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TheBuddha
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My birthson who came before I was ready. He doesn't call me mom but I love him just the same. ~7/10/99~
BM accused DH of changing report card
TheBuddha
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This is the BM that waited until summer had started to demand her visitation. She really loves her son ya know.
Today she accused DH of changing SS's grades with his computer to make it look like he is doing better than he really is. How could you say that about your kid?? SS isn't smart enough to get the grades himself?? SS has worked his a$$ off this school year.
SS came to live with us in the middle of 2nd grade. The main reason DH filed for custody modification is because BM didn't enroll SS in kindergarten. Mid 2nd grade he was failing all subjects. His report card from his school said so, yet BM insisted to the judge (who was holding a copy of it in his hand) that SS was doing fine.
Now he is meeting and exceeding standards (he is in a new district that to no fault of his mothers is a better district, luckily). His standardized test scores show he is above average in reading AND math. Why can't BM be proud of the work her son has done? Instead she says those can't really be his grades...DH must be changing them.
She really is a sad excuse for a mother.
My birthson who came before I was ready. He doesn't call me mom but I love him just the same. ~7/10/99~This discussion has been closed.
Re: BM accused DH of changing report card
Well, she needs to believe that your husband changed the Report Card because then that means she's not a crappy excuse for a mother. If SS is doing so much better academically now that he's with your husband, that means she WAS at fault for him falling behind.
Good for your husband, you, and most importantly SS for getting on track and excelling!
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Yes! He really put the effort in and it shows on his report card and test scores. It would probably break his heart if he knew his mother said that. She better not tell him that she thinks DH is changing the grades.
honestly, I questioned weather BM changed SD's report card. school is NOT important to BM, and that is clearly reflected in SD's attitude about school. it was only kindergarten, so it wasn't really grades, more like it showed what she could do (ie. read and write her full name, ABC's #'s etc.) the report card we received was photo copied and highlighted by BM, there were parts that said that SD could recognize and write numbers up to 20.. we work on SD's school work when she is here, I have NEVER seen her recognize or write a number higher than 12...thats just one of the examples.
anyway, I totally get where you are coming from, frustrated that SS's hard work is being questioned. you and DH are doing great, so exciting SS is flourishing in your care
Know what I would do (cause I am a *** like that)?
I would send the school an email requesting that they send BM a copy of the report card. CC BM, your lawyer, her lawyer and if you had a guardian ad lidem (sp.) him/her too.
THEN, reply to the original EMail from BM (again CCing all of the above) that while you are extremely offended by the accusation, you truly understand her reasoning (don't say anything more than that, because everyone else understands it too - she has to cover her own ass by implying this).
End with something along the lines of "I hope that this will ease your mind and that you can be just as excited and proud of SSs hard work and progress".
In the end, she will come across as the loon that she is AND sets the stage to slap at her wrist if she says anything harmful to SS.
Personally what I would do is...
Take a deep breath, roll my eyes and move on.
Then I would take my family out for ice cream to celebrate how awesome SS is doing.
Just because BM is an idiot doesn't mean you have to try to beat her at it.
::eye roll::
I'd ignore this one. Next year ask the school to mail a copy of his report cards to BM directly.
What an idiot.