM on my floor due same time as me. It may be too much to try and do both and I think she is more deserving since I already had one. I surely hope they don't try to combine us. That would be so unfair to her.
BFF and I had both said we would do a diaper party for each other. It is what people around us do for second and on babies. Baiscally friends come over and drink and have fun but to walk in the door you have to bring a pack of diapers. One of our friends didn't have to buy diapers the whole first year of her childs life. My BFF hasn't mentioned it in awhile and I know she is busy so again if it doesn't happen no big deal. Diapers would be nice but we knew what we were getting into and the costs associated with it so we can afford to buy diapers
First let me say it's common in my area to have a full blown shower for all babies, whether 2nd, 3rd, doesn't matter how close the babies are in age, and the sex doesn't matter either. All of the showers I have been to in the last year have been for 2nd babies, where the Mom has a 2 year old child already. The Moms register and everything, there's 20-30 people there, etc.
That being said, I wasn't expecting one. Then on Monday one of my close mommy-friends offered to host one for me. I was totally flattered and so excited! Then on Wednesday two other friends offered! So I told the 3 of them that I would be more than happy to have a small shower with close friends only (we have a pretty active social circle).
Not that i know of (no one has brought it up or offered). I would feel a little to awkward to have one though. Its been 5 years since my last baby and we're even having the opposite sex....but i still feel uneasy about the idea since there are so many critics!
My MIL did ask me to REGISTER though so she could buy off of it! lol..i politely declined. If she wants to buy something, great - but that seems a little over the top.
I'd say if it is really importatnt to whoever offered maybe let them bless you...but if you're like me and uncomfortable about it, politely decline and maybe opt for a ladies lunch instead to celebrate..