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Am I stepping on toes??

anj07anj07
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My mom and sister have offered to thow me a shower.... Yay!  My Dilema:  My 2 besties also offered to throw my shower before my mom and sister offered.  I don't want my family to feel inadequete or unappreciated, but I would love to also see my best friends included.  Am I allowed to be picky as to who helps with my shower??  Is it rude to ask my family to include my friends with planning?? 
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Re: Am I stepping on toes??

  • The_Jen626The_Jen626

    I had 4 showers with my first daughter... my Mom threw one for her friends, MIL threw one for her family and friends, my coworkers threw a small shower after work at a restaurant, and then my friends hosted a couples shower.  I really preferred it that way, it would have been WAY too many people for one shower, and that way everyone knew each other at each shower and no one felt awkward.  Plus all of the showers were so different because my family is different than DH's family, which is different than my coworkers and close friends.  I really liked the way it all worked out.

    So you could have your Mom/Sister throw a "family shower" and your 2 besties a "friend shower" and then everyone would be happy?

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  • anj07anj07

    That's so true :)

    I totally appreciate everyone wanting to be involved.  My children will be over 9 years apart, so I really could use a shower at this point, but don't want to make it a huge thing.  Just want it to be a time for everyone to get together and everyone be happy and inculded!

    Thanks for the input!  Much appreciated!

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  • jeffsjaymejeffsjayme
    imageThe_Jen626:

    I had 4 showers with my first daughter... my Mom threw one for her friends, MIL threw one for her family and friends, my coworkers threw a small shower after work at a restaurant, and then my friends hosted a couples shower.  I really preferred it that way, it would have been WAY too many people for one shower, and that way everyone knew each other at each shower and no one felt awkward.  Plus all of the showers were so different because my family is different than DH's family, which is different than my coworkers and close friends.  I really liked the way it all worked out.

    So you could have your Mom/Sister throw a "family shower" and your 2 besties a "friend shower" and then everyone would be happy?

    This. Especially if you have quite a few family members.

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  • LolliLatelyLolliLately member
    I am actually hosting two showers for my sister: one for family and one for her girlfriends.  In our case, size was an issue, so two worked out better.


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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    I had 3 showers with my first (family, friends/coworkers, church group).  It never even occured to me to ask them to co-host. 

    Let your friends host a shower for your friends and close coworkers and have your mom and sister host one for your family.  Showers don't have to be huge to be nice.  One of my showers only had 8-10 people there and it was very nice.

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  • dufferoodufferoo member
    Can't you ask everybody if they'd rather co-host or do their own separate showers? Some people like co-hosting because it's less burden on each individual, but others prefer hosting on their own especially if they have a specific vision in mind.
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