Wow. That's a good question. I've had my kiddo for almost 10 years, long enough to figure out how to do most of the things that I really love to do.
I suppose having no one that I'm responsible for on any given day. BUT, kiddo is visiting her family for the next 5 weeks, so I have a funny 5 week kid-free adventure. It makes me feel like parents must have felt when they sent their little children to boarding school. We talked yesterday and she is both happy and misses us, so that is nice.
CageyMack
37, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (12) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.
5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered. All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd. 4 fertilized. Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853. Yay!
"Things separate from their stories have no meaning. They are only shapes. Of a certain size and color. A certain weight. When their meaning has become lost to us they no longer have even a name. The story on the other hand can never be lost from its place in the world for it is that place.”
― Cormac McCarthy, The Crossing
Not having to be "on" 24/7 and being able to say yes to invitations that go past 7pm.
Also, cuddling in our bed in the morning--we don't have a "wake up" time anymore (wake up is whenever he fusses and there's no time for cuddling after that), so we need to find a new time for that.
If it is any consolation to those of you with younger kids, a lot of those do get better/easier. It won't be long before no one is following you into the bathroom and going out spontaneously doesn't require a diaper change, a diaper bag, or prepping food - just "get on your shoes! we're going to dinner!"
Though I do look forward to the next stage (in many years) "I need to run to the store. Do you want to come or stay home (alone.)!"
I miss my conversations with C. After the Kiddo's bedtime we are so spent that we are increasingly seeking our own space. We used to talk on the drive home, during dinner, and until I fell asleep on her lap as she rubbed my head, which was rather quick. (Then she was able to get in all those cheesey TLC shows.)
Being able to go to the gym or the store w/o feeling guilty for leaving Jen alone with two babies. (This is my issue - she never makes me feel bad about it.)
TBH I don't know if I truly miss anything. We still go to happy hour, but JB joins us. We still dine out, JB is good at restaurants. We were never huge movie goers. We still travel and with two dogs things were never spur of the moment anyway. So I just don't know. I guess I miss the way in which some of those things used to happen. I used to dine out and be able to sit at a table for a entire meal without having to take a toddler to the potty three times (god I miss diapers). I wish I could try on clothes without having to wrangle JB from going under the wall to the stall next door, but I don't really *miss* that. kwim?
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Re: Moms - what do you miss most?
Wow. That's a good question. I've had my kiddo for almost 10 years, long enough to figure out how to do most of the things that I really love to do.
I suppose having no one that I'm responsible for on any given day. BUT, kiddo is visiting her family for the next 5 weeks, so I have a funny 5 week kid-free adventure. It makes me feel like parents must have felt when they sent their little children to boarding school. We talked yesterday and she is both happy and misses us, so that is nice.
CageyMack
37, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (12) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.
5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered. All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd. 4 fertilized. Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853. Yay!
"Things separate from their stories have no meaning. They are only shapes. Of a certain size and color. A certain weight. When their meaning has become lost to us they no longer have even a name. The story on the other hand can never be lost from its place in the world for it is that place.” ― Cormac McCarthy, The Crossing
Being able to do kid free activites last minute
Doing anything in the bathroom alone: shower, peeing, doing my hair...anything!
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
Coming home from work and not HAVING to do anything or cook dinner if I don't want to.
Being alone in an empty house (I am almost never in our house alone.)
Going to Happy Hour with my wife
Not having to be "on" 24/7 and being able to say yes to invitations that go past 7pm.
Also, cuddling in our bed in the morning--we don't have a "wake up" time anymore (wake up is whenever he fusses and there's no time for cuddling after that), so we need to find a new time for that.
this this this this and in NV there are tons of late night happy hours where things are very reasonable like our fav sushi place!!!!
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-Sleeping in (Hen is a 5AM riser)
-Doing any and all bathroom things alone
-Clothes/shoe shopping leisurely
-I used to watch a lot of tv. It was nice.
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If it is any consolation to those of you with younger kids, a lot of those do get better/easier. It won't be long before no one is following you into the bathroom and going out spontaneously doesn't require a diaper change, a diaper bag, or prepping food - just "get on your shoes! we're going to dinner!"
Though I do look forward to the next stage (in many years) "I need to run to the store. Do you want to come or stay home (alone.)!"
Being able to go to the gym or the store w/o feeling guilty for leaving Jen alone with two babies. (This is my issue - she never makes me feel bad about it.)
Living life in increments of larger than 3 hours
This. Well, not with C. With L. :P
Hahahahahaha! This cracked me up.
- movies
- game nights w/ friends
- hosting adult parties
- having hobbies
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TBH I don't know if I truly miss anything. We still go to happy hour, but JB joins us. We still dine out, JB is good at restaurants. We were never huge movie goers. We still travel and with two dogs things were never spur of the moment anyway. So I just don't know. I guess I miss the way in which some of those things used to happen. I used to dine out and be able to sit at a table for a entire meal without having to take a toddler to the potty three times (god I miss diapers). I wish I could try on clothes without having to wrangle JB from going under the wall to the stall next door, but I don't really *miss* that. kwim?