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Infertility Veterans
ER tomorrow!!
1st round of IVF & ER is tomorrow. I haven't been over thinking things this cycle - surprisingly!! But now, I'm really excited. Lining is good & it looks like there is at least 12 to retrieve.
TTC since 2006
3 Fertility Clinics
Test, Pills & Injectables....oh my.
Numerous failed IUI's 7 or 8 or more?
IVF #1 June 2012 ~ praying this is the only one
ER 6/13/12 - 13 ret, 7 fertilized, 7 progressing,
ET 6/15/12, BFN & No freeze babies.
Onto IVF #2 in October 2012. No, wait, body not cooperating. IVF #2 in November 2012
IVF #2
Began Provera in Sept to make me start. Never started. I O'd on my own??? 2 weeks of BCPs. Period. Baseline & Labs 10/25
Stims started 10/26 ~ 225 Follistim in the am. 150 Bravelle & 5 Lupron in pm. Trigger 11/4, ER 11/6, ET 11/9 - 2 great embies. 3 Freezebabies. Beta 11/23/2012 BFN. Now what??? I don't know if I can keep going?
I know the Lord would put a strong desire in my heart if it wasn't meant to be.
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Isaiah 41:10
I know the Lord would put a strong desire in my heart if it wasn't meant to be.
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Isaiah 41:10 This discussion has been closed.
Re: ER tomorrow!!
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/66371172.aspx
ETA Best of luck with your ER.
3 failed IVF with OE and 2 failed frozen DE cycles
Last fresh hail mary DE cycle starting Feb 2013
PAIF/SAIF always welcome
There is also a TTCAL 6m+ board, same goes there too. By definition, posters on the 6m+/Vets boards are already regulars. As clearly stated, the general INFERTILITY board is for those new to the board who don't want to deal with out crappy rules, and people are welcome to stay there for personal reasons. Plenty of people there have long IF histories, the IFV board has NOTHING to do with PERSONAL INFERTILITY TREATMENT HISTORY. The point is, This board that you are criticizing has a longtime established way of "doing things" (aka continued support) that we want to keep intact, and hijacking that for you own personal reasons is the very point of why you shouldn't post here. You obviously don't get the point of the board, so just post elsewhere.
If you want your own personal board, then go and establish one yourself, because WE DID and IT CAN BE DONE. It's asinine to to try and change a board that was established by the very people that you're bashing.
And obviously hiding behind an ALTER EGO is just a bunch of ass dribble.
Please note from the FAQ that you so nicely neglected to read:
IF Vets Guidelines and FAQThis is currently a guideline regarding the intent of the Infertility Veterans board. You should be comfortable with the ins and outs of the Infertility board if you're posting on the Vets board.+++
InfertilityVeterans is about time on this journey shared with other ladies from the Infertility board; it is not about specific treatments. The board is not about IVF specifically, nor is it the board to go to if you are new to the bump even though you have undergone advanced treatments. Random BFP announcements are discouraged on both boards, but completely unwelcome on IF Vets.
If you decide neither board is for you, please refrain from criticizing us on other boards. If you don't don't "get" IF or the struggles that the women on the board are facing, or understand that the board is a safe place where perfectly normal women can vent socially unacceptable feelings, that's fine. But please leave us in peace and definitely don't kick us when we're down; it's tacky.
Where should I post?
If you have just started treatments or are a Bump "NEWBIE," IF is the board that can properly support you. If you have been actively posting on IF for at least 6 months and you want to post on IF Vets then it is your choice to post on either board. If you randomly and sporadically post on the IF board (still have NEWBIE status after posting for 6 months or more), rarely respond to others' posts, or if you are active on another TTC Bump board, please use good judgment; you probably should stay on IF unless your habits change or the majority of Vets know you (know YOU, not you know THEM). Remember, IFV is not a popularity contest or a Q+A for advanced treatments, it's asupport network for those familiar with the struggles and histories of one another.
I'm a super active poster! Can I just skip the 6 month requirement?
Just because you're an active poster for a month or two, doesn't mean you're going to keep up with the board once the honeymoon ends. A lot of well meaning people come to the board until they've gotten whatever they need from it, and never come back. That's fine and a perfectly valid use of the Infertility board, but not what the Vets board is about. Most of the people that want to break this rule get pregnant shortly thereafter, and really, do we need to explain why that is really terrible of that person?
I don't fit in to the Infertility board. All the names I recognize are on the Veterans board!
Just because you can recognize the names of Vets does not mean that Vets know you. The Infertility board is the best place for Veterans to get to know you and the 6 month active community member definition is to explicitly make it easy for you to know where to post. Remember, all Vets were Newbies at some point too, and it's no walk in the park having a long IF (board) history.
Of course you know who the Veterans are. Vets post often and have a clear understanding of what and how to be supportive on the board. Veterans are involved. If you are intimidated or scared to post, do not welcome new members, offer luck, well wishes, or a shoulder to cry on, then you're not understanding the fundamental aspect of the board: support is a two-way street.
