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GOOD sibling adjustment stories?? (4 yr old)

NicoleWINicoleWI member
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I just read the "adjustment horror stories" below and am freaked out. We'll have baby #3 when DS is 2 and DD is almost four. Any four year olds NOT have a horrible reaction to the new baby?? Eek! Things actually went pretty well when DD was almost 2 and we introduced her new little brother. I was really hoping for the same again!
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Re: GOOD sibling adjustment stories?? (4 yr old)

  • mego1111mego1111
    We've had it pretty easy.  DS (who is 4) loved his sister from the first day.  He is a little too aggressive sometimes when he wants to hug her, but it's usually not too bad.  In fact, since DD was born he's become more independent and tries to do more on his own.  I think it will help having two older kids in your situation.  They can play with eachother while you're tending to the baby.  That's probably the only real "problem" we have...DS getting bored playing by himself.
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  • melisa7901melisa7901
    Our older DD is almost 3.5 and our LO is just a week and a half old.  So far our older one has been great. She absolutely loves to help and just wants to be included so that's what we do.  She does things like pick out her sister's diapers, outfits, burp clothes, bibs, etc. which she loves doing.  She reads to her little sister as well.  I wasn't really sure how it would go since DD has been an only child for over 3 years but so far the adjustment has gone well!
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  • rsd12rsd12 member
    My oldest is 3.5 yrs older than the yongest brother and has always been incredible with him and still is - he is definitely the helper and loves being the big brother! It is our 2nd son that we have had more struggles with ; ) They are 21 months apart and he gets a little more jealous, but nothing too insane... just a bit rough with him. At the same time he loves playing with him too... he got upset one time because the youngest did not go with him!
    Boy 1 2/06 - Boy 2 12/07 - Boy 3 9/09
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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin

    DD's reaction wasn't horrible, but not as good as I'd expected.  She was the most excited about the baby from the beginning, but she started to become afraid that the baby would take me away from her about 2 mos before he was born.  Then he was born and she was a little upset that she had a brother, not a sister.  She was mad at DS1 b/c she was afraid he wouldn't play with her anymore.  But, she got over it w/in a couple days.  She really just needed to see that everything would be ok and she has been ok.  She wouldn't say DS2's name for a good month, though.  All in all, she's been great.  No major outbursts or anything like that, just some funny, quirky reactions that I didn't expect. 

    I do have to say, though, that my kids do not like to be home with the baby all day.  On the days that the baby is having a rough day, they have no plans and DH isn't around to take the baby or take the kids, we have issues.  So, keep the big kids busy and out of the house for part of the day the first 2 or so months. 

    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
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  • MamaKctMamaKct member

    I had 2 boys that were 2 and 4 when DD was born.  They were both awesome with her when she came home.  The 4 year old was super helpful but just asked a LOT of questions, mostly about breastfeeding, which was kind of funny when he was so shocked I "make milk like a cow" he told all his friends at school about it! 

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  • capuletcapulet member
    DD has been wonderful with her little brother.  I sometimes have to remind her to be gentle with him because her exuberance can be a little much for someone half her size, but she is not malicious and she's shown very little jealousy.
    DD born 10/10/07 * DS born 11/25/11 * #3 due 3/9/2015
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  • brewcitybridebrewcitybride

    DD was 3 when her brother was born. It was a rough 6 weeks, but since then she has been just wonderful. Very loving and happy, she calls him "my baby". She loves to play with him and help put him down for naps, and feed him. She runs and gets me diapers and bottles from the fridge.

    Really, I wouldn't freak out. What's the point? You won't know how your children will react until the new baby is here!

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  • hokies94hokies94 member
    DD #2 was 4 1/2 when DS was born and we had no problems.  She loved her little brother and we never had any issues.  She would even help out (getting diapers,bottles) every once in a while.  She was very excited to meet him and did great with him once he was here.  
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