I've taken a long break. All the names I recognize are on the Veterans board!
Your break is not part of "an active history." We all take breaks, and understand that that's a natural part of being on the board. Count your total time actively on the board within the year, and if you've ben posting for 6 months of that, then jump back in. Posting for two months straight and then taking a 4 month break does not count as a 6 month history on the board.
All you Vets are so experienced. I want you to answer my question.
The IF Vets board is not a place for visitors to ask questions from ladies who have been around the block. The IF board will have a broader audience, and Vets post there regularly. If a Vet is having a hard time, the board is a refuge from the stress the IF board can have on them. Please respect that.
I just don't get what's the big deal with being on the board for over 6 months.
Well, when you are part of an Infertility community, and see your fellow Infertile friends move on to getting pregnant, having babies, having more babies. Month after month after month. Your struggle changes. You realize that you're an infertile even among infertiles.
If you don't understand that, or it doesn't effect you like that, then good for you. But for many of us emotionally and physically, it is a critical and distinguishing difference.
Related, RESOLVE article about pregnancy between infertile friends. HERE.
Can I page a Vet?
Of course.
I'm from s/paif. Can I post?
Absolutely. Anyone from any board is encouraged to post supportive messages, but graduates are especially welcome to post new and supportive messages.
I'm from Infertility, can I post support posts on Vets?
BSB: "of course. we come over here too to offer support. We all need all the support we can get."
Please see THIS THREAD
You have too many rules!
This is a community, and all communities have their own rules of conduct. One aspect of IF Vets is to distinguish between those learning the ropes of posting on the Infertility board, and those that understand board etiquette and culture. Vets are fiercely committed to one another because they share a long history of mutual support, and as a result, can and will defend each other and the board.
We're not being mean, the Infertility (IF) board is where the rules are looser and you can post freely and without repercussion of offending someone egregiously. IF is the perfect place for people to get to know you, to share support, and make lasting connections.
I don't like seeing all those pregnancy and child tickers, or photos of children.
Our friendships to one another surpass any of these things. We'd rather receive a kind word or sage advice from a friendly face rather than pass on it because of a signature graphic. If you are bothered by them, the IF board may better suit your needs, as the practice of inviting s/paif responses continue there.
Don't let the door hit you in the yin yang.
Baby boy Henry born 2015.
Expecting our capstone baby (boy) early March 2018.
Run along now.
TTC since March/April 2010
DX: MFI - less than 1 million sperm, 26% motility
DH put on anastrozole to increase counts
June/July 2011 100 mg Clomid + TS IUI#1 & IUI 2 - BFN :-(
Forced break due to DH getting spinal surgery in August 2011
IVF - January 2012: BFN
FET in April 2012 - BFP at 6dp5dt! Beta #1 at 9dp5dt: 82.5, Beta #2 at 12dp5dt: 352 Beta #3 at 19dp5dt: 6000, saw heartbeat and one little bean at 5W6D!
After nearly 3 years of waiting our LO was born December 18th 2012!
You've got 3 posts to your name and your profile says you joined on 06/13/2012 but you've been on this board since it was created??? Do you have a time machine?
If you're struggling with IF, why don't you post on the IF board like a normal person and share your infinite IF wisdom with some of the ladies struggling there? Or are you the type who just likes to glean information off of others without the burden of having to provide support?
If you don't like this board, then take a hike.
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012
As I stated earlier, I lurk because of all of the bullying on this board. The only reason I decided to post last night was because I felt bad for the original poster who was obviously nervous about her er today and was told basically to f off! Kind of like your cute little photo is telling me.
If you must know, I have been trying to conceive since right after my wedding in 2005. I have been through 6 iui's, 3 with injectables, 5 fresh ivf cycles, 3 frozen, 4 miscarriages (one where my blood pressure went down to the 70's), etc. I am now in the two week wait of a fresh cycle with pgd.
It really baffles me that grown women can behave like this. Congrats on your twins and I hope you instill better morals and manners in them than you are displaying here. Once again I will post, lurk or "glean" wherever I would like. If you all don't like it, get a "private" membership required, cool girls only board! Lol!
Oh, so you're just an AE who created this profile to bash the IFV board - got it. How mature of you.
We just don't understand what your issue is with this board...it's for long time posters on IF - that's it. There are no membership dues, you don't have to pass an exam, there are no hazing rituals, we're not going to not respond to your posts if we don't like the outfit you happen to be wearing that day. The OP posted a week or two ago and Edwina kindly redirected her to the IF board. When she posted again, Edwina simply reminded her of the protocol of the board (FYI - we're not the only board with "rules" for posters).
I knew you were going to "go there" too about me educating my children. Could've put money on that one...thanks for the tip. Please don't worry about my twins - they'll receive plenty of education on how to empathize with and support others and also about proper etiquette wherever it applies.
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012
Lady, let's not get into a pissing contest. This board is truly for those who have a long history on the IF board, not IF in general. And "wishing a short stay here" is like saying "Bless your heart" to the cute little pregnant high school girl down the block that you would like to punch in the face.
Obviously there are a ton of requirements to be on this board! I'm glad you were able to see that I was going to mention your maturity level so that must mean you understand, even if it's just a little, that your behavior as a 32 year old soon to be mother of two is inappropriate. I am not here to bash IFV, I was merely defending the original poster who has been told to move on twice. I understand that there is proper protocol for a board. If she came here and was posting about something completely unrelated to infertility or bragging about a pregnancy, I would understand. This is an infertility board and she was discussing an egg retrieval!
This is no alter ego like I said before I just haven't posted and this is exactly why! Last night I happened to stop by the board and was a little disappointed in the way we respond to each other as women and decided to post. It's probably the hormones! Lol! I was raised to treat people the way I want to be be treated and this includes strangers. I don't need to know someone's reproductive background in order to give them a measly congrats or I hope things go well for them! I believe this is called common courtesy. I am sorry that you were taught to only to be nice to your "crew" or the people that have given you there reproductive resume after which you decide if they are worthy.
There is no reason to continue going back and forth, let's agree to disagree. You can not run me off and I can't make you understand that your behavior is inappropriate. Good luck with your twins! I understand that infertility is long and hard road that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy!
So, what you're saying, it's okay to yell at strangers because you'd like strangers to yell at you, and you're totally so excited to give people congratulations or wish them luck except that you have never done so. Outloud, that is. Hmmmmm....
With friends like you who needs friends?
I heart my girls here and I hope you continue to find us all so entertaining and annoying in your non-interactive way. Sorry to Freeman for hijacking your post.
Disagreeing with someone's approach does not equate yelling at them. Feel free to disagree but I believe I said what I had to say in a very constructive manner. I have many of times congratulated people without knowing them just not on this board and it's for obvious reasons. I have been through quite a few egg retrievals and I know how scary, painful, invasive and all the different emotions that go along with them. I felt bad that Freeman was told to take a hike the day before her big day. You may feel like I spoke up at the wrong time but those are your feelings.
Come on girls this isn't a pissing match. It's funny whenever I see stories on the news about kids committing suicide, I always think of what someone could of possibly said or done to them to make them go that far. I use to think those people were just being sensitive or had other issues going on which could well be the case. Reading these boards and not just IFV and the Bump, I can see where people are pushed pass there limits at the wrong time. You have no idea what a person is going through mentally and how your words can effect them. If us as adults don't know any better, how can we expect the kids to behave appropriately. The gang attacks on a single poster because you don't want them here or don't like what they have to see is very juvenile.
I will get my off my soap box now. This is something I have felt for a while and knew it was a waste of energy to say. I'm sure my words mean nothing to you guys because you seem more interested in proving that this is "your" board and you have the right to kick any and everyone off that you please! Good luck with that!
I am glad that you heart your girls here and I will continue to be entertained and annoyed in my non-interactive way! Lol!
Actually, this is not an infertility board. There is a specific infertility board for that specific purpose; there is also a clear description at the top of this point, pointing posters who need IF guidance in the right directions. Many of us while on this board, and going through treatments still regularly post on the IF board to share guidance and support those in the early stages of their journeys.
This is a separate board for those who have been on the IF for awhile. I joined this board after about 8 months on IF and was welcomed here with open arms. I have now been a part of this board for about the same amount of time, and have never once witnessed any bullying on this board. New posters are sometimes gently pointed to IF board with their IF questions, as this is not the place for them.
OP, I wish you luck with your ER, and yes the IF board is an amazing board to get suport when you are just beginning to post on the bump and you need IF support!
IVF #1-July 2011 7/9/11-Started Stims
7/20/11-ER:No eggs in 4/5 follicles. Left the 5th follie intact and converted to an IUI
8/3/11-Beta #1=BFN,
Nov, 2011 BFP #1=m/c at 7 wks 3 days
11/11-AMH .47, IVF #2 March 2012...or not!! Surprise BFP on 2/19. Beta #1=161. Beta #2 305 Our little miracle girl is on her way! Due Oct 29, 2012
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This was already stated by me earlier and yet you keep posting, "on your soapbox", nagging us about our board. Seriously.....
STOP IT!!!!! WHAT THE HELL?
I thought these boards were put here for moral support for each other. I have no one else that I know going thru this. My hubby tries to be supportive, but he doesn't understand. You all understand. I read other posts alot, I just don't respond a whole lot. I came here for support from others who know what I'm going thru. If this is what happens ~ then you all should be ashamed of yourselves. I'm sorry I don't read the rules for each board before I post on them. This breaks my heart a little. This is the one place in the world I can go to where I won't here "Just stop trying & it will happen" or "You're young yet, don't worry about it" or my absolute favorite "Why don't you just adopt?" Please don't be so mean to the ladies that come here for a little support. This is all some of us have
that is why Edwina directed you to the infertility board from the beginning.
3 failed IVF with OE and 2 failed frozen DE cycles
Last fresh hail mary DE cycle starting Feb 2013
PAIF/SAIF always welcome